Me and my hubby have made a few plans to watch Superman Returns but none of them had gone through, something else kept coming up. Well this weekend, we were seriously thinking of going, but now my husband all of a sudden got sick with a sore throat. I know him getting sick was not in his control, but I can't help but feel upset about it because every time we kept getting serious, something just had to happen. Why do I feel this way? I love my hubby and don't want to force him to go if he's not well, he should rest. I just feel like I'm a kid again, when none of the things I want are happening.
2006-08-20 04:01:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, it is that I want to spend time with him. Me and him have very different interests, and it's really hard to find something we both enjoy doing and this movie was finally something that we both wanted to see.
2006-08-20 04:19:07 · update #1
the reason I feel like a kid is because my plans always got ruinned because of my parents when I was younger, and it just feels like a repeat in history.
2006-08-20 04:19:52 · update #2
It simply sounds like frustration kicking in. True, it might be selfish, but being selfish isn't a vice. (Some even believe it to be a virtue, but that's another issue.) You are simply looking out for your own emotional health, which is being impacted my external events that have no malice, so you are annoyed that there's nothing you can blame it on.
I will say that you are handling it very well in that you are not looking for someone to blame because there is none. You are rising above your own concern and being considerate about your husband. I believe that you simply need to acknowledge your feelings to yourself and give yourself permission to be frustrated. It's the healthiest thing to do in this situation.
I wish you and your husband well.
2006-08-20 08:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're selfish. You love him and want to spend time with him, and even though it's out of his control, it seems like his being sick is just another thing in a long list of things holding you back. It's like you finally had no interruptions and then this comes along. He's right there, right in front of you, but too sick to do anything with.
Maybe try seeing if he's well enough to sit through a movie. If it's just a sore throat and not that serious, maybe he might be well enough to bring some lozenges. If not, there's always next time.
Hopefully you'll both get to watch you movie soon! Good luck.
2006-08-20 11:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to journal...actually keep track of how often you make plans with your husband and note the times he reneges.
Keep track, too, of when he makes plans with you and note the times you renege.
You might be surprised at how seldom it really is happening.
...and don't be afraid to talk to him about this. Good grief, you're married. Open up to each other. Maybe he doesn't want to go - so find a friend to go with. Whatever the reason, this time he turned up sick when you had plans with him and that could not be helped, but it would still upset you because it meant you felt you were being "rejected" yet again.
...and you're not selfish for "feeling" - feelings are neither good nor bad; feelings simply are. You can "feel" however you wish.
2006-08-20 11:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by carolewkelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not ur fault. if he wants 2 go c the movie then take him. if hes too sick then dont. there will be other chances. maybe u guys just werent meant to c tht movie. it sucked a lot. i say u trash the superman idea and go c taledaga knights. u'll both laugh. im not understandin y u feel like a kid though.
2006-08-20 11:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by striker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are only selfish if you act on your feelings. iknow it gets frustrating when life gets in the way but you will go see your movie ,just be patient. in the mean time take care of you hubby and go out and rent a movie to watch at home in the mean time.
2006-08-20 11:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow you managed to get married so no, not everything is being thrown your way. You are interestingly overreacting to something and hon, let's face it, it's NOT the Superman movie. I'm still waiting for my man to take me, and if it happens, great, if not, great. Talk to your man and tell him what's really bothering you and let him be honest with you and be prepared to hear him out
2006-08-20 11:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by BrainCracker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow you managed to get married so no, not everything is being thrown your way. You are interestingly overreacting to something and hon, let's face it, it's NOT the Superman movie. I'm still waiting for my man to take me, and if it happens, great, if not, great. Talk to your man and tell him what's really bothering you and let him be honest with you and be prepared to hear him out.
2006-08-20 11:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Persephone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to feel the way you are feeling love hurts sometimes and you angry because your so egear to spend time with the one you love. when something gets in the way it's ok to be upset but just don't take it out on him
2006-08-20 11:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by N'moshun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just frustrated right now. Having your plans changed like that can do that to a person.Try to remember you have your whole life to do what you want with your mate.Be a little more patient. It will happen.
2006-08-20 11:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if there is a different movie he'd like to see and see if he all of a sudden feels better.
Go with a friend, why would he mind?
2006-08-20 11:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by coffeemate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋