last night was my first bachlorette party as a male dancer. my buddy from high school got me a job as a stripper with the outfit he works at. to make a long story short, four of us were hired for a bachlorette party. the girls were all young. ended up the bride to be started giving me a blow....., while all her friends cheered. her friends didnt care. then she did all four of us guys in turn (blow...) from 2 am until 3 am i guess, she had us run a train on her. her friends never touched us--just the bride to be did all this. i think i should quit the job, i dunno. will this be happening all the time? i like the money i make and that i can do this for a living, but somehow i feel bad inside. i am booked for 5 more bachlorette parties this month, will this happen each time? should i think its just the job and live with it?
2006-08-20 01:17:48 · 8 answers · asked by tony g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wow. Sending fake questions. What a loser.
BTW, you got reported.
Keep it G rated next time.
2006-08-20 09:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK! I usually don't answer questions like this. But, honey you sound so upset till I feel bad by not telling you something. You didn't do anything wrong, unless you had push her away. I am going to tell you this does not normally happen. Some brides gets a little touchy or feely but this bride is the first I have ever heard that pleasured the stripper. Not only did she pleasure one, but all of you. I am sorry, but this is all on her head(no pun intend)
Try it a couple of more times. You just might have the nerve to do this kind of work. You could just be too tender hearted, and there is nothing wrong with that. Being put out there for women to ogle and lust after, might not seem that hard, but I imagine it's hard on the emotions. You know what she did was wrong, you have a conscious. Honey, the one who should be feeling bad is the bride. If you just handle the pressures, then quit. But at least try it a couple of more times, like you said the money is great!
PLEASE let go of the guilt, you didn't do anything that anyone in the same circumstances. What a way to start off your new career. If you can't handle it, then at least you know you tried.
Next time if this happens, push the woman away,because you are there to dance and strip, not sex! You don't have to do anything you don't want to, just because you are a MAN, you have feelings too! You aren't for sell, I hope you find some comfort in everyone telling you aren't in the wrong!
God bless us all..............
2006-08-20 02:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad it's not your fault; she's just a ho, who is not really ready to get married b/c if she was then she would have never crossed that line. That's something that she has to deal with b/c if her finance finds out, there will be no wedding. You never know who may have taped it or told on her. If I were you I would continue to perform at parties if that's what you like doing, just next time if someone tries something with you tell them that touching is not permitted. If you were a female at a strip club the bouncers would not allow anyone to touch you so really there should not be a difference.
2006-08-20 03:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most brides do not blow the stripper. Next time make it clear to the girls what is and isn't permitted. You set the guidelines. Guys wouldn't assume they could give a female stripper head, it isn't different with a male stripper.
The good news is that this is the exception. Next time just make it clear to the client what touching is permitted.
2006-08-20 01:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by bluechick 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
bluechick is right.
To people (guys) out of the entertainment scene,this might sound like a dream job.But to you,this is a JOB. And when the word "job" comes into the picture,you will have to set your own rules.
You might want to state your set of rates according to what you can do and what you wouldn't do. If not,sooner or later you are gonna collapse. Either someone from your own trade coming after you for undercutting, or your body simply can't take the stress anymore.
Whatever it is, guilt or not/ exotic dancer or gigalo, they are all in the state of mind.
2006-08-20 02:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by Geo C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set up your guidelines and let the know what they are before your accept the booking.
2006-08-22 06:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Linda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL,,,,G A G O ....SEND AN ANONOMOUS NOTE TO THE GROOM MAYBE??? iIF ITS NOT TOO LATE......HE CAN STILL CHANGE HIS MIND....G A G O AND HAVE A NICE DAY
2006-08-20 02:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by flowerspirit2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you and "Matt B" should hook up...
::rolling eyes::
2006-08-20 03:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋