My bf and I have been dating for about a year but close for almost two. This summer we've been on and off because the fighting between us is too out of hand. I decided to end it with him because I know he's not the one for me. He constantly gets mad at me and calls me very bad names. He also drags the fights on and I'll admit so do I. The problem is I feel like when I'm not with him all I want is to be with him. But then once I'm with him, I'm happy for a day and then just want out. We tried again to make it work, and again, after five days our fighting started again. Our fights have gotten so bad that police reports have been done. Cops called on us for being too loud, and when he gets mad he gets really really uncontrollably mad and it's gotten to the point where i've suffered hairloss from the stress of this relationship. But why do i continue to miss him so much? What do I do!!
2006-08-20 08:09:34 · 9 answers · asked by dreamangel_141414 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good luck fine somebody else
2006-08-20 08:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that you will be ok & better without him. Just because you love someone doesnt mean you need to be with him!
Start hanging out with your friends & family, you will be busy, so you wont have time to think about him.
Understand that being in a relationship doesnt have to be that difficult, while you do have to put effort into a relationship, you shouldnt have to constantly be fighting & working for something so hard. When deep down, even though you want it, you just know it isnt ever gonna happen.
Dont have any kind of contact what-so-ever for at least 2-3 months, then if both of you want to be friends, work on it. BUT ONLY AFTER YOU ARE COMPLETELY OVER HIM! Make sure he has all his stuff & you have all yours, put all his pictures away in a box in the closet. You cant have any reason to see him or anything around to make you think about him!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-20 08:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you're not married to him or have kids with him. It's even harder then because you feel obligated to make it work.
I think you miss him because you're not giving yourself enough time to get used to the idea of freedom. Maybe you think it's bad to be alone, but it's not, especially not when what you've described is the alternative.
Some people have a tendency to gravitate toward dramatic people who are bad for them. You could start over and learn to quit ruining your life that way. Most people do not live lives where the police are called or they suffer hair loss from stress. You can set your personal standard higher, surround yourself with good people or get in a situation like college where people are there for a good purpose, to better themselves. Do not let people like your ex back into your life again or it will not end the vicious cycle of violence and stress. Want more of yourself.
You'll get over him, and you can do good things with yourself.
2006-08-20 08:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him a lot. In your heart you still love him thats the reason you want to be with him.
The reason there has been fights is both of you want to be right, There is some kind of ego that is coming between you two.
You need to reduce the stress by doing some yoga and meditation. Even instrumental music will help u better.
About being with each other you both will have to make ane effort to not fight. About being fighting again and again its some sort of expectations from each end which is not met and promises that are not kept hence it happens
You will also have to reduce the expectations and try to meet the small thigns.
THis goes with both and both need to sit and talk about it
Smile always
2006-08-20 08:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Smile 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best thing to do is leave this boyfriend and find yourself another one. You have to be strong when you are feeling like you miss him. Know that if you decide to go back to him.. the fighting will continue. Let it go and go on with your life. Time heals all things, and with a little time (sometimes alot of time) you will get over the feeling of missing him. Its obvious you two are not meant to be together. Good Luck to you.
2006-08-20 08:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. Time is healing. Of course you miss him because he's become part of your life. He's entered your way of living. Time is healing. Have fun with friends and family and find someone new. Someone that will make you happy. He's a jerk. You can do way better. You need someone to love you, not hurt you. Unless he really wants to change and comes back to you, then don't talk to him or even give the impression that you still think about him.
2006-08-20 08:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by sabi ^_^ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All this means is that you don't like him you love him and your afraid to leave him for another guy cause you know he will come after you!!! just break up with him and try to move on!!!
2006-08-20 08:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what you need to do you need to lay down and breath in and think about someone else or something else. Or think about your future it helps.
2006-08-20 08:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by Haily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is hittin you u do not need him 4real though
2006-08-20 08:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋