My friend is only 18 and is a virgin, she meets alot of men but never takes her relationships any further because she's never done it and is scared to tell them.
Is it a good idea to tell men this this or are they put off if they know your a virgin?
2006-08-20 08:10:29 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell your friend that there is nothing to worry about.
If I was the boyfriend, I would prefer my girl to say if shes a virgin. Because this way, she wont get stuck and have to do it.... you can wait for the right moment.... when both are ready!!!!
Tell the boyfriend...
Good luck!!!!
2006-08-20 08:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by The Avenger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitley tell your friend that if she is going to be a virgin she needs to be a proud and honest one.
Is your friend planning on waiting untill she gets married? If so, she should defnitley tell a man up front once she realizes that she likes him and they may begin a relationship. She needs to do this because she needs to let him know early on how she feels about sex. Then it will be his choice to stay or leave. She should be prepared for some guys to leave, but she shouldn't feel bad because NO RELATIONSHIP will last if based on a lie and she certainly doesn't want to have to feel like she needs to TRICK guys into liking her.
If she is not waiting untill marriage, but she is just waiting for the "right one" then she should explain that as well. Most likely there will be more guys that will stay around in this case because falling in love is a lot more common than marriage.
Basically, while she doesn't need to shout it at the top of her lungs everytime a guy approaches her, she DOES need to let educate a man on what her values are before the relationship really gets going.
2006-08-20 15:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by CHLOE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Men are not put off by a woman being a virgin, in fact many men find it a turn on!
No! She shouldn't tell the man unless she really wants him to be her first. I am not an old fuddy duddy (although that makes me sound like one) but good of bad you always remember your first time and so make your first time a good time.
Remember a condom have a look at http://www.sofeminine.co.uk/m/relationships/virginity-first-time-sex.html and gain more knowledge.
"Daddy Dave"
2006-08-20 15:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that she needs to tell them, if she finds that special guy, and they get into a real relationship, yeah then she can, but hey being a virgin at 18 in this day and age is special... so just tell her to wait until the right guy comes along, she will know.
2006-08-20 15:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why shouldn't she? Being a virgin isn't anything to be ashamed about, she should be PROUD of it. It certainly sets her apart from other women. Men aren't usually scared of virgins either: they have nothing to be compared to, and there's the thrill of the unknown.
If the issue of sex comes up, then yes, she should say so. She deserves someone who will take her situation into consideration--virginity is special, and losing it should be as well.
2006-08-20 15:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guys where I'm from would say to her, "I would love to pick your cherry." Yeah it's lame but that's the best they can come up with. Anyway she should be proud, not ashamed of her virginity and in today's society where sex is advertised constantly it's difficult for guys and girls to remain pure.
A girl is supposed to feel comfortable with who she is and really she should not need someone to make her feel comfortable in her own skin. If she wants to move to the next step it's best she let the guy know, provided he has a brain he'll know how to treat her in that intimate moment and it should be with someone she'll cherish for all time (like her husband) because it will leave a lasting impression.
2006-08-20 15:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i have to say, WOW! your friend is an 18 year old virgin! and you know what, that's nothing to be ashamed of. in my opinion, no. she shouldn't be scared to tell them because if she lies to the man, and he lays her down and she get's freaked out, she eventually is going to have to tell him. But if she tells the man before the relationship grows deeper, then if he's intested in her, he would want to keep her and progress with her.
and yes it is a good idea to tell a man if you are a virgin. most men wont be put off because they would want a pure women. but if he's lookin' for a one night stand then it's best to not hook up with him at all. unless your friend wants to loose her virginity.
2006-08-20 15:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by jmoney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unless she's planning on sleeping with them I don't think its anyone else's business but if they are actually seeing one another and she feels like they might actually be heading towards having sex then yeah she should tell them cause they will know she is a virgin once they have sex anyway and if he's the right lad it will make him much more aware of her feelings and her needs and he should make her feel totally comfortable loosing her virginity to him.
2006-08-20 15:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by zzzzzzzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should wait to have sex until she's comfortable enough with a man to talk about the fact that she is a virgin. If you can't talk about it, then you shouldn't do it. The men I know would appreciate the trust and honesty.
2006-08-20 15:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by staubfinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when she's ready to have sex, she should tell that person that she's a virgin. If she tells him that it's the first time, he will take it slowly. If he's put off, then he was a scum to begin with and your friend is better off without him.
2006-08-20 15:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug_jane22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋