My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months and I met his family the first month. I am always polite when I'm at his house, I always help out (I help make dinner, clean up, do things that need to be done, etc.) and I have conversations with his parents and try to be friendly. We are juniors in high school and all of our friends are allowed to stay out to 1 or 2 on weekends (that's my curfew too). His curfew is 10, sometimes 11, and this means that if I'm at his house, I have to leave by then and his mom decided yesterday that he can do something only once a weekend.
Basically, we're trying to figure out what he can say to his parents, because we aren't sure why they are this way. We are in a very committed and loving relationship, and it was his decision to wait on having sex. He wants them to understand that (they think we're having sex, we're not), and reconsider their strict rules. Does anyone know what he can say that's polite and respectful and will make them change?
2006-08-20 05:41:30 · 11 answers · asked by Elizabeth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him to set his parents down and tell him how he feels. I went through this same thing with my parents.
he can use they speach I used..
"Mom, Dad.. You've raised me right, you've tought me the difference between right and wrong, you've showed me when to joke around and when to really settle down and to what needs to be done. I alwats try to do what I think is right, and I think I do a pretty good job, but I don't feel like I'm being treated that way. I want you guys to trust me, but I have more restrictions than alot of people I know.
I just want to prove myself to you."
2006-08-20 05:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell him to have a conversation with them, and make sure that he says that you guys aren't having sex, and ask if he could have maybe even just an hour later for his curfew (dont try to push it) or to go out more than once a weekend, but remember not to try to ask to much of them, just a little at a time, to show that you can wait, and that you both are mature. But if they are really strict and you know that they might say no to that then just wait awhile, they might lighten up in time, as he gets older! Good Luck
2006-08-20 05:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Sydd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this i understand parent can be controlling but most of the time they are more worried about you getting hurt. Most young adults die at night in car wrecks and other activities that happen when young adults get together not that you will be trying to be in a situation that can cause this but in truth it does happen if you are financially dependent it is there rules unless you move out and do it on your own you will have to respect their wishes as for a 16 hour drive if you never driven on it is dangerous if you are new to long distance driving and to be a young female by yourself not safe. You are an adult and young and to be honest the 10 pm curfew to be in bed is a little much but to them you are there baby girl and they dont want anything to happen to you. I became a mom just 16 months ago and I am noticing that I understand my parents more now they want to protect you from the world.
2016-03-26 22:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG....
My parents would NEVER let me stay out until 1 or 2 am when I was a junior. And thank goodness they never did.... what in the world are you doing out that late.
I agree with his parents and you two should respect their wishes.
By the way, its impressive that you two have decided to hold off on the sex.... I applaud your maturity.
2006-08-20 05:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Katie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u should do is tell them that you guys understand the rules, but the were wondering if some things could be changed. let them know that u have talked about having sex, but decision is to wait. just talk to them in a very matur maner and let them finishing saying what they have to say. if they yell or raise their voices dont do that back. make sure u know what you guys what to say and ask them to let you finish before they speak.
2006-08-20 06:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to break it to you sweety, but he is still in high school and living in his parents house. What they say goes.......His parents are being protective and still trying to hold onto their little boy for a bit longer. If I were you, I wouldn't fight it...they are his parents after all and can make or break the relationship....or they can just make his life miserable which I am sure you don't want either. Just relax and go with the flow...that is all you can do after all.
Good luck!
2006-08-20 05:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by latina21_01ucf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't mean any harm. I guess as parents, they are just trying to guide both of you. I will advise yuo play along with their rules.
2006-08-20 05:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by freeall_freeme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play along by their rules for a while and then later on-maybe next year, you can see if they lighten up.
2006-08-20 05:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by whatever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient he will be 18 sooner than you think and when he is than he doesn't have to listen to his parents anymore and he can do whatever he wants to.
2006-08-20 05:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect there rules and they'll come around after time.
2006-08-20 06:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by Wood77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋