does anyone ever truly get over being raped? its been 25 years, and i can remember the finest details of that day.
2006-08-20 09:41:09 · 19 answers · asked by imalickyouallover69 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Getting over it? If you're meaning to forget it, no. If you mean to move on with you life, yes. Forgiving and moving on can happen, but it is a choice you will have to make. You can make a choice to not let this rule your life or consume your thoughts, but it takes work . This may sound silly, but write it down on a calendar - today I choose to forgive this act, and will not allow it to run my life anymore. Whenever these thoughts try to come back into your mind, Go back to the calendar and remind yourself that on this day I made a choice NOT to let this run my life anymore, and repeat it several time until you begin to feel the strength in you voice. If you believe in God, even if you don't, pray that He help you through this. At the first sign of fear, pain or sorrow or shame begin to pray, and remind yourself of the commitment you made and don't let this horrific act hold your mind prisoner anymore.
Good luck, and God bless!
2006-08-20 10:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Cjs 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that rape would be like the death of a loved one. A person would never truly get over it but they would live by taking it one day at a time. They would experience pain and sorrow because their free will and consent was murdered by a beast and they can't take back what was stolen from them. May God be with you. I think that your memories are normal and natural. I can't say that I know how you feel because I don't. Keep praying if you are a praying woman. Don't lose your faith. Keep your head up and talk to those that you love for support. I am so sorry that you had to experience such a cruel thing.
2006-08-20 10:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nikhil is a complete dick, you aren't funny!!!!!
I'm sorry to hear you've been raped, i don't think you can ever truly get over it, it would be easy to say you can move on from it but i can imagine it's not as easy as that. I really hope you have a good support network around you of friends and family and i hope you find or have found the most perfect man in life who will treat you like the lovely lady you are. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-20 10:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. Especially if your virginity was lost because of said rape. Society elevates the "first time" to such a momentous occasion, that it is devestating to have it taken from you. Also sex is everywhere, seeing people together romantically must only remind you of what happened. The best advice I can give is to seek help, and I hope you realize that not all men are like that.
2006-08-20 09:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by tkj3395 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone expect you to forget?
The question is are you able to live with it and move on,
or is there still some work to do to overcome that violation of your person? Does it prevent you from meeting others, being social,
or just chatting? If there are still undercurrents of fear from it,
couseling or support groups may be a good thing. And no one
would blame you for seeking some support like you are now.
2006-08-20 10:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by rjm96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape is a violent crime against women.I cant even begin to imagine how you must feel.I'm truly sorry for what happened to you.Have you sought counseling to help you deal with the memories?I don't think you will ever forget but maybe this will help you cope.Bless you and good luck.
2006-08-20 10:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by hungerforknowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, ignore ignorant people such as Nikhil. Secondly, i've never been raped before, but i'm sure it would be hard to forget such a tramautic event. Have you been to counseling or therapy? Maybe that could help you find closure. Very sorry to hear about your situation.
2006-08-20 09:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap man the first answer you recived was just sick im sorry to hear about that, but if some one raped my gurl I freakin put 9mm to his head blow is freakin brains out, I dont think a person can get over it unless you enjoyed it
2006-08-20 09:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never experienced it thank god but im sure you never get over it ,you just deal with it.I feel so sad for you.But it does sound like you have gone on with your life.
2006-08-20 09:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nikhil is a moron. rape isn't about sex, it's about control. and i doubt anyone can truly ever get over rape. my cousin was raped when she was in high school.
2006-08-20 09:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by Cheesie M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋