I did some favors fo a neighbor who reciprocated by inviting my wife and myself to a nice restaurant for dinner. Should I have paid the tip?
2006-08-20 05:56:52 · 31 answers · asked by luther 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Did the neighbor pay for the meal? Why are you being so cheap?
2006-08-20 06:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by chereechanta 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you had just gone out together and he sprang for dinner you should have paid the tip. But he was returning a favor to you. Thanking you. The full cost of the meal was his responsibility. That he also invited your wife was nice but she was still an invited guest and as such was part of the thank you.
Must have been a nice thing you did for him, though.
2006-08-20 13:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by morrowynd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A gratuity is never required, rather it is a sign of a job well done. Some people tip, some people dont. If you do tip, you tip based on the service you have recieved. If you're a person that does tip, whether or not you paid for the dinner, you should have left a gratuity for the service (assuming it was good enough to have earned a tip).
2006-08-20 13:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by americas_funniest_animal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one that buys the dinner pays for the whole thing, tip included.
If I took some one out for dinner and they offered to pay the tip I would refuse to let them and may be a little offended. Its like saying while I was generous enough to buy dinner for my friends I'm not generous enough to give a decent tip to the waitstaff or that my friends can pay 15% of what I just did and call it even. I just feel like it minimizes the gesture of buying dinner. Also buying dinner is giving a gift and we don't tell people how much we spent on their gifts nor is it proper to ask, which you would have to do to give a proper tip.
2006-08-20 13:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would have been a nice gesture but no, they "invited" you. So the burden of the entire cost was upon them, including the tip, which is part of the cost of the meal.
You could've said, "Thank you for the lovely meal, do you mind if I get the tip?" if that is truly what you wanted to do. This would give them the option of saying yes or no. Peace.
2006-08-20 13:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so.
and a good tip at that. you didnt pay for dinner and if the service was good, then you should have left the tip.
remember that the waitress counts on the tips to earn a living. she doesnt get a check like a normal job. and they do work really hard most of the time.
along with serving, they also have to clean, restock, do all kinds of things that people dont usually think about.
2006-08-24 08:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have at least offered to pay the tip. If the host politely declined, then at least you offered to do so. They, in a sense, were paying you back for the favors you had done for them. They chose to say thank you by taking you to dinner. Leave it at that.
2006-08-20 18:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by crazedchipmunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would have only been the polite thing to do for you to offer to pay the tip but in return since the meal was on them for you doing them a favor they should have said no we got it
2006-08-20 13:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by jlthomas75844 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The tip should be paid, but not necessarily by you. If your friend invited you out to a restraunt where tipping is expected, they should expect to pay for the dinner and the tip. It would be nice of you to offer to pay the tip, but it shouldn't be expected of you.
2006-08-20 13:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by almicrogirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I invite someone to a restaurant I expect to pay the whole shot.It would have been a thoughtfull gesture to offer the tip, but not necessary.
2006-08-20 13:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone else is paying for the meal, I always offer to leave the tip. It's a nice gustier
2006-08-20 14:20:09 · answer #11 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋