The idea that this is a choice is confounding to me. For pitys sake, if I could have chosen to be Gay, I can assure you I would have. I would have a greater insight into my partners heart. I am just not built that way though.
2006-08-20 06:00:57 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
yes you would think. obviously some people experiment (I call them pervy) but I was pretty genetically straight as soon as the hormones kicked in and I couldn't help it. I didn't make the choice to be straight, any more than a gay person made the choice to arrive in junior high with hormones raging and fall for someone of their sex. we're born that way.
2006-08-20 06:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by mishel24 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Homosexuality is NOT a choice. I didn't wake up saying I WANT TO HAVE GAY FEELINGS THIS MORNING BECAUSE, WELL, WHY NOT?
I feel saddened that hateful voters make hateful decisions claiming it's best for the people that they often know nothing about (or care to). Just because you happen to not be gay doesn't mean people that you vote policy for or talk about do not get affected by your decisions.
How many of you would be ok with never having been able to love someone (as a partner, or even a date) your ENTIRE life? To be single forever? Or to have lived with and loved someone for decades and have someone who doesn't even know you call it sinful and illegitimate? What makes you think gays enjoy that?
I think any religious faction that teaches people to ignore the love that a couple has and focus on their genitalia is a lame. Some of you out there give me faith in humanity and God. And some of you are too fixated on fixing every so-called problem in the world that you actually cause more harm than good.
I can remember references of slavery, human sacrifice (murder), and polygamy in the Bible. Please read your religious scriptures with a heart AND a brain. They are good books, but if the end result is hatred, you are missing the point.
2006-08-20 18:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by sundiegan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is gay and he swears that if he had a choice he would have been straight because he wants nothing more than to be "normal". He goes through ridicule, the comments, all the small minded people judging him all the time, and the feelings of isolation, no one that is truly gay would choose to go through that. He would love to have a family and kids (not in a gross way either), a dog and a picket fence but that's not who he is in his heart and soul. It has been proven that a gay man's brain is more like a woman's as far as size of the hypothalamus is concerned, also gay men are turned on by different pheromone smells than straight men (google brains of gay men). God made each and every one of us, God doesn't make mistakes. The Bible was written by many men who did and then rewritten in English so there is much room for error. I believe that you do have a choice to not act on your homosexual feelings but why should you have to do that? Be who you are and don't apologize for living your own life the way you want, it is the only way a person can be truly happy.
2006-08-20 07:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by loudmouth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't appear to be a choice. And I don't necessarily believe that even if they did have a choice, they would choose to be heterosexual. And thank God, people are becoming more tolerant. It's very possible for a homosexual to live a life without undergoing a lot of persecution today. Society has become a lot less homophobic. Of course, if you are living in a little burg out in the country, life could be absolutely miserable. And just because two people of the same sex get together, doesn't mean that they have an easy time understanding one another. To me it seems that they have just as hard a time maintaining their relationships as heterosexuals. Relationships appear to be difficult no matter what your sexual orientation. At least that's my view. But I do agree with you. Sexual orientation is not a choice.
2006-08-20 06:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only choice made is if you decide to pursue your life by living the "gay" lifestyle. In western society, everyone is assumed to be heterosexual and society is built around that. Many homosexuals who are loving despair when they feel they are not part of this assumed norm and feel shunned when they no loger feel the identity forced upon them to be straight. So when a person chooses to live their life with dignity and truth, many will get persecuted, even killed. If you don't stand for up for anything, you will go for everything. If I had a penny for every straight man I been with, I would make Donald Trump look like a hobo. Either be true to yourself and live the life you want, or get married then sneek out on your spouse to be with a same sex partner, which is decietful to you, your spouse and your lover. is it worth it just to save face?
2006-08-20 06:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by ken8str8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible teaches we are all born with a sin nature. So we all have a bent toward different sins, alcoholism, overeating, fornication, etc. Being gay is another sin. With Gods help we can overcome sin, any sin. I was an alcoholic and I struggled with that for 9 years, I always loved Alcohol from the time I was young. I liked the taste of it, the way it made me feel, etc. But then I got to the point where I couldn't live that way anymore and I went to AA and came to know God as my higher power. He healed me and I have been sober for 17 years.
Dr. Dobson has a ministry called Love won out and many have come out of that lifestyle. The damage from giving in to a sin is always there, but healing is possible with God.
2006-08-20 06:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend from college is gay.. and I love him dearly. For years he avoided telling me he was gay because he thought I would judge him - and I can understand that because his parents disowned him but I can't say that didn't hurt a little as I thought he knew me much better than that - and he has told me that it isn't a choice. He said to choose being gay most would have to be completely insane to go against what most of society feels is 'normal'. All he wants is what the rest of us do.. a nice, enriching life with the person he loves. I don't think that is a lot to ask for.
2006-08-20 06:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by genaddt 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
But being gay is not a choice. If being straight was a choice, I was absent the day it was given as an option, and trust me, there are some days when I'd love to go back and have a second shot.
I have tried to be straight, and have failed miserably. I cannot help the fact that I am gay. And before anyone gets into pedophilia or any other nonsense like that, who am I hurting? I have a girlfriend who is a consenting adult, as am I, so who are we hurting?
People who say being gay is a choice are ignorant, because if you've never had to make that choice, how can you know if it is or isn't?
2006-08-20 06:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You are exactly right. Human nature being what it is (republicans know this better than anyone) people gravitate to that which benefits them the most. obviously, you have more opportunity and acceptance being straight than gay, so if it was a matter of choice, people would change themselves into what ever benefited them best. Its NOT a choice for real gay people. Don't be confused by people who just like to rub up against anything. They are out there too.
No use denying how how God made you. His ways are misterious and he doesn't have to answer to us. If your gay, your gay. Enjoy it. if not, enjoy that too. There are unique benefits to each.
2006-08-20 06:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by j g 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Avoiding persecution??? Can any of us do that? No matter what the issue is???
We live in a world where diversity is deemed as separateness, instead of a way to creative productivity...the media, & other money mongers use these types of "human idiosies" to do what they do best...make money, maintain conflicts, and move us around the chess board at will....and we allow this soooo easily, don't we?
2006-08-20 06:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by msE758 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly. This is further evidenced by the high number of homos who desperately try to live a straight life in order to prevent that persecution. For many, they eventually give in to nature and come out later in life. Anybody who has come out later in life will tell you the same thing... I'm at peace with myself now, despite all the persecution I might face.
2006-08-20 06:11:01 · answer #11 · answered by bikerchickjill 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋