I have a lot of male friends, some that I've been kool with since before elementary school. Well, lately they've been noticing me in a way that I'm really uncomfortable. They try to date me and talk to me as if I'm they're girlfriend and I really don't like it. I use to help them better their self and I use to teach them how females like to be approached and now they use that same advice on me...and it doesn't work. I'm use to listening to them talk about what girls are cute and who they would have sex with if they could but now I can't listen anymore because they talk about ME...and then when they ask me out and I say no they get very mad and it's like so confusing because I'm loosing my friends...how do I let them know that we are friends and friends only? Plus they all met and approve of my boyfriend and now they don't like him...I don't understand...
2006-08-20 06:35:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl please. This is sooo easy. I have a lot of male friends and all of them want me. The only difference between me and you is that when my male friends approach me in that way and get turned down, they respecct me enough to leave it alone and settle for friendship just to keep me in their lives some kind of way.
Your male friends' egos are bruised and so of course they are upset and don't want to talk to you and all of a sudden don't like your boyfriend because they feel like if he wasn't in the picture, then they would have a chance.
Right now, they are hurt and their pride is extremely hurt. If they are real friends, then they will get over it and realize that even though you don't want to be with them in that way, you are still willing to be their friend and they will accept that. But if they can't, then you guys just can't be friends and that's something YOU will have to accept.
As I said, all, but one of my male friends want to be with me and most are in love with me, yet we've been friends for years. I know how they feel about me and they respect how I feel about them. I can still go to them for advice about a man, but sometimes, they tend to hate on the guy cuz they let their feelings for me get in the way. YOU have to be able to decipher what's real and what's not.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-20 06:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are really friends then they will always be there.Its harder when we guys hit puberty growing up with girl friends.We think with our little heads for some time but then mature and most of us can handle a relationship with opposite sex.You just have to see what happens on down the line.
Good luck.
2006-08-20 13:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by cave dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let them know that dating them would be like dating your brother, and just friends is the way you want it to stay. They will get over it and come back to u for advice on girls neway.
2006-08-20 13:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a boyfriend why you don't star to respect him and try to find girls friends
i think it have to be so sad to be your boyfriend
you most be good just for sex that is why you are asking this question
2006-08-20 13:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hang out with boys because im the only girl in the neighborhood. and when i first met them they were cool and now they touch me and stuff. i cant stand that. so i let them know that they r like brothers to me. it worked. but whenever i got a boyfriend they tried to fight him.
2006-08-20 13:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♥la chica♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that's heavy just try and tell them look we're friends and i dont want relationship with you because, our friendship means too much to me to have it be ruined, also tell them you are involved with someone else and if they are really yo true friends they need to understand that, the ones that dont then let them go. hope i helped.
2006-08-20 13:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life moves quick baby, friends come and go. Good friends stay and understand.
2006-08-20 13:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by dramaqueen22801 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
have you tried dating them? you never know untill u try
2006-08-20 14:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by king cobra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men r sick
2006-08-20 13:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by lilhotshigger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋