my child is very anxious!?

Question

She gets too nervous about anything she can think of. I actually got a call from her teacher last year about her shyness. She doesn't like to go to birthday parties, because of there being "too many kids"....Is prozac the only answer, or are there natural vitamins that really would help...I'd hate to have to put her on medicine, but I want my little girl back....what should i do?...she is nine....HELP!

Answer 1

its a socailizing behaviour or panic attachs,its not gonna be easy and she will need lots of support ,she will need to take one step at a time,thats if she hasnt been touched sexually by someone as this would make her very shy ,has she always been shy or is this something thats getting worse?,my daughter was touched when very young and she went very shy too,but it could be so many things ,but most of all you have to be her best friend in the world and tell her all the time how much you love her and that she can tell you anything cos you love her soo much that you could never be angry with her or blame her for anything,it may help you get to the bottom of this ,it may be something very simple ,thats just worrying her ,bless her heart i do so feel for her,and you ,but the most horrible thing for me was it turned out to be sexual child abbuse,god i so hope this isnt the problem ,but from your few words it brought it all back for me ,but if its anything else its still gonna be hard to deal with ,but it can be sorted,just be gentle and kind to her every need,as what ever it is she must be so affraid and thats terrible,and so young,i really hope she can open up to you and start to talk as you will be surprised what kids can tell,they see and hear a lot more than we ever do as adults,but docters may help ,or someone she dont know to talk to ,but if she is shy or have a deep problem this might make her suffer more you will have to treat her as a mini adult and let her choose with you to help the best road to take ,after all shes nine ,thats grown up age for her ,camomile tea can help relax her but she maynot like it i put suger in mine ,hide the tast.honey is meant to help you relax,maybe you could both listern to relaxing music together,to help her teach herself how to relax,but id say the last thing she will need is any pressure from anything,so if its something thats bothering her then just tell her its ok ,tell her you are growing up now so i feel ts time you made some of your own choices,as if she feels that you are treating her more adult she may feel shes better able to deal with her problems ,but just as a thought ,shes also at the age when your hormones start to change,she may at times be feeling strange ,and not understanding what she feels ,who knows ,?but a very tight bond with you as her friend and parent might be all she needs ,but be carefull if you try to get her to speak to strangers,as she dont like crowds,this could make her withdraw more,as it could just be people she dont like ,you know to many strangers ,as you get at some parties ,lots of people you dont know,but tell her how loverly and important she is ,and how much you love her ,lol i love her too and never even meet her ,god bless .

Answer 2

Me personally i dont belive medication is the answer. To many people resort to that to quick and then the kid is dependant through there whole life. I would first ask your child what makes her feel like this, talk to her maybe its something small that can easily be corrected with a proper diet or other meens (she could be have some form of reaction to a food) . Next step would be see if she wants to talk to someone she would be more comfortable with (i.e. a therapist) not one that perscribes medicine just a basic psycologist. Ussually from there they then can suggest if the child needs medication. I was depressed since around the same age and i hated medication also, in the end it was just talking to people and expressing how i feel made me relize what was happening. Hopefully she will respond successfully to all of that and then you can have your lil girl back

Answer 3

have her visit a therapist. perhaps there w as an event at home or at school that makes her feel uncontrable at birthday parties. or somthign that made her extreamely shy. but when seh is home try to fill her day with happiness and perhaps have her go play with the niebors kid and new people so she can slowly let go of her shyness. it will take time tho. its not an over night process. or maybe you should just talk to her. one-on-one talking. that might be the bbest solutino :0) because soem problems may be mental or physical. but emotional problems are even worse

Answer 4

If you are a natural person you should try cognitive behavioral therapy. It was the only thing that has helped me with my horrible health anxiety. Read here https://tr.im/VsyrA

Your thinking determines your quality of life. Your thinking is what causes you these feelings:

Anxious, fearful, stressed or depressed
Constantly worried, or angry about something that is happening in your life
Struggling to overcome obsessive and negative thoughts.

If you change your thinking, you will change your life. This is the basic idea behind CBT for anxiety. The Cognitive part is where you learn nee methods and ways to change your same old habits and thinking patterns. If you keep thinking and expecting the worst – You will continue to suffer.

Answer 5

I think prozac is a bit drastic for a 9 year old. Has she seen a therapist? Maybe a small group therapy with her peers might help. If you haven't been to a professional about her problem I would definately do it. If you have and they want to put her on medication maybe you should mention some type of therapist. My opinion is she is much too young and her problem much to easy to treat to be put on medication. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Prozac for shyness and nervousness?

Maybe she doesn't like lots of screaming kids. Can't blame her really. There seeems to be growing tyranny in society saying you must be an extravert to be normal.

Try CBT (Cognitive Behavioural therapy) first. I'm assuming she was brought up in a non-judgmental stress-free home anyway?

Answer 7

It's just a phase, start small like social groups with kids her own age. Stay away from meds I don't know what the deal is with putting their kids on meds all the time just like with ADHD let them grow out of it, no child needs meds. Trust me. Get her around PEOPLE. The environment, people, and activities gets children out of their shyness.

Answer 8

I used to be like that. I'm really shy and I don't like 'too much kids' it just makes me feel crowded and really shy. You should try talking to her and ask her if something's bothering her. Maybe something has happened to her, ask her if she's okay and if school is okay. You should try going to school with her and checking out if someone is bothering her and go to partires with her and check out also if people are eman to her or if she's just being sad. I don't think medicine will help because she might feel sad. Talk to her and tell her she can talk to you and always trust you. Good luck

Answer 9

please do not even think of Prozac for her. No doctor would prescribed that for her anyway, unless was a "quack". I agree with the recommendation of playdates and building up with that gradually. also, tho, remember to let her be HER! although therapy would probably be very beneficial to her. ask her doctor or the school counselor for a recommendation for a therapist. My oldest daughter was very shy in elem. school, but by sophomore year college was vp of her class and is now in medical school --- with minimal therapy and NO meds. be patient with her and supportive. also - ask here discretely about abuse -- :-(

Answer 10

I understand. I don't like crowded places much, it feels like you don't have anywhere to walk and everyone is staring at you. Well, that's how I use to feel. I still feel like there is nowhere to walk much, etc. I think it's just a phase if you ask me. I mean, I was the same way when I was 9 or so, if I can remember correctly and precisely.