Why does someone hit theirself in the head when upset?

Question

Very afraid b/c a loved one is hitting herself again in the head and banging her head into the wall when arguing with boyfriend. Should she get rid of boyfriend?

Answer 1

Obviously she is not in a healthy relationship!! If the stress of it is causing behavior like this, then someone needs to sit her down and explain that there is no future in a relationship like this.
A boyfriend that causes that causes that much stress is a very, very dangerous thing in a young girls life, because he is probably destroying her self esteem and self respect. Try to help her or take her to someone who she will listen to SOON!!

Answer 2

Your loved one is coping with internal conflicts which include but are not limited to blame and lack of self assertiveness. The frustration of not being able to control her life is leading to self destructive behaviors which if left unchecked can prove to be very detrimental to her future. Banging her head is equivalent to using drugs or alcohol to drowned out the internal conflicts. One of the problems facing you is that if she herself does not realize the nature of the problem then you will not be able to help her. Once she recognizes the problem she can seek help from a local mental health clinic by talking to a professional in the mental health field. Getting away from the boyfriend will not change the behavior as it will resurface when other frustrating problems confront her.

Answer 3

Sounds like your loved one is internalizing overwhelming anger and frustration, ya know, blaming herself and hurting herself to numb the pain. She would benefit from professional help. Try suggesting marriage and family counseling. The bf most likely won't want to attend, but if he does, maybe they can work thru their issues. A competent therapist will also try to help each understand their own issues. If the bf won't go, the therapist will still help her work thru her own stuff. Also, a therapist will be able to identify if she has a serious illness or is just having difficulty coping. Based on that, the therapist will help her understand what she's experiencing and that other resources are available. This type of therapy is less stigmatized, and because of that, she may be more inclined to follow thru on it.

Answer 4

Wow, that sounds familar.
There are two causes of this I know of and one of them is Autism, which my son has. The other is Manic Depressive Bi-Polar Disorder, that my former step dad has. Both of them do this. My son has been known to slam his whole body into our, thankfully strong, metal fire door when angry. He gets into voilent rages.

Sounds like the she needs help and that there's something more going on. Also, people with sensory intagration problems might do this as well. She needs to talk to a psy. about the problems.

At least she's not voilently lashing out at people, just herself. That's a plus. Also, when you do self injury it release endorphines in the blood. This may be her only way known to her of coping with stress. She needs help to find othe ways to cope.

People with the problem of cutting themselves say they feel better afterwards. That's also why people who run for miles, and are obviously tired, say they feel great. It's called a runner's high. All the endorphines and seratonin flying about makes people feel wonderful.

Answer 5

She is the one that needs help, getting rid of the boyfriend will not make stop what she does. She does not know how to get rid of her anger. My opinion is that instead of hitting someone or breaking something she hits herself. Ask her to go to a psychologist maybe talking to someone about it will get her to understand that they are other,safest way to show her anger. She needs to be able to say I am angry without hurting anyone or herself.

Answer 6

Hitting yourself in the head when upset is basically a subconscious act stemming from the "belief" that your head/brain are the "ones" that are "supposed" to be controlling all of your emotions,feelings,movements and such...so if you get upset, then it is like "punishing" your head(brain) for doing something wrong...such as in punishing (spanking) a child.
Does that make sense?

Answer 7

It sounds as if she is trying to express something which she finds impossible to get out. It may not be the boyfriends problem, but she may benefit from someone advocating for her, either a friend or a counsellor, whichever she feels comfortable with. Perhaps someone should also point out to the boyfriend that he needs to avoid arguments as much as possible for her welfare.

Answer 8

She really shouldn't feel the need to hurt herself. She needs some help learning how to deal with her emotions in a way that does not cause her, or potentially others, harm.

Answer 9

I first thought you were talking about a child. If a grown women is doing this, then she really needs some help. She is obviously not in control of her emotions. If she started doing this when she started dating her bf, then maybe the relationship is very toxic for her.

Answer 10

hitting oneself when upset shows SELF-PITY.this attitude shuld be corrected. showing a strong personality will show a strong person.being upset is normal but hitting oneself is not good. show some respect to self and others will follow.show that ur strong and always remember that even upset ur still the luckiest person you'll ever know.