All believers (and only believers please) answer this!?

Question

How can I get my husband who says he lost his faith to regain it? We have have a real rough time in our lives for about the past 2 years straight, we ended up loseing our house, our jobs and our car.... Now slowly.... ever so slowly things are trying to look up, and I want us to start going to church to regain ourselves, but my husband wont. He says a real God would never allow all that has happened to us happen.. How can I help his understand the truth????

Answer 1

Unfortunately , you cannot get him to understand it - it is not even your responsibility and the more you push the more he will resist. The flesh rebels against the flesh but the Spirit of God reveals truth and brings understanding.
The best thing you can do right now is be a Godly wife, witness with your actions and pray. Read "The Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. You will get a lot farther strengthening your relationship with God and praying for your husband than by anything else.

Answer 2

remember that God never gives you more than you can handle, and if you pray and ask him to guide and direct you down the right path and help you understand and make the right decisions, then you will. You have to do this and when the time is right, your husband will see and he will open his eyes. You can not stay away from church because he is though. You have to do what is best for you and your relationship with God. Your relationship with God should come first. If you start spending time with God every morning - you will see a difference in your days. If you start going to church with an open heart and receiving blessings, you will see a difference in your week. If you give God 10% of what you make ever week, you will see a difference in your finances. You have to do these things, your husband can't do it for you. When he sees a difference in you and a difference in how you are living your life - He will come back to God. The basis is there, and he does know the truth, the devil is just filling his head, but in the end, God will win, and he will open his eyes. Pray for him and change your life and you will see a difference. I promise!

Answer 3

I'm sorry you've had so many trials. Sometimes God does give us those kinds of trials to strengthen our faith. A real and loving God does allow bad things to happen to His people. He does. He never promised otherwise. It has to do with free will. The gods we create for ourselves ("I believe in a god who wouldn't do...", or "to me, god is...") aren't real. We don't understand, or maybe don't like, what we know of God, so we create a mental image of a god we can like or who isn't hard to get to know. It's a very subtle form of idolatry. These images are nothing more than false gods, and can therefore not deliver anything they seem to promise, since they only exist in one's own mind.

It's hard for us to grasp, but God is not primarily interested in our having a safe, soft, comfortable life while we're here on earth. That isn't His goal. He never said it was. His perspective is an eternal one, after all. Get to know Him as He really is, come to understand Him (as much as a human can,) talk with others who have gotten to know Him well.

If your life is you-centered, not God-centered, you will have problems making God fit into your life. There will always be some reason to turn away from Him and seek comfort elsewhere. If your life is truly God-centered, He comes first. When everything else collapses around you, you still have Him and He sustains you.

If your husband's faith was in some god of his own making (a god who doesn't let anything bad happen to his people) he needs to understand that that's what he was doing. I can't look at a chair and decide I want to call it an ottoman because I need an ottoman. It is what it is, regardless of what I think of it. The same is true of God. He is and always was and always will be exactly Who He really is. When we have a hard time with that, it's not Him there's something wrong with.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh. It's not meant to. I will certainly pray that your husband comes to know and understand God for Who He really is. Please keep praying and searching yourself, too. Try to introduce your husband to Jesus as He's found in the New Testament. Matthew and Luke paint a great picture of Him. Read bits of these with him, if he will. I'll pray.

Answer 4

The best way you can help him understand the truth, for now, is being a model of the faith that has kept you so strong during the turmoil that has passed. You may be his only connection to God until he realizes that everything happen for a good reason, in times of plenty God asks us to share and give, in times of struggle God asks us to learn (but still share and give.). I'm sure you both learned something from your experience but now it is time to rejoice that you were delivered and are wiser because of it. It's kind of like Noah and his family, they all had to endure the storm filled with worry, sadness for all those that were lost in all this, and doubt that they would survive it themselves, but the first thing they did after the storm passed and the waters settled was build an altar to the Lord. Your example of thanksgiving for deliverance will internally force your husband to make a choice: Stay bitter by the lesson that was learned or rejoice in the fact that God led him through those hard times.

Answer 5

First of all you can't force it. The Holy Ghost must work on him. You can pray for him, ask others to pray for him, and go to church yourself. Remind him (but don't nag him) that God only gives us what we can handle, no more. He must have thought that you all could handle the things that have happened to you. And who are we to question God? Ask him to read the scriptures with you. If you have kids or other people living in the same house as you, ask them to join you. Reading the scriptures as a family, out loud, and discussing them can do WONDERS for a family and a marriage. If he is willing to do this, that is wonderful. But if he won't, don't let that stop you from reading the scriptures with your family. I'm single, but I know of many families who set aside one hour a week to just be with each other. They not ony discuss their week and how things went, but also what's happening this week, and have a spiritual message. They close with a family prayer, which also works wonders for the whole family. Even if he doesn't participate, he might actually listen as your family gathers in the living room or around the dinner table to discuss the week. Put forth some effort and be a good example. It might take time, but keep at it. It really does work.
For more ideas Google Family Home Evening.

Answer 6

The real God, did just exactly what happened, for a reason. Why? Look at his faith. Your husbands Faith was in jobs, house, car. God, wants you to prosper. He wants your attention first.

God Desires Your Success

1 Samuel 15:22
God wants you to be successful. This does not mean He has an automatic plan for you to become rich or famous, although either of these may be included in His ultimate design for your life.
God's idea of success begins at the Cross where Jesus died. Success is not measured by what you do in life or what you gain financially. Your love and devotion to Jesus Christ measure your success.
In 1 Samuel 15, we read how Saul decided he would offer a sacrifice that only God's anointed priest was commissioned to offer. Since Samuel was not present, Saul felt justified in his actions and made the sacrifice himself.
This one act of disobedience cost Saul the kingdom. Here is a lesson we need to learn if we are going to be successful. God anoints certain people to do certain things. He has placed leaders in our lives for a reason. If we want to lead, we must first learn to follow.
If you fail to submit to your God-given authority, then success from God's perspective will be difficult to achieve.

A successful person has learned humility to the point that he no longer thinks about whether he has gained it or not.
We are called to do the will of God, but this only can be done at the feet of Christ.

Answer 7

Proverbs 26:2-As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come.

There are reasons that things are happening to ya'll, either ya'll did something,said something, or maybe doing some thing that God does not approve of. But it sounds like your right in your thinking....Your husband doesnt have any wisdom. Remember you dont need to go to church to get saved; church is just a tool to lead you in the right direction. 99.9% of the time problems are of our own doing. And as that scripture above suggest, we may not always know the reason or it might not be clear, but there's always a reason for something happening.

If you cant get your husband in a church, try teaching him yourself,you dont have to be a preach or minister to enlighten people about the wisdom of God

Mark 3:24-26

And if a kingdom be divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand.

And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.

And if Satan rise up against himself, and be divided, he cannot stand, but hath an end.

I would say that it's imperative or important that you or you get someone to lead your husband to Christ; becuase ya'll will continue to have problems until ya'll can come together and agree. My parent for some years were kind like you and your husband, while they both believed in Jesus, they differed on key points of the Bible and that caused arguments,fights, and they came close to divorcing; but thankfully through a nervous break down God humbled my mother and she came around to my dad's point of view and their still together to this day.

Answer 8

As a Muslim, we know that any problem we face has many interpretations, but in the end we still say ''Thank God'' while facing the problem. We have patience and trust that God will help us out. It is a test from God. He is testing you, keep in mind that God is rich; although you have lost almost all your possessions, yet God owns this world and can still give you more than the stuff you have lost.

Muslims also know that when problems pile up and things start to get even worse and worse, this is an indication and a sign that a solution is very near by God's mercy.

Problems make you get closer to God coz you keep on asking Him to help you out. So hold on to your faith.

I will pray for you, and i trust God that He will solve your problem very soon; but please hold on to your faith.

Best of luck

Answer 9

The only thing you can do is to live as an example for your husband. If you continue to love him undonditionally and to represent Christ to him he will come around eventually. If you nag him or act superior in any way it will only tend to give him more fuel. You do not have to be submissive to evil, but circumstance will dictate if you surrender it to our Father. God knows your circumstance and will work on your husband through the Holy Spirit. You may be the only link he has to Christ right now so it is important that you keep yourself prayed up.You have the promise of God that your family will come to Christ. The circumstances will make it almost impossible for him not to reconize God in it, and eventually come back from his backslidden ways. Your husband has taken the path that many do take when things get tough. they blame it on God. It has been a test and that is part of trial by fire. God bless you as you walk the walk, it is not easy when your partner does not care to walk it with you. In reality they are even if they do not care to realize it right now. God is LOVE

Answer 10

You can suggest to him that God does not consider material possessions to be essential in pursuit of his kingdom.

God allows plenty of losses to happen. One can either succumb to God's enemy and believe that it's God's fault, God's punishment, or some other version of anti-God, or one can find what God is hoping that the person will carry out of the situation.

If I "lose" things (and really, I never lose them, I just don't own them anymore), I don't think God is doing anything other than accelerating the loosening of my grasp on them. Because Christ did say that you cannot serve both God and money. Jesus wasn't prone to exaggeration, nor was he prone to lying, ever.

Jesus was a pauper. He owned a robe and some sandals. Everything that he needed to survive was given to him by others, and they gave freely and gladly. Moreover, Christ went without food for 40 days...which cannot feel good. During that time of impoverishment, Christ was tempted by the devil. The devil asked Christ to look at "real" things--cities, empires, food--and enticed him with these things. Christ said no, because those things were utterly useless and meaningless to him without God.

Jesus says that if you first seek the kingdom of God, everything you need will be provided. Everything you *need.* You can point out to your husband that you are both still alive, and therefore everything you need to live has been provided to you. If it hadn't been, you would be dead.

Try to persuade your husband that the "evidence" of this world is of no consequence. That sorrow for losing matter--what amounts to molecules in certain quantities and configurations--is awful when you consider what you're willing to pay in worship of it: your salvation, your eternal soul.

God bless.