I have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and he still doesn't "want" to "do" anything with me(if you know what I mean). It's hard going to school with a bunch of great guys who are READY to "do" stuff, but I really love my boyfriend and want to share that experience(s) with him. I just dont know how long it's going to take, come on it's been over a YEAR and we've known eachother longer than that. What should I do? Please, serious answers(and try not to be rude).
2006-08-20 12:36:36 · 24 answers · asked by sarah_n_rj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please don't rush it! If you have true feelings for this guy and he has the same feelings for you, you guys have something far far greater than sex. If you rush him and push him away by doing so and get with one of these guys ready to "do it" you'll truly regret it!! Take your time, and when it happens you'll be glad you waited and probably wonder why you were in such a rush afterwords! Respect your bf for treating you like a respectable young lady and waiting. :-)
2006-08-20 12:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Cutie_Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you may be in love with the concept of "doing" it with this guy. If things do not progress logically (and I mean if you're young I'm not talking going all the way unless you're both mature enough to go for it), I'd say it's waaaaaay too long to wait for him.
I guess the 3rd date rule no longer holds anymore as I always said if either party has not made any moves by then, it's probably not happening.
2006-08-20 19:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect his wishes. When he is ready, he will let you know. Even with boys some of them just want to wait until they are mature or married. There is nothing wrong with that.
You do need to take a look at yourself and slow down.
2006-08-20 19:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect his wishes. If he cares about you, and doesnt want to do it with you respect that, you said you love him. Other guys shouldnt eve n be on your mind, and if you're thinking about doing it with other guys, then maybe you subconsciously don't want to be in the relationship. Itt sounds to me like ur not really ready though, seeing as you just want to do it. Trying calming down, and have a heart to hear t with your bf. Bets of luck.
2006-08-20 20:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by theonewhoguides 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well going out for 1 year still doesn't give you the right to think u can have sex right now the right time is having sex is when u'r married and not before that cause you will never know if its lust or love he feels for u and sex just makes the relationship boring so why dont u make it exciting let him wait for it u'll see that when it does happen it will be a unforgetable night for the both of you'll...
dont rush u have ur whole life ahead of u ...
2006-08-20 19:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to give him time like he would give you time. respect the fact that he is not ready to have sex with you.if you want it that bad, tell him how you feel about it.dont hold back.you are his girl and he is your man and he needs to know what your feeling because if u dont tell him, then things will never work out and then you wilk never have that experience give him time. about another week, if it still doesnt work out then sit him down and talk he may not be comfortable with it yet because you guys were friends before
2006-08-20 19:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, interesting that all you seem to care about is "gettin' some". Don't you think having a boyfriend you love counts for anything? Seriously here....you aren't "ready" for the hard stuff either, whether you realize it or not.
2006-08-20 19:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's not ready then you need to respect that. If you don't want to wait then I suggest you find a new BF
2006-08-20 19:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well talk 2 him about it and tell him how u feel if he say he doesnt want 2 ask him y then c were it goes from there
2006-08-20 19:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Reesie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him like you say u do u will wait until he is ready just b/c u ready don't mean he is sweetie and it sounds like to me that, that's all u want ur bf for is to have sex wit him
2006-08-20 19:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋