Ho do i tell her that she is putting on to much weight, without hurting her feelings. I don't want to lose her, but it's not attractive.
2006-08-20 09:38:56 · 32 answers · asked by scott071069 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
If you love someone you will love her for her not her weight. She knows she is gaining weight but she has to do something about it because SHE wants to not because you tell her to.
2006-08-20 09:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bride2Be 8/30/08 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you are going on a diet to lose a few pounds and you need someone to do it with you or you might not stick to it. That will open the door to you two talking about weight. Then if she mentions her weight then tell her in a nice way that since she mention it she to could lose a few pounds.Then help her to lose the weight.Thats what couples do.Help each other.Good luck.
2006-08-20 09:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live together you can start doing the cooking and shopping if you don't already to and limit the amount of available food.
You can also do some physical activity together. I see couples going for walks and hikes together and often one of the couple is on the portly side and could benefit from some weight loss. The key is that you don't want to make it obvious. Don't go buying her a treadmill and a pair of new kicks
2006-08-20 09:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by Arch Teryx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she cant gain weight
without you not being attracted to her
then you probably shouldnt be dating
because then you dont really like her for her
now do you??
my boyfriend could care less
if i gained 30 lbs and got my leg shot off
and was in a wheelchair
as long as i was healthy enought not to die on him
so if her gaining weight is a problem for you
you should just dump her already
maybe shes one of those girls
who gains weight and loses weiight a lot
so i have no clue how you could tell her
but thats boughe
2006-08-20 09:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Stephanie Louise♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares, really. You guys got together beacuse you love each other, eventually we all put some weight, but that does not mean that we don't love the person who they are, not what they gain. Listen, are you that person no matter what happends you would stay at her side? Or are you that person that a change makes you to run away....?
if it bothers you, talk to her,or do something maybe both you guys can work things together, and maybe she will dump you. I'm not sure but you really must answer your own question and make your own pass.
She sound like a really good one-kind of lady, so really answer your question soon.
good luck.
2006-08-20 09:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So what, You should love her for who she is not what she looks like.
But if it LOOKS have a big part to do with your relationship, Tell her that you would like to lose some weight and ask her if she would too, Talk to her abuot going to the gym together, and eating subway instead of macdonalds, If you are a positive influence chances are she will get the hint,
2006-08-20 09:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It good that you care enough not to hurt her feelings...also good that you haven't given up on her. Why not suggest that you both do something to get healthy together... this way you wont have to say flat out that YOU think she should do something about it. If you both are the competitive type sometimes competition works well. Or maybe, there is something wrong and she's tying to deal with it that way, talk to her...ask.
2006-08-20 09:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sabs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one area that men find very hard to talk about. I wish that my husband would say to me. Hey, I have noticed that you have put on a couple of pounds and I know how much it bothers you to gain weight. If you say it constructively and with compassion she will appreciate your thoughts. What my husband does and I hate, Is, Your going to eat all that? Or I thought you ate already when he hasn't beem with me all day and what is happening is he trying me to see what I will say. So as long as you are frank with her she will appreciate it more than anything.
2006-08-20 09:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by JOJO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to work out with you but make it fun...more an event or time spent together like tennis, a stroll, wrestling, etc. than a real workout like lifting weights or running. Start small, don't make it suspicious otherwise it may hurt her feelings.
2006-08-20 09:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no plz dont listen to the losers who say dont cheat on her......... cuz thats lik 1000 times worse then tellin her that she is gainin weight...if u love ur gf then u should except her for who she is.....u shouldnt allow a couple of pounds turn u away. or if u really want her to b back the way u want her to b then tell her that you BOTH should go on a diet to say fit. im serious u need to either talk to her or let that s.h.i.t go cuz i kno that its some things that u do she doesnt c attrative. so plz dont break her heart cus that wud b the worse thing u do.......best luck playa
2006-08-20 09:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was young my dad told me that now thanks to him im skinny!tell her in a nice way" your very beautiful im telling you this because i dont want you to turn into one of these unhappy fat people wich you arnt yet but stop eating the junk and get some exersize i didn't want to offend you i just want you to live a healthy and happy life and have alot of self estem about yourself.If you need me to I'll help you with that. I'm also going on a diet and i think it would be fun if i can do it with my best buddy"
2006-08-20 09:46:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋