ok... to make a long story short ive only been friends with this one girl but she moved away across the country a year ago. as soon as she moved we got more serious i guess.. we'd definatly be going out u could say. i talk to her every nite but theres one thing that bugs me... she messes around w her guy friends..like makenout n sex! she promsed me twice she wouldnt and broke both promises...i really love her and we both want to be together someday but it hurts thinking about her doing this. she has always been honest bout everything else shes too honest sometimes but i want to know if when were together i can trust her bout this stuff. am i just overreating??? i love her with all my heart andd could never leave her i just dont know what to do
2006-08-20 11:51:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um...i just have to say that you do NOT deserve this treatment. although you may love her..and i am not doubting that. she does not love you. that much is very clear to me. she would not be breaking your heart and doing what she pleased if she had any care for you at all. you need to leave her. yes, i know this will hurt "like hell"...but you will find someone who will love you and you will be the ONLY guy she ever wants to be with.
2006-08-20 11:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could never leave her? What are you talking about?
She lives across country, she's sleeping with other guys...what makes you think you two have anything? I tell you what SHE has in you...a girlfriend. In your situation, you are a confidant, and that's about it. She may even be wondering what it will take for you to move on with your life.
Get some gumption, man. Whatever pain or hesitation you have in asking girls out, forget them...in fact, the best thing you could do is start asking girls out and get rejected, so you'd see it's not the end of the world. I can't think of any other reason you'd wait for a girl to move thousands of miles away to start striking up a relationship.
If you can't let your feelings go for this girl, just say goodbye and tell her have a nice life. Then find some girls who actually live in your town and go out with them. In fact, pick someone you're not all that interested in, but you think would be at least some fun company. That way, you're not putting any pressure on yourself to be or act a certain way. Just relax, have a good time, and let a more advanced relationship come to you, don't go seeking it out..girls can sniff that action out like the plague, and it's about as desirable to them.
2006-08-20 19:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she says she loves you and is basically cheating on you (becuase even in a long distance realtionship its not right) then break it off, you might want to end up with her in the end, and if she really wants to be with you, she'll be back. Right now to me it seems that she is "playing with your heart" tell her that you love her, and you do really want to be with her, but since she still messes around with other guys having sex and making out, then it seems she doesn't respect the relationship, or the promises that she made, therefore you think you should take a break, and if she feels like she can stop messing around with other guys (because its prob her wanting physical contact) then tell you, and you can get back together, but if thats not the case then it should be over for good.... Long distance relationships never work out unless, each of the people in the relationship are willing to be away from each other for extended periods of time, and still be true to one another. She is eventually going to find out that she doesnt love you if she keeps going like this, so, lay down some rules, she might find that she is madly in love with you, and only wants you, no other guy... but she might just not love you at all... its better to end it sooner than later, in that case, that way you can move on with your life, and find some other girl who really loves you... REMEMBER... all of this is just so you dont get hurt too badly where you cant recover. but be prepared that she MIGHT not come back to you, and in that case, you really werent ment to be.... im interested as to what happends, please keep me informed....
2006-08-20 19:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by lisa_r_redwine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but if she really felt the same way about you , she would never cheat or go out with the other guys and then come back and tell you about it. That is not right. She must look at you as just a friend, and don't know how to tell you other wise... my advice would be to just let her go before you really get hurt by her. Good Luck to you
2006-08-20 18:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's too hard to have a long distance relationship...you should just be friends for now....and maybe later on, if you ever live any closer, you can hook up again...but f*** her sleeping around! It's hurting you. She's wrong to do that... besides, why do you want a chic who sleeps around. Have some self-respect and go after a decent girl a little closer to home.
2006-08-20 18:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Smiles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, bud. you might not like the answer very much but forget it. relationships mean understanding and honesty. may be she is being honest to you - telling you everything but man - she is having sex with others. what makes you think that she won't do it laters.
that means she is run by her need to have sex and has no control over it. why would you want somebody like that? it also gives a brief introduction to her nature - she is totally unreliable. may be she does not have control over it but hey, why are you punishing yourself.
these might sound very harsh words but find somebody else.
it happens when you fall in love with somebody like that - you can see everything, you can think about everything but you don't want to believe yourself.
love is blind.
2006-08-20 19:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her like you say you do you will forgive her and wait for her. so to answer your question all you can do is wait and ask her not to see her guy friends and if she continues then you will have to find someone else sorry. But don't give up on her but to tell you the truth i would say you love her but I'm not sure if she loves you in the same manor, because if she did she wouldn't do these things. that's my honest answer
2006-08-20 19:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by dalmation60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this, but these long distance things just dont work. its too hard for people to live one place and keep love alive in another. if you cant move to be together again, i'd say you should start thinking about moving on and letting her go. will hurt for awhile, but the constant torture of long distance romance.
2006-08-20 18:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by Eos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's messing around, just what type of goodies do you think she's going to pass on to you when you do get together again. I would seriously forget her and find a decent gal.
2006-08-20 19:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by AL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are You? You sound like this is Your first crush. if she's doing things with other guys, she's not that intersted in You, and will break your heart, as if she hasn't done that all ready. Leave her. get on with Your life.
2006-08-20 19:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Catnipgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋