About a year and a half ago i split up with my first love...or should i say he split up with me. I was heartbroken, although i knew it was coming and that it was the right time for it anyway. I had the feeling that he had never loved me the way i loved him, and he wasn't the best boyfriend. After the split, we vowed to remain friends, but instead we spent months fighting. Eventually we became friends, until we were like best friends again. After this we both asked out and rejected eachother, until i felt the love complications ended after months and months, we becamse just good friends. Since this time, i've found a new boyfriend, who loves me, but i cant say i feel the exact same way, especially because another guy complicated things but it's working out ok. But recently I've been having feelings for my ex again and we're really close. We've even been discussing old times and he says he sometimes misses me but doubts i miss him. Why do i feel this way all of a sudden?
2006-08-20 10:22:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every thing you like isn't good for you. You said he was your first love. You will never forget him. the problem is you'll remember the good things.
Love doesn't have to hurt , resist him as you would a second piece of cake. It is no good for you.
2006-08-20 10:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, you need to really look at the reasons you and your ex split up in the first place. What did you spend all that time fighting over.? Be truthful with yourself what were all the downsides the wys that it would not work.
Maybe.......thinking that if he knows about the new boyfriend he is playing mind games with you. He does not necessarily want you but at the same time he does not want anyone else to have you. He has got usedto having you around in one form or another.....to be brutal now he has been able to date others and know he still has you in the sidelines.
Sometimes the only way to end a relationship you know won't work is to cease contact,,,,the friends thing is difficult to handle. Might work sometimes but if the feelings have been strong and deep there is probably going to be a difficulty.......
Just really think through everything...write it all down if it helps but most of all be totally honest with yourself.
2006-08-20 10:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some known couples lives together till age by small little arguements. Without arguements, their lifes seems empty. You may be one of this type. You may still lives well with your ex. seens through so many arguements he knows you better by now But if you choose to lead a quiet life, then choose the second one.
2006-08-20 10:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you miss the familiarity of the realationship. also the grass is always greener.....you only see the good in your ex not how he was when he was with you or how he hurt you. i suggest you work out stuff with your current bf and see if it's what you want and if you do leave him leave him for your own reasons not because you may or may not get back with the ex.
you can still be friends with the ex just realize that he may only want what he wants and may not be able to give you what you need emotionally.
good luck.
2006-08-20 10:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by risarae2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 11:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wound is not healed yet , iv've been thier but i chose not to be her friend again cause she'll always reverse the good times i spent with her , so it's better fot you both to give yoursleves a chance away from eachother to discover new feelings with new or existing people , give your man a chance away from your ex cause as long as you see him , you'll feel the same way you feel now
2006-08-20 10:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by spikydaisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE STILL CLINGING TIGHTLY TO THE BAGGAGE FROM THAT RELATIONSHIP. IT WILL CONTAMINATE ALL FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS IF YOU DO NOT DROP IT OFF...
YOU ALSO HAVE THE MISGUIDED NOTION THAT YOUR EX WILL SOMEDAY BE A PERFECT FIT. WHY DO YOU BUY SHOES THAT IN YOUR CORRECT SIZE? WHY DON'T YOU BUY THEM 3 SIZES TOO SMALL AND SIT AROUND, HOPING THEY WILL MAGICALLY FIT YOU SOME DAY? DUH. THAT WOULD BE STUPID. WELL, SO IT YOUR UNFINISHED BUSINESS WITH YOUR EX.....
MOVE ON. MASTER A SKILL OR TALENT. BUILD YOURSELF UP WITH ACCOMPLISHMENTS. YOU WILL GAIN SELF ESTEEM. AND WHEN YOU HAVE THAT, YOU WILL BE MORE EXPERIENCED AND MORE ABLE TO SPOT THOSE WHO WANT TO GIVE TO YOU AND THOSE WHO WISH TO TAKE FROM YOU.
YOU ARE GETTING SOME KIND OF PAYOFF FROM STRINGING THE NEW GUY ALONG AND CONTINUING BUSINESS WITH YOUR EX. AND YOU ARE GETTING SOME KIND OF PAYOFF FROM YOU EX, AS WELL. WHAT ARE THEY?
2006-08-20 10:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how come women think they can play with peoples emotions, you get yourself a guy who loves you, but now you are confused if you love this guy or your ex, and lets keep the situation that you realise that you love your ex more and get back to him, you would still be hurting this guy who loves you, and for what reason are you doing it? just because you broke up with a guy years back and now you realize that you love him more,you decided to ditch this guy who loves you, anyways do as you please and what your heart tells you..goodluck
2006-08-20 10:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...its kind of hard to forget about your first love especially when you're finding new love... i know, i feel the same way... i could use some help too
2006-08-20 10:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shud just break it off with the new guy and get back with ur ex
2006-08-20 10:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by ~ Helin ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋