I moved to a differnt state to be with my boyfriend, I think if he never got into an accident and didnt end up in a wheelchair i wouldnt even be here.
I love this kid but deep down i feel like he dont love me no more, he hit me and calls me stupid all the time. Tells me I take everything wrong.
I use to live in new york and i was a druggie and drank everyday. Im nineteen now, and i feel like i actually am doing better here but i cant be around my boyfriend when he doesnt seem to want to be with me but he wants me to stay so i dont end up dead meaning hes afaird ill do drugs again.
what should i do, i have no one to talk to here, and i dont want to be alone forever. im scared im gonna lose him forever.
I do ask him everyday if he wants to be with someone else and think hell cheat on me i think hes fed up now by the way hes acting i think i have insecurties everyone ****** me over and i turned to god but hes not helping me
2006-08-20 07:08:10 · 24 answers · asked by babygirl00087 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are allowing yourself to be the victim of physical and emotional abuse probably because you feel sorry for this guy. The only thing you'll be "losing" is a crutch, and a wobbly one at that. You're young enough that you're not going to be alone forever; I met the love of my life at the age of 33, and had to deal with a lot of lonely years between a toxic marriage/divorce and my current relationship.
Perhaps God has helped you but has not given you the answers in the way you had hoped. Everyone is insecure in some way or another, and everyone's been screwed over by others. That's just the price we pay for human interaction, and we have to pull a lot of weeds sometimes to get to the flowers. Cliche, but true.
2006-08-20 07:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should not matter whether this guy is in a wheelchair or not, if he is treating you like you don't matter or exist then you should think about moving on and find someone better. I realize he is concerned about you but he should not insist that you everything you say is out of context. If he is fed obviouly he does not know what he wants to do and that case maybe he needs to break up with you and move on. He could keep you from what you need to do. On the other hand if you two still are in love then you need to settle your differences before anything else takes place then that way you both can't say you did not get you say in the matter. It would be a start if it works then great if not then you know what you need to do.
2006-08-20 14:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be the accident has given him deep scars inside his heart and he feels dependent at such an age , he loves you but he is insecured that you ll leave him , thats why he must be acting wierd. but if you really love him and wanna be with him , then you gotta make him realize that you love him and you'll stick around him in sickness and in good health..
And stop asking him everyday if he wants to be with some one else... you need to give him his space at such a time, sometimes too much nagging is also not good .
Try spending more time with him , take him out of the house, take him too the park or may be a picnic or a vacation. or you can rent dvd s and watch or something which could divert his mind...
Life is not always easy, but it's precious. Cherish your experiences and be strong.
Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart. Try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language. Do not now look for the answers. They cannot now be given to you because you could not live them. It is a question of experiencing everything. At present you need to live the question. Perhaps you will gradually, without even noticing it, find yourself experiencing the answer, some distant day.
And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would never realize your potential, strength, will power or heart.
2006-08-20 14:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a grip girl ! I don't mean that in a smarta** way, i just mean you need to get a handle on your own life. If you are determined to stop using drugs and make a better life for yourself then your going to have to get out of that situation. you cant end up dependent on a guy like that, it will get you nowhere. Seek counseling,..you will make friends there that know exactly how you feel and what you are going through. I wish i could help more,..i wish you the best of luck
2006-08-20 14:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie....If he is hitting you, you better get out fast. You should go to school. Get loans, do whatever you have to do to keep you straight. I'm not super religious, but I do believe God is listening, his answers are right in front of you, you just need to be ready to accept those. The abuse you are taking from your boyfriend is NOT love. He just knows he has control over you and that you depend on him. You are too young to give up. There's still a chance. Don't sell yourself short.
2006-08-20 14:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Roseann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that sucks! I'm glad your feeling better! But him hitting you is wrong! And is against the law! You wont be alone forever. I do think you need to leave, if you can? Move on, your 19 and have the whole life ahead of you... Good Luck!
2006-08-20 14:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by wittster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is angry because of what's happened to him. And he's taking it out on you. He needs counselling.
And you do NOT need to be around him despite the fact of his circumstance. You do need counselling yourself or some support group to help you stay on the non-drug/non-drunk path.
He's trying to make you think less of yourself because of your past. You are not the first person to have done this. Many have also gotten their life together and been productive to society.
Find a nice place to live. Get your life together. Find someone to love you & for you to love in return.
2006-08-20 14:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are in a bad situation most people that are able body and then lose that, have a tendase to blame every body eles, u have to try and look at it from his point . he feels his life is over he is only half a man now, he is wrong of course . just because u lose apart of u ,u can still have a life i didn't lose anything but i have been this way all my life and i have done things that able body people have'nt done u need to tale him to git his **** togeather and have a life while he can because one day he wont be able to!
2006-08-20 14:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by drth2oman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you could use a friend. Don't give up on God, he never says never, he just says Not Yet! Keep asking God for guidance and help and don't be afraid of asking him to forgive your faults and help you he Will. God Bless you and I will pray for you. a friend. when you start getting closer to the Lord, the Devil will try to fight and get you back. Don't let him have you anymore, FIGHT BACK as for this jerk who hits you etc, get rid of him. It only leads to worse things.
2006-08-20 14:19:48 · answer #9 · answered by didntgetme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's hitting you, GET OUT! There is no excuse for treating someone you love (if he dows) that way. He may be going through issues of his own and taking it out on you but that's not fair. You sound like you are getting it together, don't let him drag you down and lower your self esteem, you can do better.
2006-08-20 14:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by Cyn R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋