2006-08-20 05:12:44 · 9 answers · asked by genny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been on both sides of this before.
The best thing to do, if you want to stay friends, is to make sure you really talk it out. Tell him clearly why you don't think a romantic relationship would be right for you, and take the time to listen to his feelings (it's always possible you might not have given him a fair chance). Pay him some compliments, so he doesn't think he's unattractive in general, and, if you can, steer him towards someone who *is* interested in him.
Unfortunately, when one person has strong feelings for another, it can be hard to maintain a friendship without those feelings coming back again. It's possible that your friendship might cease, especially if you start seeing someone else. Sometimes it's better to just let it go and hope it can start again in the future.
2006-08-20 05:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you know this person is interested in you romantically, but you just want to be friends? I think if you're good friends you talk about it. What matters is whether the other person will be able to move along with the friendship and not let those feelings cause problems. However, I will tell you from my past experiences being both the just friends party and the I want it to be more party, that the feelings don't ever go away. It's just a matter of how much you can conceal them and keep them buried. You still hope all the time that the other person will start wanting more too. And if you just want to be friends, it's something you always wonder about as the friendship ages too. Talk it out, see if it will work. You may have to distance yourself for a while or end it if the feelings she/she has are too much of an obstacle.
2006-08-20 12:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have such a friend. It can get a little uncomfortable every now and then. We really like are friendship though so he stays in check. He will remind me often he likes me more. It hurts his ego, but he deals with it OK. whenever he mentions he would like more, I just say I know. I am also totally honest with him about what things in our personalities I do not think would mesh for a long term relationship ( this may be a little more uncomfortable if you just don't find him attractive). There is one other guy that likes me, that I do not choose to spend time with. He tries to hard, and does not let it drop. It is a harder relationship for the one who wants more, they have more emotion involved. So try to be honest and respect their feelings, and don't play them.
2006-08-20 18:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by tbhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say all i want 2 be is friends and if you have a problem with it then we are not gonna be friends no more
2006-08-20 12:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by diana w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good communication channel is very vital, whether or not you're together physically.
2006-08-20 12:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know your own mind, and stick with it, no matter what he thinks or say, it matters what you think and say!
Gayle
I have this a lot myself!
2006-08-20 12:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by gayle j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have sex with them,
make sure that your not leading them on and don't put yourself in tricky situations , like getting drunk alone with them.
2006-08-20 12:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by enigma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wont happen. Sorry
2006-08-20 12:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by bigclemente 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it abundately clear that you are not insterested and if he/she is ok, then dont worry about it.
2006-08-20 12:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by milehighstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋