So a few weeks ago, I became involved with a guy, we weren't going out, but we did have sex. He was too immature for me, and told me he didn't want a relationship, so I moved on. Now he tells me he loves me, and misses me, and was too afraid to ask me to be in a relationship and I feel it's too late. I know that I do care about him, but I don't love him in a romantic way, and I don't know what to do because I've broken his heart, and I've never hurt someone this way before. It's killing me inside. I guess my question is how can I help him with his broken heart an get him to move on?
2006-08-20 03:46:47 · 15 answers · asked by Katrina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is always a tough predicament. How much responsibility should you take for his feelings? You have to ask yourself a few questions. First did you lead him to believe you had serious feelings for him when he told you he did not want a relationship? Even if a guy says he does not want a relationship, they might just be trying to protect themselves from future heart ache. Do not get me wrong, I do not think any man who turns you away can expect a second chance. But it would be decent of you to explain that he told you he did not want a relationship and that you have moved on. I would not suggest to much contact though. He will need to heal without your help.
2006-08-20 04:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by bikmountain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
man like that are hard to heip, and it will take a long time, but never feel bad, he was the one who let you go in the first place, but 1 thing i have to say, is never sleep with a man till you no for a fact that you both are in love ok, let him know that all you want is to be friends, and yea like the other person had said, tell him your gay, lol now that would be a great thing to tell a man, as this will let them down, but not as much as it would if you told him something like he needs to grow up lol just tell him how it is, thats all you can do, an never think that your a b#### just because you u dont love him, we can not help the way we feel, it is life, and for all of us, life must go on , take care of yourself
2006-08-20 11:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He's immature. Trust your gut instinct. It's usually always right the first time around.
2006-08-20 10:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first you have to make sure he really loves you and that he's not just trying to get something. if you don't like him than just tell him he's not the one for you and that your not the one for him, that there is someone else waiting for him. he's just gonna have to wait.
2006-08-20 12:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~MECR~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop making yourself available to him to cry on your shoulder. You need to leave him in his own pity. He blew you off first after you had sex, so turn about is fair play. Move on!!!
2006-08-20 10:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by sweethometexas2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sex always messes with a guys mind,he just needs to get over it and you need to let him know how you really feel.
2006-08-20 11:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by gitrdonebiggin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him there is someone better out there for him and that u are nothin (most of my ex gfs said that to me)
2006-08-20 10:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by Cody 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just leave him alone - and move on.
2006-08-20 10:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by doc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HES PAIN IS NOT YOUR RESPONCABILATY DONT HELP HIM IF HES INMATURE HE NEEDS TO LEARN HIS OWN LESSONS SO HE CAN GROW AND MATURE
2006-08-20 10:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by BrainCracker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HES PAIN IS NOT YOUR RESPONCABILATY DONT HELP HIM IF HES INMATURE HE NEEDS TO LEARN HIS OWN LESSONS SO HE CAN GROW AND MATURE
2006-08-20 10:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by letta g 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋