i haven't gone out with someone for a year and a half and its driving me crazy. i don't tell people that because if i did, all they would think is "he's desperate, he'd go out with anyone". but i must be missing something or i dont know. advice is all i ask for. and if you have read any of my previous questions and have found them rude or disgrading, im sorry.
2006-08-20 09:54:55 · 21 answers · asked by catlover309 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I havn't had a boyfriend in 3 years
2006-08-20 09:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that right there is your problem. If you are rude or degrading most women can see that. Therefore, won't date you. I suggest you be yourself in almost any situation. But if you're a rotten person on the inside its gonna shine through.
It takes a lotta guts to apologize in a public forum so at least you have that working in your favor. That you can apologize when you may or may not have messed up.
A lot of people don't date all of the time. Even if they can.
So this doesnt make you strange or weird. More then likely the women on here will be impressed.
I, myself don't date all of the time. Theres just so much else taking up my time. Doesn't mean i'm cold or whatever. I'm just looking for someone with substance to them.
In the meantime I work, go out with my friends and curl up with a good book. I'm 24 and not in any real huge rush to find someone.
2006-08-20 17:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by warm_champaign 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading a few of your questions you seem to be kind of degrading to woman. It looks like all you want is sex not a gf. Saying something like "Hey nice boobs" is NOT a compliment it will most likely get you slapped so avoid that o.O . And if it doesn't get you slapped then you should have gotten slapped. Maybe you're laying it on too strong? I can't stand it when i meet a guy and after knowing him for half an hour he wants to make out! take it slow and DO NOT I repeat DO NOT use lines/move from movies they're very corny and most girls will feel awkward. Just be way way sweet open doors and be nice to other people too because she'll see it and think it's sweet and you should anyways. Respect is insanely important too. Just been a nice guy and remember not all girls are into all the corny romance things so try not to lay that on too strong. good luck. and don't be sorry just don't do it again.
2006-08-20 17:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by pinkZebra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a girl, but Ill try to help you out. I used to be in the same situation. You putting too much pressure on yourself. Someone once told me to just be myself and not worry about it, but that only made me more upset about the situation because I felt nobody really understood. But then I started thinking about the source of my problem... which was nervousness around women. Since I was nervous around women that I was attracted to, I thought it would help if I started talking to women that I wasnt interested in, and see how long you can have a decent conversation with them. I dont know if this will work for you, but eventually over the course of a year or two, I was pretty comfortable talking with all women. If you decide to do this, it really helps to maintain eye contact. Maintaining eye contact makes women think you are confident, which is an appealing quality. Best wishes on your endeavors.
2006-08-20 17:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Slick Mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i know how u feel i haven't had a date in like 6 months well here is some advice u need to ask girls out get new clothes try Plato's closet they have awesome stuff that is very cheep then get a new hairstyle then play football that will get the girls to look
but make sure u r good if u have glasses lose the glasses get contacts don't keep ur head in a book talk to girls and ask them out to the movies i think that u should go see step up that movie should be good for a date then try to make new cooler friends that have all of the girls try it
2006-08-20 17:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by chrisluver_jc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean like the nice-boobs one? Yeah buddy, that's probably not a great way to begin. I don't know you, so I don't know if there is a problem... but have you *asked* anyone out? Silly as it seems, that's still usually the man's arena. And this might sound a little bit mean, but keep in mind that I have no idea what you look like... be sure you're trying to date women in your league. If you're 25 and not good-looking and live in your parents' basement, you probably don't want to ask the hot chick who works in accounting for her number. Good luck ;)
2006-08-20 17:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by Bunny*Run 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was single for three years before I found out how to work the dating game. I used to feel that I had to prove to the girls I approached that I was good enough for them. I probably came off as desperate because of it. Then I changed that into thinking, it's the girls who have to prove to me that they are good enough to date, which completed my confidence. And it wasn't about feeling your the best guy on Earth, it was more about knowing you have good things to offer the right girl, and they have to show you if they are the right one or not. They show you by just talking with you, and it's really you who's making your good judgment calls on who is good and who isn't good to date. After I did that, I didn't fear approaching women anymore, and I recieved a lot of phone numbers and dates, then found my wife.
Maybe that could work for you.
2006-08-20 17:03:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i haven't read any of your previouse questions but i do have some advice for your little problem. First of all, A girl wants to be treated like she's a real person, so any lame pick up lines never work. We don't want you to impress us by being false either. keep it real. We want you to get to know us and treat us like a lady instead of your average whore. build a friendship first and keep things casual like start by having a conversation and possibly bring up a movie you wanted to see and say that you and some friends were gonna go saturday whenever if she wants to go........ or something similar....... hope this helped
2006-08-20 17:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by prometida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Fannie. Don't worry about it, i'm sure you'll get a date soon....probably when you're least expecting it. In the meantime, just do some activities where you're exploring your hobbies and interests, and getting out more. At least then, you probably won't have much time to think about not dating, and you might even meet someone who you have a lot in common with.
2006-08-20 17:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by Shannon83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make friends with women first. every time i've turned a guy down, it was because he was going too fast -- even if he was just telling me he thinks i'm attractive at a bar. if you give girls a chance to get to know you before you put any pressure on them to make out, you'll be a lot less lonely.
2006-08-20 17:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋