I put up a similar question but I was hoping for more answers and to hear from the female population. My ex and I split up after 2.5 years about 3 months ago, she has a daughter who I LOVE, we had brokend up a few times and always got back together, but this time it was for real. I've met a girl and we went out a few times, she's fallen pretty hard for me, I like her, and am taking it slow, don't want to rush into anything, well my ex is pretty upset over this, she had hoped I'd fight for her and not want anyone else. I care a lot about her and dont' want to hurt her or the other girl.
I can say that she gave the relationship 120%, whereas I did not even give 100%. Should I give it one more go, or let it be and see where this new relationship goes?
2006-08-20 05:44:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The answer to your question lies in the fact that you've broken up repeatedly, AND the fact that you said you never gave your whole attention or energies to the relationship from day one.
Remember too, that while you'd like to think this is about the new girl, it really isn't. Its about the fact that you've never severed the ties you have with your ex, and you've never had complete closure, which is what you must do now, for everyone's sake.
It would be unfair of you to string your ex along any longer. You should however be completely forthright and tell her that you don't want to get back on the merry-go-round again only to jump off the next time things get crazy. So you need to tell her that you're ending it once and for all; you're terribly sorry for the hurt you've caused in the past and are still causing, but that your whole heart was never in the relationship from the start.
To cement this consideration, you (and she) need to think about the little girl. It must be incredibly hard emotionally on her to keep popping in and out of her life, so it would be best if you just quietly went away and didn't come back.
2006-08-20 05:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're not ready to move on to a new relationship. I'd be honest with the new woman you're dating and find out how she feels. You and your ex, however, broke up for a good reason. Why would you want to put it back together again?
2006-08-20 12:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you broke up and it's been 3 months, and you started dating with out fighting for her again.It sounds like you don't want to keep going with her.Maybe what it is , you might care about her but not love her any more.Think things through and figure out what it is you really want.
2006-08-20 12:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn from your mistake and move on. if you didn't even give 100% then maybe there was a reason why. when you love someone you will give them the world if you could. and would damn sure try just that.
just remember to learn from this and apply it to the next relationship. good luck :)
2006-08-20 14:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by missi49509 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on which you like more. you have to be able to decide who would be less hurt. just follow your heart. i know you hear it all the time in movies and stuff. But it is true. Nobody can tell you what to do. You need to figure out for yourself. Good Luck :)
2006-08-20 13:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetie Pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And on and on and on and on OH! hes finished look poyndexter I dont have time to read such long questions so keep them shorter in future comprende????
and If ya dont like the heat you shouldnt throw stones or summet like that Bobby.
2006-08-20 12:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both sound too immature. Now you are dragging another poor innocent into this. Don't date anyone. Game players.
2006-08-20 12:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her time came and has now passed so try the other lady too and see what will come out of it.
2006-08-20 12:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by princess a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends what you want. if you really love her go after her don't let her go that easily.don't do it just because you love her child.do it because you love her. and if you don't love her try it with this new girl and see how it goes.
2006-08-20 12:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by purplecookies68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to move on
2006-08-20 12:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋