I'm in my mid 20s and have always had a healthy happy sex life. I have been with my current boyfriend for 2 years now.
Recently (last 2 months), whenever we go to have intercourse, I find that I just don't enjoy it. I can get aroused and ready for sex, but once we start having intercourse, I just find myself wishing it could be done faster. I'm just so frustrated with my body and don't get why things just don't feel good anymore.
I love my boyfriend and don't really think it's anything he's doing (?) Like I said, we always have quite a bit of foreplay and I do get initially aroused. I just don't know how to talk with him about this issue either. I just feel so trapped and pressured when he wants to have sex, as I know I'm not going to enjoy it once we start.
The only med I'm on is Ortho-TriCyclen. Could that be doing this?
Anyone else dealt with this? What should I do? I would really prefer not to see a psychologist as I don't have the time nor money.
2006-08-20 07:00:12 · 17 answers · asked by J D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow-- I wasn't expecting a sermon on pre-marital sex. Do people honestly think it would be better to get married and then have sexual problems years down the road (likely resulting in divorce)?
2006-08-20 10:00:12 · update #1
You may need a new love in your life
2006-08-20 07:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birth Control pills do decrease sexual arousal..Think about it--they stop women from Ovulating. And its during Ovulation that sex hormones are released into the bloodstream, after the egg is released from the ovary..Any endocrinoligist or OB-GYN Doctor would tell you that sexual appetite is directly related to the amount of hormones in your bloodstream...Maybe you can talk to your doctor about switching to a lower dopse birth control--or maybe an IUD.
And women's sexuality is also tied to emotions. You've been with your boyfriend for 2 whole years--thats a long time. Maybe you're just plain tired of him..See, thats one of the reasons why we should Not have sex before marriage: If you have sex with your man for 2 years in every poistions under the sun 2 times a day--what do you Think is gonna happen after you get married? You think you're going to magically have this great and exciting new sex life? NO. You've been there and done that a million times over--and it's called being bored.
Look, take a break from sex. Give your body a chance to recooperate from 2 years of non stop premarital sex, non stop sex..He has no right to get pissed--he's not married to you and he's not your husband--your body belongs to you. Its like going on a diet..After a while, you'll be hungry again..But I would recommend you waiting until AFTER you both get married anyway--you dont want to have these problems come back after your wedding--and that could be a real bummer.
Take Care.
2006-08-20 07:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then try something news, something different, something more romantice before leading to intercourse . Candlelight dinner, bubble bathing together, or just lying next to each others sweet talking as long as possible. Or just try kissing each others , from head to toe ... or even ask your BF to give you a great body massage to release some of your stress . And lastly, try asking him to make love to you only by his lips and tounge , don't be surprise cause alot of women find oral sex is better than intercourse.
Good luck to you and your relationship.
2006-08-20 07:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by ilove_oral69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by springs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a vacation for few weeks Maybe you have over indulged..Once you start having negative thoughts about sex life it snowballs. It sometimes results in temporary impotency.You begin to start on a wrong foot.Your feeling that you do not enjoy it aggravates. You unconsciously refuse to enjoy it.So relax for sometime.The urge will rekindle for sure.
stop worrying.everything will be OK
2006-08-20 07:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by shribharatpshubh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having sex with someone else to see if you get the same feelings. If not then its take for a new boyfirned. if you have the
same feelings try having an orgasm from manually stimulation and bypass the intercourse to see if you are able to come
2006-08-20 07:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could very likely be the birthcontrol. Or it could be that you are worrying so much about it. Take a break. Tell your bf that you are stressing and that you feel pressured. Neither of these are very good for making you want to go at it.
Ignore the stupid self-righteous folks-- they don't get any themselves, so they are mad when other people do.
2006-08-20 10:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by thinkofasong 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Change is up a little. Do it some other place than bed or even at home. Make it risky! Or, you could try role playing! Thata always fun and kinky...
2006-08-20 07:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Brittany B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think maybe your not enjoying sex with your man is because maybe your body is desiring a women. Hmmm, just something to think about.
2006-08-20 07:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if the medicine could be a factor, but it might be time to try new things in the bedroom- you might be bored of the same old same old.
2006-08-20 07:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋