This guy asked me to be his girlfriend 3 times, because he knew I liked him so much.In the end I said no because I thought I wasn't ready...Then when I thought he was I asked him to be my boyfriend...But he nver gave me an answer and I figured he didn't want to.Over the summer he got a girlfriend.Someone recently told me he wanted to break up with this girl because wanted to be with me.I really want to be his gf,but I am a very shy person and don't know how to be aboutthis.I'd really like to be his girlfriend.But I get to scared to call or even talk to him about this.His friend said he got that other girlfriend because he said, that I didn't do anything and that I was too slow about these things..its because I am shy....How can I make it easier on myslef to call him or talk to him??how to build up my confidence with guys when talking about this sort of stuff.I really like him and would love to be his girlfriend...he doesn't have a computer.and I have never had a boyfriend before.
2006-08-20 09:10:55 · 10 answers · asked by Rosy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should I wait until school starts?(aug.28th)or is that too long to wait
And how do I build up my confidence and the strength to talk to him?
please try to answer all these question for me the best you can.
Oh yeah I have indeed asked this question before...I just never quite got the right answer..please help me out here!
2006-08-20 09:12:20 · update #1
His friend told me wanted to be my boyfriend and I was ecstatic!He said he liked me and he(the guy I like)has never lied to me and is a very sweet person..I really like him and I know he really likes me I feel We were meant to be.
2006-08-20 09:24:54 · update #2
Be yourself. It's possible that after he asked you 3 times and you said no he was embarrassed or hurt and that's why he didn't get back to you when you asked him to be your boyfriend.
The important thing is to be confident with yourself. What weren't you ready for when he asked you to be his girlfriend? You should figure that out before going forward.
Again, just be yourself. Do what comes natural and try to think about something else besides him. It'll take the pressure off.
2006-08-20 09:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by Someone Else 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you said no, he got frustrated and just moved on. If he does break up with the girl, go for it. Just think, this could be your last chance. And if you wimp out now, all the other guys won't even bother with a girl who can't make up her mind, so don't waste time. When you ask him out, try to do it in private, or at least out of hearing, I find it easier that way. If he says yes (and you don't want to have sex) don't let him touch you where it isn't comfortable. There are plenty of ways to enjoy a relationship with out sex. But it does feel good:)
2006-08-20 16:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl just be yourself . Remember that is what he liked about you in the first place and if it was meant to be like u said then he'll ask u again besides ur young chill if he dont theres alot of guys better looking , acting, dressing ,smelling you got nuttin 2 worry bout.
2006-08-20 16:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by mikdwg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.... He needs to be able to accept you just how you are, shy and all!! *sigh*
But.....
I used to be VERY shy, too........
To get the confidence to not be shy, you need to work on your self esteem......
Make two lists....
The first list titled "Things I love about myself"
List all your good points. Things you like about you,
compliments you've received. All good things, physical,
personality, achievements..
The second titled "Things i'd like to change about myself"
List anything you are not happy with, such as your shyness.
You may be surprised to find that you have more good points
than negative. :)
The first list is a good one to keep in your nighstand or diary,
and anytime you are feeling down, look back on the list....
Add new things as you think about them.
With the 2nd list decide which things you would truely like to change, and work toward your goals. You may find that some of your "bad points" aren't so bad after all.. :)
Practice "pretending" to be confident. If you can fake confidence, you will soon start to believe yourself... As cheesy as this might sounds, it truely works!!
Be yourself, be open, make eye contact, smile...
Shyness isn't a bad thing. But, it's important to have some confidence, too.
You can work on your self esteem and overcome some of that shyness. Do it for yourself, though, not for a guy. :)
2006-08-20 17:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~♥Sasha♥~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont worry about the confidence, youll get it, just be a friend to the guy you have a crush on, there will be many guys you will like, i wouldnt stress about so much, there will be many more crush opportunities, concentrate in school, you have so much ahead of you, u have no idea,dont get frustrated, youll eventually get the hang of it, and will have many dogs to give u the expereince
2006-08-20 16:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by blue_green_at 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now do not push this, you had your change, just be cool, see how things is when you see him at school, let him come to you, you will know if he is interested, let the ball be in his court. Don"t run after no men.
2006-08-20 16:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just forget about this guy all together..you shouldnt have to try so hard to find a man they should come to you.
2006-08-20 16:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by Melanie G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to that first guy hes an idiot. i wish i could help you but i am shy too. just force yourself to do it. thats what i do and it eventually gets easier. totally understand your situation its horrible.
2006-08-20 16:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by shakira 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're too young.
Stay in school.
2006-08-20 16:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow u suck
2006-08-20 16:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋