how hard is that?
its depressing not to have one.
2006-08-20 11:38:43 · 16 answers · asked by biiaaa123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you know what you are asking? What you are saying is that you want a relationship which will move in the direction of a permanent, exclusive relationship. Are you ready for that?
See, being more than friends means moving in the direction of a sexual relationship. And if you do that, you create a relationship so close it cannot be broken without serious damage. Heartbreak, or if not that, then destruction of your ability to love and give yourself to another person.
Far better, therefore, to fix things so that you 1) really put each other first, and 2) take full responsibility for your lives and make a permanent commitment in front of other people so you are accountable.
This will mean putting him above your parents, and being independent of them. You and your partner must take sole (joint) responsibility for your decisions and actions - no running home to Mommy and Daddy when things go bad.
If you do all this, then you spare yourself much temptation and trouble, because you have chosen to focus on doing what needs to be done to make a good and lasting relationship. And you show respect for the God Who wants to be present in that relationship and join you together as one.
In other words, it makes sense to have a non-platonic relationship only when you are 100% sure that you want to eventually be bound together in a permanent relationship - in other words, when you are at very least engaged to be married.
In the meantime, you can spend time with guys, perhaps at first in groups (of odd numbers of people so you don't get the pressure of the 'Noah's Ark' effect - you know, the animals walking into the Ark two by two...). You know, getting together over lunch, going out for dinner after work, renting a boat and going sailing together on the weekend, picnicking, etc.
And maybe if you get to a point with someone where you feel the need to talk about things that are not 'for public consumption', then you could arrange to spend time together in some place conducive to conversation - but rather not more than that, so as to avoid unnecessary pressure and temptation.
And in that context, something might well click, then you could make plans for a common future. But in the meantime, it is very important for you to have a good life by yourself. That way you have something good to give to someone else. Let me tell you something from personal experience (I'm 42 and single): it's really beautiful to be able to love everyone pretty much the same.
I wish you all the best - may God bless you!
2006-08-20 12:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are depressed. Ignore the rest of the people because you are just expressing your true feelings. You just want a boyfriend, huh? I do not see how that is a question. How hard is that? It is not hard, but do not force it. Wait for the timing to be right, and the guy to be right as well. Until then, it will only hurt you in the long run. If both are right, you have found your boyfriend. Then work like crazy to win his affections. He will notice you ask you out, and before long you two will be a couple! Not so hard, huh?
2006-08-20 11:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tall me where you live. I'm free now.
I know is depressing to be alone but has some privileges too - nobody is mam-ling, complying or unhappy.
Probably you can get a lot of man but try first to find friends.
Good lack.
2006-08-20 11:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes maybe, but you are so concerned about getting a boyfriend that you are delusioned to where you don't care what he is like or what you are like for that matter. Just be yourself and when you'll meet the right boy everything will click, do it right, don't half azz it.
2006-08-20 11:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by staylowsaylo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had way to many and its not all that great i agree wit the first gurl its better not 2 have one they're just trouble!
2006-08-20 11:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not tough to not to have a bf or gf(a companion in other words) tough is to see everybody having that but me. but the desire must not make you compromise with the situation.
by the way am single and looking too. whass your chat id, if you do not mind giving it out?
2006-08-20 11:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should find someone who just wants to have a girlfriend
2006-08-20 11:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by Duke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not amust to have one ..and you have to know that it's not so good ,i am a boy and telling you that boyfriends will not give you things u wish to have u may find someone to love better,trust me.
2006-08-20 11:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a man and tell him your ez and he will be at your door 7 days a weak
2006-08-20 11:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just want a girlfriend.....but of COURSE u dont live in NJ...because that would be way too easy for the both of us lol
2006-08-20 11:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by jimoelfke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋