my friend has been chatting with a guy for 6 months now,and if she hasnt spoken to him for 2 days,she would sit and cry.The thing is,they havent seen each other ,by photo.And all day long,this guy is on her mind,even though he is miles away.
is she realy in love,or is this fantasy?
2006-08-20 10:42:52 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-20 11:06:56 · update #1
She is only fooling herself, it's just a fantasy. She needs to find a man within a few miles of her own hometown. Love can't be found on a computer. Friendship maybe, Love NOT!
2006-08-20 10:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your friend is in love with a "persona". By merely words, one can portray any message that they want. They can be a hero or a knight in shining armor; however, your friend needs to bear in mind that words are simply just that -- words. Actions speak much louder than words and if she has not so much as even seen a picture of him, then she does not have enough information to make the decision that she is in love. She is in love with the image he is portraying to her which (as well all know) may not even be correct. I know many people that have been let down by online dating because when they finally met the person they had been talking to, they were nothing like they had originally said they were. They lied about age, weight, looks, etc. Whcih was a pretty big let down, as you can imagine. It sounds like your friend is lonely and "looking" for love. Talk some extra effort to call her and be there for her, so she doesn't feel like she has to love something so far away.
2006-08-20 10:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, two people can fall in love chatting online. I know I have. But I do think that your friend should meet the guy in real life in order to know that the romance is not just an online fantasy... You can fall in love online, but it's a whole other thing to have a real relationship than an online one.
2006-08-20 10:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by eufrosyne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say yes, it's possible, cause I'm in the same boat she is! We have sent letters to each other, talked by phone, exchanged photo's and chat online daily. I feel so in love with this Guy, so if I don't hear from him for awhile, I get Very Sad too and have shed some tears. Tell your friend to hang in there and if it's true love-It will work out.
2006-08-20 10:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right now shes in fantasy land. I did meet my current guy online, but we met each other in person after chatting for a couple of weeks. That was almost 2 years ago.....encourage her to meet him in a public place (i went to starbucks). That way she can get on with her life and stop obsessing :)
2006-08-20 10:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by flowwjoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The may become infatuated with each other, but this can hardly be called love. To love someone,you have to be with them and interact with them to get a feel if this is the real thing. You can't do that over the web. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-08-20 10:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's possible. You fall in love with someone for who they are. You can get to know someone very well online. Assuming of course they are telling the truth about themselves. A LOT of people lie on the net so you just have to be careful. Sometimes people fall in love with a lie. But I do know people who have met online and went on to get married.
2006-08-20 10:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine did, with a guy from England, then she flew to meet him, unannounced, but when she called him from the train station, he was too nervous to meet her, partly because he had been sending her pics of him, but it wasn't his pic, it was his roommates who was better looking, so she flew back here. Then he flew over here for a visit after telling her how he really looked, and it didn't matter because they are both pretty big and nice but not model types. Then I saw them married at the beach in Florida a few months later, and now together, they own a pub in England.
2006-08-20 10:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 08:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be either. it's hard to say with online relationships since people can pretend to be something they're not. Also, she's never been "with" him, so they may not even be comfortable together. I have to say that I met someone online. we became close friends...more than friends. He lives very far from me and we only see each other every few months, but we hope that eventually we can be together. I'd give her some space. It might be real, it might not, but she obviously needs to go through this.
2006-08-20 10:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by when's my next vacation??? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋