Do you think that it is right for a preacher to tell a girl who got pregnant before marriage to go before the church and apologize for it?(getting pregnant before marriage)
2006-08-20 08:23:19 · 16 answers · asked by Callie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Baptist...
2006-08-20 08:31:24 · update #1
she didn't even come to church half the time she went somewhere else...it is my sister....but the church is stupid...and there was another girl in the same situation and she went up and apologized and the church was just like...you know those preppy girls when they see a nerd....thats how they looked at her and my sister was like oh heck no
2006-08-20 08:40:06 · update #2
No. The girl has nothing to apologize for. That would be humiliating for her anyway, I'm sure.
2006-08-20 08:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Apologize for what? Not getting a secret abortion? There is just no pleasing some people. I would have apologized all right--if I were her I'd get up in front of the entire church, hand out some rocks and say the first one who can prove they are without sin can stone me.
Or, even better: Apologize for having the preacher's baby. Which just might teach preacher to think before he judges.
2006-08-20 08:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If she wants to. I don't think having a child out of wedlock is wrong. God works in mysterious ways, and this will be a troubling time for her, she needs the church's support and love, not scorn and disgust. lol, By that idea, it may be a test for the congregation, will they stone her and hate their sister, abandoning her in her darkest hour, or will they help her overcome her youthful error and raise the child in a loving and tolerant community? The fate of the whole church is decided on acts like this. I personally think it would be wrong to make her do this, but if it made her feel better, then its her choice if she wants to go or not.
2006-08-20 09:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by valoriousblue777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If he's demanding it, it's not right, but there is the reality that if she is repentant and wishes to be made right with God, she must admit her sin. If she's in a church where people are actually saved and not hypocrites, she will receive a lot of support and caring from Christians who have also sinned and wish to help her.
I'm not sure how public it needs to be. It depends on a lot of factors. If she was just a church member, then I don't think a public apology is necessary. But if she was leading in any way, such as teaching a Sunday school class or leading music, she does owe the church an apology for being a hypocrite while in a position of leadership.
2006-08-20 08:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by ©2007 answers by missy 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Public humiliation is a form of coercion and mind-control. The tactic increases the power of the authority figure over the flock (sheep) by inculcating them with the fear that the same thing could happen to them, should they stray from 'orthodox' behavior. Tell the preacher to get stuffed.
2006-08-20 08:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think that is right. Ask the preacher what Biblical justification he has for this. When Jesus condemned the Samaritan woman for her way of life (she lived with 5 men), he did it personally not in a public manner.
The girl has to make it right with God privately.
2006-08-20 09:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by P P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
given that you have given none of the specifics I would have to say NO----the preacher is not within the parameters of his office as preacher to tell anyone they "must" go before the church and apologize for sinning. If she is inclined to go because the Holy Spirit leads her to do that then that would be different. I am inclined to believe this is not your typical protestant church and may have some denominational beliefs that belong to their denomination only.
2006-08-20 08:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by oph_chad 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with that. We are go ask for forgivness for the sinful things we do in life, that does not reflect what we as a Chrisitan Church are taught, as well as for being Christians and followers of God.. I would be proud of her if she actually did appologize to her church. She will be blessed by God for humbling herself before her church. You stand before the Church when you accept Jesus as your savior, so why wouldn't you stand before the church and appologize to the members for a sinful act you commited that does bare a negatiave relfection upon it's members?
2006-08-20 08:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Carol M 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No..that's personal.Sins are supposed to be between you and God. They are personal,and noone has anyright to tell someone to go up front and say they are sorry.Besides the service would get long.Everyone sins..do they have to go upfront and confess to everyone? Does the paster? Does the boy have to say he's sorry too? Honestly I would have told the paster where to stick it.
2006-08-20 08:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unless both EQUAL participants are up there apologizing for their deed, no. Why is it always up to the woman to apologize for something when it is the man who thought with his penis and not with his mind on eternity.
2006-08-20 08:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by Bimpster 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋