My friend broke up with her fiancee, whom she`d been dating for 3 years and he is asking for her ring??? Do you think this is pathetic or this is a right thing to do?
2006-08-20 10:12:34 · 15 answers · asked by Fromthefirstsight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to say this ring is $ 30 000
2006-08-20 10:23:51 · update #1
it's a little pathetic for him to ask, but she should have offered it back. it was given as a symbol of their commitment. if she wasn't committed, she shouldn't have taken it in the first place.
2006-08-20 10:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has some shame, she needs to give it back to him, why keep something that is no longer yours? The ring was given as a symbol of love and commitment, if this is no longer present, why keep something that first of all is very expensive and then it's going to remind you of something that couldn't be, that perhaps would've been and walk around with this spiritually speaking, the other thing is if I was in her shoes, if I kept the ring I'd feel low and like a cheap woman, why? Because I kept something that simply doesn't belong to me in the heart, there wouldn't be room for me to keep it anywhere in my house, if this person really meant something to me, it's bad enough dealing with the pain of a break up under her circumstances, let alone keeping the ring
I'd feel low, period! Why do people have to always look at things from a material stand point? For those that are saying to sell the ring and that he'll give it to the next girl, (I think it's so cheesy) that is none of her business any longer, if they are moving on, selling the ring and getting the money just shows how much you are worth!!
By the way, regardless of who called off the engagement, if you had some diginity, you'd simply give it back, a man shouldn't have to ask for it back, period, why because then this shows you are a real woman, a real woman doesn't sell her dignity ever!!
2006-08-20 10:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be in poor taste, but the only problem with this ring is that she will probably no longer wear it. Also, if the break-up was nasty, the ring will only be a constant reminder of him. Of course, the decision to return the ring is hers and hers alone, but to end the relationship with no hard feelings, and move on with her life, the best thing for her to do is to return the ring.
2006-08-20 10:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she broke up with him - she must give back the ring. If he dumped her - then it is her ring to keep.
This is common sense - really. Basic rules of etiquette apply. Besides, why would she want to keep a ring from a relationship that has ended badly - and I say badly because if the relationship wasn't bad, it wouldn't have ended.
2006-08-20 10:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by Heather L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she should have offered to give the ring back. It's supposed to be a sign of their love and commitment to eachother. And since clearly they are no longer together... Why would she want to keep the ring anyways?
2006-08-20 10:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by c_dawg_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it depends on the state that you live in, but she might be legally required to give it back! Accepting it is like a contractual promise and if you break up (not fulfill the contract by not getting married) she may HAVE to give it back or he could sue her for it. Again, it depends on the state and it would be best for her to research the law where she lives, but it might just be a good idea to give it back.
Besides, why would she want to keep it after they've broken up anyway?
2006-08-20 10:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the girl breaks the engagement she returns the ring, if the guy breaks the engagement she does not have to return unless she wants to.
2006-08-20 10:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she did the breaking, she returns the ring. If he did the breaking, she keeps the ring. This is the proper etiquette that I was taught.
2006-08-20 10:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by Redrum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES - she's not marrying him so why on earth would she keep the ring??
I think he is doing the right thing by asking for it back, for sure.
2006-08-20 10:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Cina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She broke up with him - she should return the ring.
2006-08-20 10:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋