One week she is nice to me, the next week she is ignoring me. We mostly chat on email, I went to visit her one day at work, we work in the same building and she pretty much ignored me, like I wasn't there. I am nothing but a perfect gentleman around her. She told me long ago she only wanted to be friends and I respect that, I'm don't ask her out or anything.
2006-08-20 11:35:31 · 17 answers · asked by harvey r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmm.. maybe more than meets the eye?
2006-08-20 11:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may have changed her mind, or she might be afraid of leading you on. From what you wrote it is kind of hard to tell, but it seems as though she has had a bad experience in the past with guys that "just want to be friends." Out of all of this all I can say is to ASK HER!!! Assure her that you are/can be a friend if she will just let you. You need to gain her trust. To do this all you can do is tell her she can trust you, don't press the issue though. Things never work out if you force them to. Sorry I couldn't help more.
2006-08-20 18:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by randall w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you just show up out of the blue at her workplace or was it a planned meeting. If she was working she was probably busy and if you just showed up out of the blue, well that's kind of invasive. If it was planned and she ignored you then she was rude and she is no friend.
Sounds like she wants to keep it to an e-mail friendship. Unless she makes concrete plans to meet with you in person I wouldn't pursue it any further.
There are better friends you can spend your time on.
2006-08-20 18:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was going to say just come out and ask her. But its really your choice you know, if you want to claim someone as a friend if they ignore you. I would say not. She is less then that, maybe someone you associate with every now and then.
2006-08-20 18:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by Monie D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think she's really being a friend if she's ignoring you one week and not the other and ignoring you when you around her in public but can talk to you on the net. just doesn't seem right to me.
2006-08-20 18:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jaye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she was trying to be nice with the friends thing but if you seriously are contemplating if someone is a friend i would say probably not. real friendships don't need to be questioned
2006-08-20 18:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by demilitia66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did u offend her in any way? Send her a flower to her dept, leave a message on there to smile, or
Smile a mile
that beams
so that everyone can see!!
signed: SMILE
2006-08-20 18:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do yourself a favor and just stay away from her, don't call, email, or visit her at work. if she has any interest in you as a friend or more, she'll contact you.
2006-08-20 20:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you been coming on to her? are you sure you haven't been sending her mixed signals? if not, then maybe she just doesn't want to be close friends with you. just take it as a sign that you all will just have a casual friendship.
2006-08-20 18:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's probably it. She wants to make sure you know you are only going to be friends and doesn't want to give you any wrong ideas. I wouldn't take it personally.
2006-08-20 18:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by Paul S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no screw that like your ok to talk with on the computer but any other time its not cool i would ot consider hat a freind sorry
2006-08-20 18:42:02 · answer #11 · answered by jennylishus420 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋