You are doing great!! Do it the way you want, not the way "they" want!! You seem to have your head on better than most, at least you have a plan. Stick to it!! I'm 44 and didn't get married until I was 30. The extra time allowed me to learn life and get things in order. Because when you get married, the next step is kids!! I'll be honest, my Dad's best advice was...NEVER GET MARRIED!!! Not to say it's bad, but when you don't have it you want it and when you get it you don't want it. Maybe I did it wrong, but there is no guarantee in any relationship. Many experts have failed. There is no 100% ready, that's a myth. Even religious people struggle with marriage (see lady who shot Priest husband). Once you're "in it", you're in it!! Take your time, it might not be that great piece of pie everyone says it is.
FOOD for thought: Just because you're a man, doesn't mean you'll be a great husband. Just because you're a man, doesn't mean you'll be a great Dad. Same women being a great wife or mom. You never know. You can only prepare the best way you know how.
2006-08-20 07:04:06
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answered by anitahooker_transvestite 2
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There is nothing wrong with being single still you should start worrying when your thirty right now you can take it easy. Your family is just how it is they will always push for your own good just tell them to wait it will come. I have a friend who is in her thirties never married never really been in a serious relationship. Shes not at all overweight or homeless or anything she is just taking her time.
2006-08-20 06:59:48
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answered by Anonymous
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If you're looking for something else then I don't see a problem with it. Some people are more mature than others and it changes the way they view things. It's the immature guys that have to try having sex with everything that moves. I say good for you!!!
2006-08-20 06:58:53
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answered by Anonymous
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i view it as fine, afterall it is your own choice, and a good one with great reasons. i never thought of a relationship as years of investment, but you have giving me a new outlook. i understand what you're saying, and think it's great that you are waiting for the one, and she'll come around when the time is right. no need to rush!
2006-08-20 07:00:27
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answered by Bitterly Sweet 3
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It is a personal choice. Waiting until your ready is what we all do, each of us just gets ready at a different time. No one can run your life except you. Tell folks to stop trying and you will live by your goals and schedules.
2006-08-20 06:57:31
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answered by 75160 4
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You stated that your family and friends are pushing you to find a nice girl, but to tell you the truth, they aren't the ones who would be in the relationship. You can't please everyone, so you might as well be content with yourself. You are a normal person....and to tell you the truth, I'd rather be alone and happy, then to be with someone and be unhappy.
2006-08-20 07:02:46
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answered by ? 5
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I think it's so good that you are trying to make the right choice ,,,you go guy ,it's your life and your happiness,,,it takes a stronger person to stand by how they feel than to just search ANYONE OUT TO JUST HAVE someone
2006-08-20 07:01:59
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answered by skybabe 3
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I think that it is completely normal that you have respect for dating, yourself and your potential mate. Even more so that you know what you want professionally, relationally and educationally.it is very mature that you realize what you want and do not want to have just anyone in your life. Be patient, stay on track but keep your eyes open for her too. Best wishes!
2006-08-20 06:59:47
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answered by rmdybles30 3
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No its no! you seem like you are very intentional about your choices in relationships, and it sounds normal and healthy to me. Kudos to you :)
2006-08-20 06:57:56
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answered by Christina 3
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That is abnormal but it is GOOD!! You know what you want and there is nothing wrong with that.
2006-08-20 06:56:42
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answered by Rachel Bitchface 5
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