How do you stop 9 and 6 years old boys from fighting and arguing? Even the 2 year old girl now joins in.?

Answer 1

welcome to the wonderful world of parenting...lol When they fight, tell them you do not like to hear them fight and everytime they fight they have to do a chore for you. For example make the 9 year old sweep the kitchen and the 6 year old dust the furniture. They will make a better effort to get along...Hope this helps.
P.s. I once sent my two little brothers out in the yard with safety scissors and make them cut grass for 15 minutes..lol
Audrey

Answer 2

My mom had two techniques for us four kids who just wouldn't quit fighting. Number one: She would ground us apart. She would not allow us to talk to each other or play with each other or each other's toys. We couldn't even be in the same room together! This usually worked when we were younger because we didn't have any playmates if we didn't have each other, and she wouldn't let us play with outside friends just to get the point across (although we didn't know why at the time). Number two: She would ground us together when we were teenagers. We had to do everything together, eat, share a room, if one of us wanted a nap, the other had to have one, and if I wanted to read a book I had to read it aloud to my brother. We had to eat exactly the same foods, in the same amounts, so if he wanted second and third helpings of dinner I had to have it too. When we went to the bathroom the other one had to stand outside the door, like there was an invisible string tying us together (DO NOT TIE THEM TOGETHER)! It drove us nuts, and so we became endlessly polite to one another so my mom would let us off grounding. This was when we were early teenagers. Also if we wanted to visit a friend and hang out, we had to take the sibling with us ( how embarrassing)! Maybe this will help, I sure hope so since I now feel so guilty about driving my mom nuts for so long, and hope my kids don't put me through that!!!

Answer 3

I do feel for you,I never had that trouble with my boys, they have a 2 yrs 5 months age gap.
I would always stop any fighting before it would get started, the best way to discipline older kids is to take away their toys, until they learn to behave and respect each other.Be consistent, every time they are naughty, take something that they really enjoy playing with away, for a set period of time, if when you return it to them the fighting continues take it away even longer. i have 4 kids ages 14, 11,4 and 10months
We also give our kids a wonderful life, full of treats, so if they behave well they have a great time. Praise and give them your time, and give discipline when necessary as kids actually like boundaries it makes them feel secure and loved.

Answer 4

MY Kids are boy 10, girl 8 they FIGHT and complain the most in the car! So annoying. I'm due for #3 to be born in December I HOPE THE HUGE AGE DIFFERENCE cuts out that fighting. I take away privileges like the playstation/ bike when they fight it helps. sometimes i just ignore them if the fight is mild. I feel 4 people who have kids all very close in age.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Every time they fight they get a punsihment, a chore to do, a time out, something that they absolutely can't stand doing. If they argue with you or whine, time is added on for the punishment.
explain to them that this is the new rule and it will apply to all fighting and arguing. Reward them for a week of no quarrelling with a pizza, ice cream something small but celebratory.

Answer 7

Try giving them a star chart for each time they are good, at the end of the week give them a treat. Could be anything from you reading to them,playing tents with sheets and clothes horse to hugging and video time. Don't forget to praise them when they are good and try not to talk to them if they fight,while seperating them. They will love the attention and time spent with you!

Answer 8

Set them ground rules when they are calm...... let them know the punishment that they will get if they break the rules (eg sitting on the stair for 5 mins).
You must ensure that you carry out the punishment if they dont conform.

Star charts are another incentive for when they are good.

There are lots of good books on children management.

Consistancy is the key to it all though

Good luck!!

Ian

Answer 9

I use to fight with my brothers all the time.My parents would make us apologize,shake hands,and give each other a hug.We had to do it while we was still mad at each other so we didn't like that none.It slowed us down but boys are gonna fight.

Answer 10

Well first off boys will be boys. what I have found works is first off DON'T scream at them, think about it do you like it when someone screams at you? walk up to them and separate them, then find out why they are fighting and resolve that issue. then have them make up, with my kids they give each other hugs then its noogie time and you turn the anger to laughter and fun.