2006-08-20 05:38:54 · 22 answers · asked by gyges_77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am the same way. My reason is because I have always been the "strong" one in my family and I do not want to let them down. So, I grieve in my own way, by myself. Do not feel bad for not crying. Some people just will not allow themselves to let others see their emotions. You have to find your reason why and work on that. If you never cry at all, that is not good. You have to let out your emotions somehow. Crying is the best way. I use to cry when I was in the shower, then I could always blame shampoo in my eyes for the redness and puffiness. Let it out....somehow.
2006-08-20 05:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotions are tricky. Here are a few possibilities but you know yourself best.
You mourn differently..maybe one day you'll have a thought and then you start breaking down.
You don't think about it because it is so painful. You are in denial. This is a way the mind ignores pain.
You were not that close to them. Sorry, but even family relationships require emotional input. No work = no bond. Did they listen to you? Did you laugh a lot and have fun together? Were they very supportive of your emotions and goals?
You have a chemical inbalance.
You are on a certain drug..maybe valium.
Thats all I can think of for now.
Dave
2006-08-20 05:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ilooklikemyavatar..exactly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have not really taken the time to think about what has happened to them. People show emotions different ways. Some of us cry, some work a lot harder . etc. I t is not really good to hold back you emotions. You can cry, and no one would think anyless of you,. Because it will build up in you and you will be the next one . Even if talking to a dog etc and crying is best. . Pem
2006-08-20 05:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they hurt you and you've built up walls against them. Once you forgive them, release your anger, then maybe you can mourn the loss of them?
Forgiveness means that you admit that you are party to blame for the troubles between you two. And because you feel bad about what you've done, you know you are a good person and can forgive yourself. As an "evil" person would feel nothing.
But since they're gone there's no chance you could ever receive an apology from them, so you have to face the fact you'll never know if they loved you or not. If you suspect they didn't then realize they had their own problems and their dislike for you only reflected on them and their upbringing, not on your worth. No one else can tell you who you are.
2006-08-20 05:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People deal with grief in different ways. There's no rule that says everyone must cry when they've lost a loved one. It could be that there's so much going on, so much happening, the shock of it all. You may not be able to cry, but it doesn't mean you don't care.
2006-08-20 08:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crying is simply a visible indication of grief. You don't display your grief in this outwardly demonstrative way, and that is ok. As long as you FEEL something when a family member dies, that is what counts.
2006-08-20 05:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves in their own way. There's no law that says you have to cry. If you cry, it will happen naturally.
2006-08-20 05:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE YOU are the strong one in ur family and u love ur family but maybe ur heart wont let u cry
2006-08-20 05:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by 2 THICK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can. Go ahead and shed those tears. It is better for you to deal with it then supress it. If someone gives you a hard time, you can mourn privately in your room.
2006-08-20 05:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone grieves in the same way...just because you don't cry doesn't mean you don't care. I don't think you should worry about it.
2006-08-20 05:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋