Is there some cut-off point I should be aware of, or is it more of an all or nothing sort of thing?
2006-08-20 08:35:25 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I was asking this in the covet sense. Is it really a sin if I want a girl who is already in a relationship?
2006-08-20 13:55:46 · update #1
hey---don't be a wanker.
stay out of their relationship---at least till they break up on their own. if they don't break up---then you'll know it was serious and you had no business messing things up.
2006-08-27 18:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legally, no. Under most religions, no. And of course there's the old saying, "All's fair in love and war."
Whether you want to try to make any advances depends on the relationship you have with your neighbor. Most common sense would say not to mess with it if you value the relationship with your neighbor. However, if you really feel that you and this woman are a match and that this is more important, then go for it. But, first stop and ask yourself if there is anything more here that initial sexual attraction. Have you even met the woman, or is this coveting from afar?
And coveting is not the problem, acting on it is. If I had to take a hit for every time I noticed and thought about an attractive woman, I'd be a bloody mess.
2006-08-27 06:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Magic One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) She is not your neighbor's wife. If she is his fiance, that might still count.
2) If you have lusted after her, that counts as fornication in the eyes of God; that's what Jesus said.
3) The sin of "coveting someone's wife" implies that you think a man *owns* his wife, that she is a piece of property that someone else might want enough to steal. Is that how you think of this woman?
2006-08-27 06:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Elfwreck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are coveting. How serious is the relationship?
Are you even interesting in dating her, or you just want to jump her bones? Go take a cold shower boss.
2006-08-28 04:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by doc_jhholliday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are dating, then no, she is not his wife.
If they are living together, even without being legally married they are probably considered to be in a common-law relationship (after 6 months in Canada) and yes, she is his wife in that scenario.
However, if they are together at all they have some commitment to each other which should not be tampered with, if that's what you're thinking.
2006-08-20 08:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heck no she's not his wife! I'm not my boyfriend's wife... yet. : )
But if you're asking whether it's right to covet her or not, that's an entirely different question. What do you want to know? How far you can go?
If I knew what the sub-lining question was, I'd feel better about opening my mouth... but I'll keep it shut, since I don't know what you're really asking.
2006-08-20 09:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by thought_provoking 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, yes. Given that there are at least 3 women to each man among the available folks, it shows that you have envy problems rather than the simple fact of liking someone.
Go find your own woman, out there in the wide cruel world instead of being so lazy that you are peeking at your neighbor, and a taken neighbor at that!
2006-08-27 06:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by nora22000 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not commit to a relationship if you want to fool around. Don`t fool with a person who made a commitment to another, be it a date or engagement or marriage.
If a man asked a woman to date (or vice versa) - he asked for a commitment AND HE was giving a commitment that they would keep themselves for each other during the time of the commitment.
Will you ever trust the person who broke his/her commitment to be with you?
2006-08-28 03:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by lew_lewisje 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what LEAVE it alone they are in a relationship and no one should try and break it up. Have you ever been in that situation do you know what pain and sorrow it causes for all involved. Think about how it will feel to be rejected!! What if she isn't in to you at all? Why would you even think of it??
Move on and find some one who is available to you.
2006-08-28 01:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is with him and they are in love, you need to leave it alone. Marriage isnt the only relationship that should be sacrosanct. ( this means protected against everything) Any committed relationship should have 2 people in it, not 3... get a life, find someone who loves you for you and whish them the best...
2006-08-28 05:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by nanacakes06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i think that they are just dating the person is fair game i draw the line though at marriage that is something joined before god and i don't wanna mess with something god ordained but other than that i could careless about a girl friend.
2006-08-28 06:35:15 · answer #11 · answered by Eisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋