On how to keep my patience with my soon to be three year old? For the past week she has done nothing but drive me nuts! Breaking everything in sight and talking back like crazy when she knows better.
2006-08-20 09:17:12 · 13 answers · asked by dakota_baby_469 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Try and use logical consequences whenever possible. Taking away a toy or privileges when your daughter misbehaves is not a logical consequence. Taking away a toy if she throws it or is destructive with it is logical. These are some other examples of logical consequences. If she makes a mess, she cleans it. If she breaks a toy, it goes in the trash. If she damages something in the home, she does things around the house to pay for the damages. Let the discipline fit the crime. A natural consequence for her back talking is that you do not want to be near her. You can say “If you are going to speak to me like that I don’t want to be near you. We can be together when you’re ready to be speak to me nicely.”
Another technique you can try when she is misbehaving is this. As soon as she misbehaves, get down to her level and say "I don't like when you (explain what and why)." Take her gently by the hand and put her in a spot in your home (bedroom, the couch.) Say "When you're ready to (stop hitting, listen, behave) then you can come back with me." This is not a time out because you are not giving a time limit (you controlling her). She returns when she's ready to control herself. You may have to take her back to the spot a few times before she gets the message. Thank her when she behaves. Keep it up!
Notice her when she is not misbehaving. Say things like "You worked on that for a long time! Look how high you can climb! You used so many colors on that picture!" These are intrinsic motivators rather than extrinsic rewards ("Good job," stickers, candy). These phrases are great confidence builders and will help her to feel powerful in a positive way.
Set limits, follow through, and offer choices, not chances. You can say “Do you want to do that by yourself or do you want some help?” "No" should mean "No" the first time you say it. Say "Yes" as much as possible. Be patient and consistent. Good luck!
2006-08-22 08:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you don't have my daughter?
Seriously ... she's bored. Find new activities for her to do, or get her some VHS movies or DVD movies to watch, take her to the park in the mornings when it's still cool.
Send her to a daycare center for a couple of hours a day. This way she has other children her age to play with and you get some "Mommy Time". It will get her ready for starting school also.
She is bored and is acting out to get your attention, even the scolding is attention to her. So what if she knows better, she's gonna do it anyway!
This is normal behavior for this age child. I have five and they were and are all like that.
2006-08-20 10:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by Regina R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is old enough to know not to backtalk... so I would start taking things away from her when she does this soi she understand talking back and such has consequences.. and soon she will stop her madness... patience.. I guess just sit back take a deep breathe and ALWAYS fallow thru with EVERY threat by tkaing something away or however you dicipline her.
Good luck
2006-08-20 09:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you definatlly need to do some kind of punishing once they start and you dont get a grip on it right away it goes out of controll i raised three boys and they were only 14 month apart (the first two) and then 2yrs apart.try sitting her in the corner is that doesnt work send her to her room if that doesnt work try taking her favorite things away there are many things to try but dont give up you need to be persistant nobody likes to see you coming if they know they have to put up with a spoiled brat i love kids put when parents dont disipline it really disturbs me and i know it does others too.
2006-08-20 13:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by nvvlewis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try timeout. Place her on chair and make her sit there for three minutes. Tell her why she is there. Go off and do something and if she gets off it put her back there until she was sat the hold three minutes without getting up. After the three minutes go over and asked her to say she is sorry for acting up.
2006-08-20 09:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by Carmen S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a break or a couple of hours to yourself. Get someone to watch her while you go out. I have 3 kids and it works wonders just to have a break away. Then you feel refreshed and more patient. Sometimes kids get tired of us too and need a break away. Also check out the site below on discipline. It helps me.
2006-08-20 10:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noooo... spanking is sooo wrong. All it teaches is that bigger people have the right to hit you - thats not the answer. I have introduced a 'naughty box' that my 3 year olds favourite toys get put into when he is misbehaving. He gets them back for good behaviour!.. it seems to be working (fingers crossed)!!
2006-08-20 09:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by kerrykittiecat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg...i remember my son doing just that when he was 3! thought i would go crazy! i found out thru my theripst a little trick that i used and it worked!!! when your child does something bad and you need to punish him, put him/her in a room that you can shut the door to (not their bedroom). mine would be put into the bathroom. even if they scream and cry and kick whatever in site, you and the child are seperated and it leaves time for you to relax and get your mind together. id leave him in there for about 3 minutes and when it was done, ask him if he was ready to come out. if he made a mess, he'd have to clean it up before he came out. it took a few times to put him in there before he got the message that i wouldnt take it anymore and after that all i had to do was mention he would be put in there for him to straighten up! it brought back my sanity and was able to put up with whatever he came at me with. i also learned another trick that seems mean, but helped when my son got mouthy with me...apple cider! dip your finger in it and swipe on their tongue. they hate the taste and its not bad for them (unlike soap!)
with my son being almost 11 years old now....he knows now who the boss is!!!
2006-08-20 09:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's the typical toddler, yes. But sounds to me like she needs her hiney spanked a few times if she's actually breaking things. She needs to learn to have respect for things and for others. Spank her a few times. I swear, it's the only thing that works. Trust me, I've seen how kids turn out who didn't have spankings growing up and it's not pretty.
2006-08-20 09:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she's acting like a typical toddler, you might want to look into a reward system and for yourself take a night off leave the baby with someone you trust and enjoy yourself for a few hours....
2006-08-20 09:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋