i split from my husband 3 years ago and started seeing his brother secretly. we are very happy and my ex has been living with someone else for 2 years. we have recently told the family and the ex has went off it. he wont speak to his brother and has said some terrible things. can things ever be normal?
2006-08-20 03:34:26 · 27 answers · asked by sophisticatedreader 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
nope... but what do you care??? he's with someone else, none of his business...
2006-08-20 03:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW !!! I'm not sure what advice to give.
If you thought that time would heal this, you're wrong. Keeping the relationship a secret was not a good idea and now your ex feels betrayed. Just because you two split doesnt mean he doesnt care for you, you were married.
Can this ever be healed? Depends on the brothers relationship. Maybe eventually... but I'm afraid your relationship with your ex and even maybe his whole family is ruined.
2006-08-20 10:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Katie A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a word no. When a relationship involves a situation such as yours, there are questions of betrayal, "cheating behind the back", "how long did my brother have the hot's for my wife and vice versa", etc..
Perhap's in the long run things may cool off but from experience with a best friend who asked my ex out the week we split, the trust of friendship/relationship is changed from that point.
2006-08-20 10:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is this, an episode of Rescue Me???
If this is for real, Jerry Springer -- It's an ego thing. And a family loyalty thing too. If the shoe were on the other foot and your ex was happily loudly shacking up having glorious better sex with your sister, would you be so understanding?
You're all consenting adults, right? You knew it was wrong. It's too close to home, hon. But go on with your bad self. Being an adult means taking on the consequences of whatever we do, right wrong or indifferent. Good luck.
2006-08-20 10:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm i dont think will become normal again so soon... it might take some time... but since he is with someone else then why cant u go out with his brother...if both of u are comfortable in this relationship then u dont have to care about anyone else...i mean they are brothers so they will definitely start talking o each other again...dont feel guilty its not your fault here... i mean your ex is behaving like a macho here... his ego is hurt because u are happy with his brother...u shouldnt worry too much about him... enjoy your new relationship and be happy honey
anyways good luck
2006-08-20 10:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by vedz666 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not be normal, but it does happen. So it didn't work out with your ex so he shouldn't hold it against you or his brother that you two are seeing each other. Maybe this will work out and maybe it wont. Just carry on and see where it goes. He will eventually get over it and talk to you both.
2006-08-20 10:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by ?Shannan? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO it can't thats his family HIS BROTHER you and your ex was married its alot of feelings there so you already knew it was gonna go down between your ex and you and the brother thats why it was a secret in the first place
2006-08-20 10:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by SXXINEZZ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The sibling of an ex would not be my first choice in the dating pool. But your ex is with someone else and he needs to move on.
2006-08-20 10:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no things won't ever be normal but that shouldn't stop you from being happy. your ex is just mad because even though he got back "into the dating game", he never expected you would too, let alone with his brother. was the rest of the family supportive? just ignore your ex; he's being immature and childish. you should be happy with your new boyfriend and have fun!
2006-08-20 10:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by thunderwear 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oooh the **** hits the fan. It's none of his business any more who you are seeing. Are you legally divorced. Be careful. Get the p/w finished.
You have your rights as who you date, just remember this will be a hornet's nest for quite some time.
2006-08-24 04:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex feels betrayed, generally there is a unspoken rule for brothers not to date the same women. But time heals all, usually.
2006-08-20 10:43:27 · answer #11 · answered by jitone1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋