I went to my friends wedding almost a year ago. We have been friends since 7th grade, so for 23 years we have been good friends. She had some professional photographers at her wedding and didn't get any pictures of her and her new husband with me or my family or any of her life long friends and families. But did get pics with a friend she has only known for about 6 years. Am I strange for feeling this way or should I let it go? Please be nice, and serious answers only.
2006-08-20 08:41:31 · 33 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You have a good reason to feel upset and hurt. When we first discover that somone we have known has grown away from us, it is often a very painful experience. But don't hold on to the feeling because change is inevitible. She has moved to a different place in her life. You are better off in a less egocentric world with other friends.
2006-08-20 08:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Generally Wedding pictures are only taken of the bridal party and the bride and grooms family As for the pics with the friend she has known for only a few years I could only think 1) Has she been with her more over the last few years ie:daily bases 2) this could be strange thought but being from a small town this person could somehow be related to the grooms family as well as being a friend to the bride 3) she could have been the one who introduced them to each other .Let the green eyed monster go and just be happy for your friend
2006-08-20 08:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by lynx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are strange for feeling as you do. I had a similar experience once. But at the end of the day you have to consider two things:
1st. It might have been an oversight. RARE is the bride I've seen who didn't seem to have 1000 things on her mind all through the wedding day.
2nd. For 23 years you've been friends. In 23 years how many times has she slighted you? How many times has she come through for you? We are all capable of screwing up from time to time. If her overall track record is solid I'd be inclined to let it go. On the other hand if there is a trend building here, well, maybe you two have some issues to work out.
2006-08-20 08:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her about it if it really bothers you, but she probably doesn't remember half of what happened anyway if she was as stressed as most brides are.
A few weeks after my wedding, my brother pointed out that when we were doing family pics, my maternal grandmother was the only one left out of the pictures when my father's family was called up. He thought she must have had her feelings hurt. I didn't even notice this, because not only was I starving and about to pass out, I was weighed down by a huge heavy dress and distracted by flashes of light, people calling my name, etc. I hardly remember anything--it was all a blur!
Your friend probably was too distracted to think about what she was doing. Don't take it personally--weddings can be grueling for a bride!
2006-08-20 12:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny Alice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. My mom and dad divorced after 22 years of marriage. My mom married someone else and my dad married my moms best friend of 30 years. They're no longer friends anymore, if you ask me its for the better. You're supposed to make new friends and keep the old, so maybe its just a phase. Talk to her about it and tell you how you feel. But then again it was her wedding day and I know when I got married, I had forgotten all about takin pics of my 2 best friends that I've had for 13 years. I felt so bad. It will hurt her more than it will you.
2006-08-20 08:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a bride, especially with more than one photographer, you just kind of smile on command because so many pictures are being taken. Its highly possible that she didn't even realize who was in the picture with her.
The pictures could also have been the result of this other friend and her family approaching the photographer to say "we want pictures with the bride." Please don't assume that the bride specifically requested pictures with these people and not with you.
Also, she might have told the photographer that she wanted pictures with you and your family, but they were never taken. We provided our photographers with lists, and they still missed a few shots we would have liked.
I would ignore it and move past it.
2006-08-20 09:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm at a loss as to why you weren't in the wedding party to begin with and yes I think its strange. When the pictures are being shown maybe you should bring up in a joking way that "Gee, I don't see me in any of these beautiful pictures with my best friend." Or something to that effect. Good luck but I wouldn't push the issue. In the future I would snap my own for keepsakes.
2006-08-20 08:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is, wedding pictures are VERY EXPENSIVE, and she probbaly only could afford "one picture with a friend"...But, it is a little strange that she didnt choose you as her "one friend picture"..Well, for whatever reason, it was her choice..Even though she knew you for 23 years, maybe she has a greater connection to the newer friend. I mean, I'm sure she loves your DEARLY--and you have her special place in her heart..
With me, if I had to choose my wedding picture--I would choose my friend that I knew since 5th grade--we've been friends for 20 years and we were even born in the same hospital....But, I do have other friends who I share a connection with...I mean, are you guys Best, Best, Best Friends--like she's the one you'd call if you gad a miscarriage, or if your husband just cheated on you? OR, is that you are close, but you dont delve into the deep crisis situations that true Best, Best, Best Friends share??
Look, I was in a situation like you..There was another girl that I considered my Best Friend in college--but I noticed that she always chose this other girl for special occasions--it hurt.But I realized that she simply felt more sisterly abd close ith her--so I backed off a little. Sure enough, she didnt really keep in touch with me, and things fell off..So, I moved on--Life is Too Short to cling to a friendship that is 1 way...
I mean--maybe your freind is just CLOSER to that lady--thats all. Maybe they shared health problems and parents dying and other crisises that made them very close. It doesnt mean she doesnt love you--but she obviously made her choice...It doesn't negate you and your role in her life. ..
So, let it slide, and see how much she makes the effort to reach out to you in the future as a test of how close you really are...And, if it really really bothers you--calmly ask her about it--and even make a joke out of it so she wont feel too bad. Just say "Um, yah, I could see that I wasnt on your VIP list, so I'll just make cut and paste my photo into your wedding pictures on my computer tomorrow", you get what I mean.
Peace
2006-08-20 08:59:02 · answer #8 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you are upset, but it's your friends wedding and she may feel closer to the people she took pictures with. What would have been nice is if you pulled her aside for a minute and then asked if she would take a picture with you with your personal camera. That way you would have had a personal keepsake and your feelings wouldn't have been hurt. I'd say it probably wasn't a personal snub but on her wedding day, things were probably absolutely chaotic.
2006-08-20 08:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As it being a big day, it probally didnt "phase" her, at the moment, but afterwards, she's probally noticing that she didnt get any pics and is regreting this now. Too much on her mind at the time. Yes to you it might be hurtful, but realize also she might not have intended that or realized it. Just too much going on. Next time you visit or ya'll go out somewhere, you take the camera, and make a point to get those pics of all of ya together! As you said, your good friends! And good friends let things go easily, thats why your still good friends!
2006-08-20 08:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋