We have know each other for almost 2 years and even went thru our pregnancies together. Her son is 11 days older than my daughter. Her wedding will be Santa Fe, NM during spring break thats 7 months away. She said it will be a small ceromony because she knows not very people would be able to make it up there. If I knew that I was invited I would start saving now and try and make it. I would even spend the night with her while he was out doing field traings for a week.
But should I feel left out if she dont invite me.
2006-08-20 06:04:23 · 11 answers · asked by ga-ne-lu-gi-a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have told her that I will help her plan it anyway that I can. I also told her that I will buy her every bridal and wedding magazine I can find.
I wont feel bad if she dont invite me. I just wanna be happy and excited for her because she id the first of any of my friends to get married.
2006-08-20 08:04:41 · update #1
I think that you should just talk to her right now about the whole thing. I would let her know that even though she said she is having a small ceremony, you wouldnt want to miss it for the world because she is very important to you and you dont want to miss her big day just because it is in another state.
Let her know that you will have the money to go, and if she needs any help to plan it, that you will give her your assistance. If she doesnt invite you, dont feel bad. When she gets home, plan a small affair to celebrate the wedding with close friends of hers. That way you can still show her that she is a very important person to you. Odds are if she doesnt invite you, there will be other friends of hers who wont be going as well but who would love to celebrate the wedding when she got back home.
2006-08-20 06:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing, it's seven months away. I've received invitations to weddings as close as a month or two to the wedding. If you aren't invited, don't feel left out, unless you find out she invited everyone she knew EXCEPT you. One thing you have to realize too, is that every individual they invite adds to the cost of the wedding. The more people they invite, the more invitations they need, the larger venue they need, the more food and drinks they need to provide, and in some cases, the more hotel rooms they need to rent. Finally, she may be thinking of you...perhaps she does not want to make you feel like you have to spend all this money traveling to their wedding.
2006-08-20 06:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel left out if she doesn't invite you. Chances are she isn't going to. When people have destination weddings, they normally just invite close family and super close friends, which might amount to 10 people. But if she brings up her wedding when you're talking to her, just ask if she's let the people know that are invited so they can start saving....that way it doesn't look like you expect an invite (which you shouldn't act like you do) and you'll find out if she has let people know. If she has, you know you're not invited. Or, just start saving...if she doesn't invite you, you'll have money to go on a vacation with!
2006-08-20 06:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So, why don't you start saving anyway. If you aren't invited, then you can treat yourself to a nice vacation or invest the money someplace. If you *are* invited, then you won't be caught off guard.
If she's telling you that it's a small ceremony then she's probably not going to invite you. I know it smarts a little, but at least it can be a pleasant surprise if she does!
2006-08-20 08:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was waiting for an offer from you to come to where she is. Something like, " if you need any help,............
Mention it in the next conversation. If she declines you're offer, she may still send you an invite. Just wait & see. Or if you want to know the answer now, Ask her.
2006-08-20 06:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you might just be missing something here. Better talk with someone who has a brain. Obviously you don't.
2016-03-26 22:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just want family members only. I'm sure she still consider you as her Friend jut because you're not invited that doesn't mean anything. there other things that more important.like taking care of your child.
2006-08-20 06:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by samdrian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be thinking of way to ask you if you can afford it, I would offer to help her make a guest list, that might be an ice breaker for someone to bring it up
2006-08-20 08:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lysa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats ok, come on over to my place, we can have a few beers, get drunk and i can take advantage of you
2006-08-20 06:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be really, hurt too :(
2006-08-20 06:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋