What sort of conversation would you have with them?
2006-08-20 08:06:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
learn to knock
at 6, if they were in private fine
apologise for voilating their privacy and tell them if they have any questions to ask you.
and make sure they wash their hands later
its normal
2006-08-20 08:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by head_banger_yyc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I walked in on my 7 year old doing something I'm not quite sure was masturbating but, it was something. He looked at me and I looked at him. After about 3 seconds I reminded him he needed to finish cleaning up (he was in the shower) and come down for his night time snack.
Was it wrong to ignore it? I don't know but, he doesn't hid in his room or lock the bathroom door since this happened 2 years ago, so I believe it's just exploring his own body which is natural.
2006-08-20 17:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by crzyhorse5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, this is completely normal for children with age - it is part of the child finding out about his/her body. The first thing is to explain to him/her that it's okay to do, just not to do it in public or in front of other people. Ask him/her if they have any questions about their body or anything else they want to ask you. Again, be honest and simple - more than likely the child will open up and ask some basic questions and then drop the subject.
2006-08-20 15:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by lonely_girl3_98 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your child that this is normal but only to do this in privacy (or only in his/her bedroom by themselves)-not in public. Also, tell them never to let anybody touch them in their private place and to tell you right away if this happens. Instead of being shy about saying correct names of body parts, don't be. Do not get too detailed because a 6 year old will not care and will probably not understand. Do not yell or make him feel like this behavior is wrong.
2006-08-20 15:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Justme 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all those who said this isn't normal are completely wrong. Kids notice things feel different in their privates at a young age.
So your son is normal and realizes it feels different.
His too young to know why it does and there's not a reason to talk to him about it yet.
If he's doing this at inappropriate times or places then you can tell him that's private time and he can do that in his room or in the bathroom.
Just to save him some embarrassment if he has the door shut, just announce you are coming in.
2006-08-20 16:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by ktwister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember it's normal - even infants feel plesure at manipulation - and unless it becomes an obsession, harmless.
Don't make a fuss about it, but you needn't encourage it, kids need stuff to do to keep busy, and not TV watching.
Wait till he's 15!
2006-08-20 15:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by whoknew 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I problem wouldn't say anything to him. I would wait for him to come to me. If he doesn't come to you then maybe one day out of the blue just ask him if he feels like he needs to talk about anything. If he says no then just leave it at that. There is really nothing you can do about it. Talking about may just make him feel like you invaded his privacy and you don't want him to feel this way especially with him being this young. Hoped this helped.
2006-08-20 17:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by crystal and tommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very serious. When a child that young is doing things like that it is usually a sign of molestation. I'm not trying to scare you or anything but that is a fact. You should ask them if someone is touching them, and explain that they are not going to be in any kind of trouble if someone is and tell them that it's not their fault. Sometimes kids still wont tell. The child will need some type of counseling for that too. Sexual abuse can cause serious problems mentally so I would get your kid some type of help asap.
2006-08-20 16:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lin_Z 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you walked into his room then you say sorry honey mommy / daddy will knock the next time your door is closed. Just make sure he understands what he is doing is to be done in the privacy of his room and that you will respect his privacy.
2006-08-20 15:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a conversation with him. It's a natural thing and everyone, even you does it. If you say you don't, then you're a liar.
Just pretend you didn't see him and move on. You don't want to make things worse or more embarassing for him by letting him know you saw what he was doing.
2006-08-20 15:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a 10 year old and six year old children but never seen them doing it. But if by chance i saw him doing it i will just say "Oi! Do it in private, dont let yourself be seen by others."
If you ask me why? Well it is a normal experience with young boys i think.
2006-08-20 15:24:20 · answer #11 · answered by hanna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋