My fiance is white, 37 & lives with his parents. I am 34 & east Indian. He travels alot for his job that's why he lives with them. He also helps them alot. They are in their 70's. He does work around the house, pay some bills, garden even bought a new car for them. They want him to buy the neighbors house that's up for sale. B 4 I met him he didn't always have a steady job. But now he has a great job & responsible. He had sex with his girl friend in high school. His parents knew about it. Now they got a problem with us hugging each other. We've fooled around when they are not around. We even went on a trip together 2 visit his bro's. All his bro's and sisters lived together b 4 marriage. They even helped on of them move in together. Now they didn't like the idea of us going on that trip. We are all catholics. We went to confession & will not fool around anymore. I at least want to hug or kiss him. My honey said not to worry we will work thinks out & I will not loose him.
2006-08-20 06:15:48 · 7 answers · asked by cluelesschickus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have posted questions extremely similar to this one at least four times now. To tell you the truth, I did not believe that it was legitimate the first time that I read it.
If, however, your question is sincere, I have three comments:
1) Please stop asking it. Once is enough.
2) The fact that someone of your age would have to ask this causes great concerns on several levels, two of which being your self-esteem and the degree to which your religious beliefs challenge you in your daily life.
3) Why are you asking a bunch of strangers anyway? If your concerns are provoking you to go to such lengths, please seek some professional help on this immediately.
If you are going to lose someone to whom you are committed over a simple hug and kiss, perhaps he was not worth having in the first place. If the idea provokes such concern in you, perhaps you are not worth keeping. Get some help.
2006-08-20 06:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's a sin, but I can see some really "hard core" religious people thinking otherwise.
Honestly, it sounds more like his parents are really attached to him and they don't want to "lose" him... He's helping them out and seems to be the only one doing it. After he's gone, they'll be all alone and they probably don't like that idea.
I would be a little concerned if I were you- especially once you're married. You might find them butting in a lot. I'd be wary of buying a house so close to them, too.
However, that's just my opinion from the little information you've provided. I don't know the entire story and, so, could be off base here. I'm just saying what I see.
2006-08-20 06:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by dpfw16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
human beings of their 70's have a diverse values equipment than those of their 30's, as they were born in the 1930's. Catholic or no longer, a guy should be previous the age of parental administration through the age of 37, no matter if or not they cohabitate or no longer. the girl he had sex with IN extreme college became with him 20 years in the past, and they nevertheless have not enable this bypass? Are you prepared to marry this guy and stay lower than THEIR administration till the day they die?
2016-11-26 19:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out here in India old parents always stay with their children, they raised, so it is ok by me, as for you snuggling, they are not still used to seeing their son sexually active, may be too much time has elapsed since high school, so gradually they will get used to it.
As for moving in next door, that is a big decision as it would mean taking commitment for his ageing parents as well. Now discuss amongst his family as to how much the rest of the brothers would like to help you out.
2006-08-20 07:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u have said that ur fiancee had a relation with his girlfriend in his school days and also he is surrounded by people who live together before marriage,this shows that he is very free nd too very open minded,, above the limits..this sort of a relation is not very common in india,as u said u r from east india..indian people r more conservative nd believe in rituals..
its just that parents try to be extra protective about their children.u just need to sit calmly and explain them that u r mature enough to handle relations independently..u just need to get their full faith and support on urself,that u will do no bad and that which is against ethics...
2006-08-20 06:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like either his family has a problem with different races or they just don't want him to grow up and move away and stop helping them out...next time the parents are around just hold hands until they get use to the idea you are there to stay and help too...
2006-08-20 06:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it sounds like his parents are being really unreasonable. I would let him take care fo things with his family if he says he will. Youre both adults, you arent doing anything wrong.
2006-08-20 06:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋