My son, who is only 13, keeps wanting me to buy weights for him because he wants to "buff up". I told him that buffing up isn't very healthy if you go over the limit. My question is, is he too young to be soliciting his muscles, because I don't want him to ruin his body and look even worse when he's older because he pushed himself too hard at such a young age.
P.S.: He's not the kind of guy who does only what he can, he likes to push himself to the limit.
2006-08-20 06:33:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes i think he is too young, he should be having a good time not worrying about body issues. He's a child. tell him if he wants to get fitter he should join a team, like basketball or football. encourage him to get more into team sports which will still allow him to be a child but also get fitter. he should not be "pumping gas" by himself at 13, if he is surrounded by other healthy kids doing fun and active things then it should encourage him to do the same
2006-08-20 06:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by bananapancakes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will start weight training in school at this age so it isn't to early however if you are concerned maybe start with just hand weights and gradually build up to more. Talk to his coach at school and get a routine that would be good for him to folow at this age and then supervise to make sure he sticks to it and does nothing more than what is on the paper. If you can afford it and live in an area where it is available check into a gym where he can go to work out but at the same time you have control of when and how long.
2006-08-20 06:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no doubts that you will be able to persuade or dissuade your son from no indulging in early weight training; a simple visit to a health expert will be enough for that, that's all.
But what I am alarmed more about is your final remark, about him being extra pushy, and that I tell you is an early warning sign and thank god you are attentive enough to catch it in your son. He is suffering from low Self esteem that he is trying to cover up with extra body bulk, just as young girls these days doll up or starving themselves to stay slim, men do the reverse, when they suffer from low self esteem, they hit the gym, just because they believe that if they are not physically attractive they will not get love and affection. Sadly with each passing year this malady is starting way earlier than before.
Assure him that he is cool and worthy of love and attention if he just remains and appreciates who he is within. Help him discover his inner talents, plus special and unique qualities that only you can know.
My question is, where is he getting this habit from? Extra-pushiness, has he learnt is from somewhere within home?
Look back, mark when and did he learn this habit, and from whom? As it is a learned behaviour you will clearly know to turn back the clock before it’s too late.
Extra pushiness is a symptom of low self esteem, notice how did he loose it and how is he still doing so, what steps can you take to rectify this in time.
Also check out for activities you can use to divert his energies and also build on his self esteem, so that he no longer needs a body bulk to camouflage his sagging self esteem or lack of self approval.
Basically he is looking for your approval and appreciation that's all, give it to him please, what he so deserves, spend more time with him and let him know that he is worthy of not just your love but also your time, attention and of course affection.
2006-08-20 07:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried also. Tell him if he gets odd jobs and can save the money, he can buy his own set of weights. I am pretty tired of the fix it quick entitlement generation. Hopefully what he will learn is that working out and working are pretty much the same thing. You dont need to buy him something to improve his looks just because he wants it..... Maybe his extra time and excessive need to be recognized goes beyond the weights.
2006-08-20 07:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is OK. Let him left weights if he wants too better he lifts weights than smoke or something be happy you have such a smart kid.
2006-08-20 07:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he under pressure, I remember a lot of guys stressing out because they think about girls will only date jocks, or guys with muscles, maybe he is trying to fit in with his friend. Just tell the most important thing is to be himself. if that does not work im or e-mail att dcougar21@yahoo.com.
2006-08-20 06:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Taya Wane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should encourage him. anything that is positive is good for him. 13 is usually when boys take more notice of their bodies so let him lift weights because you should be happy that he's not lazy. and I'm sure that he will have more confidence. all the best.
2006-08-20 06:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by tom tom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea let him its his chose!
2006-08-20 06:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋