met a great guy on hols, we both 40ish so not babies. we got on really well, had great conversation, good wine, many laughs, lots in common. He showed loads of interest even got a bit physical, but then backs off telling me he feels guilty because he respects me. I got mixed messages he likes me but not that much...we spent all nights together till 7 in the morning. on the last day he refused to give me his e-mail or phone number??? ok i get it he dont want to know! but what i dont get is why play this game with my head? when i said goodbye and tried to kiss him he told me to not touch him or try to kiss him....although previously we did. we didnt have any problems apart from he earns a lot of money and i dont. sorry for going on but can that be the reason for him telling me our lives are too different to form a relationship? i'm so demoralised!!
2006-08-20 10:10:12 · 18 answers · asked by maggie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think maybe he had several unsuccessful relationships before.... he's scared of getting close to anyone again, but he really likes you... he doesn't mean to send out mixed signals, but that's what's goin on in his head right now.... just let him know that you really care for him and maybe he'll loosen up a little
2006-08-20 10:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by jessesangul987 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure he hasn't got a wife? This all sounds a bit dodgy. Like he wanted a holiday fling, but now he's gota go back home to the wife and kids, back to reality. He might have felt too guilty to kiss you goodbye. It seems like he's making up an excuse just to push you away. And are you SURE that he does earn a lot of money, he might of just said that to you to impress you, that might be another reason why he doesn't want to continue the relationship, because you'll find out he's Mr Average. Not Mr Exciting Holiday Romance.
My opinion, forget about him. Find someone closer to home, so you can actually make sure that he's the real deal. It's too easy to lie to someone you meet on holiday.
2006-08-20 10:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Yasmin H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 08:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG what a complete idiot! don't take it to heart hon, this was nothing to do with you and all to do with him, he was obviously using you but did it in such a way, you weren't to know, don't feel bad, you would think a man in his 40's would have a bit more about him than to treat a woman this way, he is a jerk and it's better that you found out so early on. some people think they are better than us just cos they have money, I'll tell you now, they aren't. don't let this man make you feel demoralised, you put your heart out there, unfortunately the wrong man found it. you will meet someone worthy of your love soon, i am sure. good luck sweetie. x
2006-08-20 10:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Summer Rain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it has anything to do with money. He only wanted your
good company and nothing else. He certainly, either is married, or
is committed. Perhaps has children. But none of this excuses him
from not being open with you and telling of his committed status.
Forget him and get on with your life. He will never bring any good
into your life unless he opens up, justifies his acts convincingly and,
even so, it would be best to keep clear of this man. Once fooled
twice would be folly. I wish you the best of luck in any event.
2006-08-20 10:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had some fun and then decided that he didn't want to carry on seeing you, for whatever his reasons were (which could be anything). Unfortunately, 'he's just not that into you.' Which is his loss. I wish you luck in finding a decent man who doesn't have the immaturity that this one displayed - refusing to kiss you goodbye or hug you is just childish, in light of what you have written.
2006-08-20 10:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with jump there.
The whole situation sounds a bit funny. Why'd you meet at your place and not his?
Does he do the same things in private that he'd do in public with you?
If a man won't take you out to a restrauant and kiss you in public and doesnt introduce you to his friends there is something odd about this.
And why were you gonna sleep with him when you just met him?
Maybe i'm just different from most women. But don't you wanna know that you can stand being in a room together first?
I dont think money has anything to do with this situation at all.
2006-08-20 10:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by warm_champaign 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably doesn't like the fact that you are the same age as him. You intimidate him. He wants to keep you as a booty call though. Most women in their 40's that are still single have an edge to them that says "I need to find someone before my time runs out!" I don't know if that is you or not.
2006-08-20 10:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by want it bad 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Holiday fling
Soorry the guy is not worth it, you seem like a nice enough person, Money has nothing to do with it just as long as you are not a golddigger !!!!
Good luck
2006-08-20 10:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ross B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first he is a BIG L, 2nd i think he is married so no number Will be given 3rd he had a problem with his wife and he was searching for fun and just fun, am sorry maybe my answer didn't help that much, but i think so.
2006-08-20 10:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by CowGilr Kassie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋