Say, you're in a pub, it happens. Honestly now, what would you do?
Do you stand up for youself and fight?
Do you accept being treated in that way, and allow it?
Or do you do something else? If so, what?
2006-08-20 04:24:37 · 33 answers · asked by Wax Crayon 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Girls, what do you expect a guy to do?
2006-08-20 04:25:30 · update #1
This does happen a lot and it honestly depends on what kind of person you are and honestly even on your size. The first thing you need to realize is that if youre in a bar it will probably be broken up before anyone could get hurt(probably) I definately wouldnt want to take it though, girls wouldnt want to be with a guy that took it either, they may not want a guy who fights at the drop of a hat but they definately dont want a guy who gets pushed around. You could also make a scene so the bouncers interfere and get it straightened out. For sure do not act impressed or intimidated by these types. They live for that. I would recomend saying something like "Are you serious, are you really trying to fight me in a bar? Get a life" It shows youre not scared and also doesnt imply you want to fight.
2006-08-20 06:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by drunkbomber 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone in an earlier answer suggests that 'you stand up for yourself and slug him in the solar-plexus.' Well, that is maybe easier said than done, if you are disabled, and say maybe a quadriplegic.
This is an irritating daft question (for me) as it assumes a great deal (about EVERYONE) and offers no alternatives as a result.
In an earlier question there was the description used of someone being a 'weeiner' (or however spelt) which to me means 'a sausage,' and I'm assuming that wasn't what was meant. But anyway, to me the point is that for some reason there are those people who are unable to articulate what they think, feel of mean without simply reverting to the childhood habit of 'calling someone a name,' or 'summing someone up with a piece of name calling,' as if a 'simple and singular word is THE ANSWER TO EVERYTHING,' like 'A** kicking.'
In a confrontational setting (not of my causing) a guy asked me, "What's your problem then," and my reply was "Infantile Paralysis, actually. Why, are you a Doctor?" At that point he realised that i was telling the truth, and the laughter from around us both made him look a little foolish (in his eyes too) and lifted the hostility.
Some people are simply bound to get their jollies through physical aggression, principly because they are unable to articulate themselves and take responsibility for this. And in that case, it is probably better to simply say, 'Yes, you win,' and walk away.
The question is difficult because there are so many contributing elements that could give a different result on a different day - to the 'average person.'
2006-08-20 05:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Point out that through the threatening, you are in apprehension of immediate personal and unlawful violence and that he has fulfilled both the mens rea and the actus reus of the offence of assault (Fagan v. Metropolitan Police Commissioner [1969] 1 QB 439).
Then when he punches you for being a gobsh1te, giving you a black eye, inform him that he is now criminally liable, under section 47 of the Offences Against the Person Act 1861, of the offence of assault occasioning actual bodily harm. By this time, hopefully he will have got bored or some shiny object will have diverted his attention. Then you can get up, brush yourself off and slope out of the pub.
This is what I expect from a man, no more, no less. I really hate it when I have to beat up blokes for my chap. It kind of changes the power balance in the relationship.
2006-08-20 04:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by arwen4838 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its only your ego that's hurt, your ego can survive. If you fight you may be injured even brain damaged then where are you. You may end up really injuring the other guy and get a jail sentence and your no better off. Ask the guy what you have done to upset him and try and diffuse the situation. Try to walk away there are more bars to drink in don't go down to his level. If all else fails a fight only lasts about 3 seconds and the winner is usually the one that gets the first punch in.
2006-08-20 05:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mohawk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find an old Japanese man with no family . Wash his car and do unpaid menial jobs for him . He will then teach you the way of the empty fist . Then when you are in the pub and some meat head threatens you , you can unleash your fury . You might wake up in casualty but at least you have a chance of meeting Nick Knowles or Ainsley Harriot . Go for it!
2006-08-20 04:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he beats you, you are going to be hurt. If you beat him you might hurt him and be liable for thousands of dollars in medical expenses. Brush it off. If it is really bad, get the bouncers to throw him out. Don't embarrass your date. Don't set your self up for trouble. Think of Michael J. Foxx in back to the future 3 when he would not drag race against those guys who egged him on.
If he attacks you that is a different story. Fight to win. That is why I take martial arts. Someone does something like that to me - he'd better darn well make sure he can take me.
2006-08-20 05:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the smartest solution is always to walk away!!
However if he comes at you best trick I can teach you without example is this step aside away from his punch reach out with your arm underneath his arm and put your hand underneath his chin(be carefull you can break his neck this way) put your other hand behind his back and gently excert pressure on the chin (if you try this on yourself you'll feel a nasty pressure in your neck)
he'll imediatly feel that he's not dealing with an amateur. Just tell him you can do worse if he tries any more funny stuff. Believe me he will leave it at that. But the best thing is always Walk away if there is no danger to you or your company.
and one more tip always stay calm show no anger or fear nothing confuses an opponent as calmness!!
I am a martial arts instructor and always walk away if I can!!
2006-08-20 04:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by peter gunn 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a situation that you can't win in either way. If you fight you get thrown out and maybe barred, you sit there and take it they your the 'pu**y boy who can't stand up for yourself'. I think the best thing to do is to ask the guy if he wants to finish it to meet you outside after you've finished your pint and sort it out then (or alternatively you could say your going to the bathroom and sneak out of side door)?!?!?!!!
It also helps if our with a lady friend coz if my boyfriend has ever been in this situation i'm the one who talks him round and calms him down but he still looks like the 'hero' because he did want to fight but his girlfriend calmed him down.
2006-08-20 04:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by stacie_9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stand up and be a man. You don't have to fight but don't be a wimp. Worse comes to worse cause a big scene so the bouncer will get there fast to stop it. I use to scare the heII out of the people that was bigger than me. Saved my butt a few times.
2006-08-20 05:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by Josh S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you could not purely hit or threaten to hit someone because they damage your thoughts. in case you've been to hit them it really is termed attack. in accordance on your state regulations it may be a misdemeanor or a criminal meaning you could be in penitentiary from one to numerous years. someone threatening to bodily damage you could determination from harassment, attack and or disorderly habit in accordance on your state regulations. i'd have purely advised the guy if he did not leave that when I get to my automobile, i'd call the police and characteristic him arrested for harassment. i'd have observed through and stated as the police, and characteristic him arrested if the police agreed. At a minimum he will be warned through the police, and documentation will be all started on him.
2016-11-30 21:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋