She gets too nervous about anything she can think of. I actually got a call from her teacher last year about her shyness. She doesn't like to go to birthday parties, because of there being "too many kids"....Is prozac the only answer, or are there natural vitamins that really would help...I'd hate to have to put her on medicine, but I want my little girl back....what should i do?...she is nine....HELP!
2006-08-20 08:18:59 · 9 answers · asked by Liz S 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
I agree that this is much too young to be medicating for basically a socialization problem.
The degree to which each of us is introverted/extroverted is an inherited trait, present from birth, and unlikely to change substantially.
Try to understand what she feels in those situations and help her develop a strategy for coping and being somewhat social. If she could have a best friend who maybe has a large family, that would be helpful. If you do decide to get her help, please stick with cognitive/behavior modification techniques rather than medications, which can impede development of the above mentioned internal strategies.
Don't push her into situations that cause undue anxiety, but maybe just have long heart to heart talks about how she feels in crowded situations.
New onset intense shyness may indicate there has been an event in her life too painful to even tell you. Long walks with heart to heart talks may work wonders, or make it a long car vacation. The truth may not come out for days. Be available and attentive to her conversations, and not judgmental, so she will feel free to discuss her emotions with you. My first grade teacher also discussed my shyness with my parents.
Do some research into relaxation techniques, and share them with her. For example, I prepared my seven year old daughter for piano recital by teaching her the deep breathing trick. Worked like a charm, but she is pretty extroverted to begin with. Her dad and I are both markedly introverted, and she is this social butterfly (some kind of genetic mutation I guess)...
To get an instant relaxation response and drop a racing pulse rate: Take a deep breath and hold it for the count of 5, then slowly exhale through a small hole in pursed lips. Practice it on yourself then share with her.
I have had to overcome intense shyness, as I now do a lot of public speaking, and still use all my strategies every time.
Best wishes.
2006-08-20 09:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-12 09:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I wouldn't medicate my child this early in life so many people think this is the answer today, give her a chance to grow into herself, and some people just feel differently than others, give her time to work it out and be there for her.. In a world of loud and wide open ready for the world kids, she must be like a breath of fresh air. Shy and timid children usually make careful and thoughtful people
2006-08-20 08:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by b4utell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 13:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like an anti-social disorder,i would have her evaluated and tell the doctor that you want to try everything, but make it clear that you only want her on medicine as a last resort. there are skills she can be taught that will help her to deal with this problem.
2006-08-20 08:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does kind of sound like an autistic trait, my younger sister has a mild form of autism, and she has shyness problems and she was not good with her social skills? talk to a doctor
2006-08-20 08:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her, help her, try to comfort her
let her explain her issues, and try to understand her position in society as well
i am like the same thing but i didnt get any help...i talked to someone and it made me feel better
2006-08-20 08:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds more like a autistic trait , talk to her pediatrician.
2006-08-20 08:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by College Student 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just really shy?
2006-08-20 08:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by neocarleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋