I am in a relationship with a nice guy. He is funny and I usually have fun when I am with him. We have been seeing each other for a little over a month now. But now I seem to be pushing away from him and becoming a little distant. I like him but I dont want him to know I like him to much so I am acting different. I think I am destroying the relationship.
2006-08-20 01:09:49 · 22 answers · asked by want_me_luv_me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him, if he's as great as you say he is..you should be able to let him know about whats going on with you..and why your becoming distant
2006-08-20 01:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This strikes me as a situation where a dependency is possible but for reasons I won't attempt to guess at you are afraid or don't desire this. This is normal, and put simply, you seem to want to relax a little more. My advice; take a break, tell him you're going to see family or something else, and relax for a week. Just don't think about it. In the end, you should feel better. It should definitely help the relationship as well if the two of you spend a week or so apart doing your own things, giving you more to talk about.
2006-08-20 08:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had it happen to me, she didn't understand why she did it either. It just didn't feel right to her, she told me it was a build up of lots of little things. So after 5 months of learning, loving, caring, sharing, and having fun, we split.
Bottom line is, I wasn't 'the one'., she wasn't 'the one' for me either. No big deal, it happens, we are now both good friends and learnt a lot about each other and a little more about life and relationships.
Sometimes people expect too much out of relationships, they look to the other person to fill in holes and gaps. I guess you gotta be happy with who you are really and go with whatever happens. If the big luv thing happens, then cool, enjoy it while it lasts is a motto ive decided to semi-adopt.
Just be honest with him and most importantly yourself. Does he float your boat and make your heart sing? Is that what you seek? Or is just ok and friendly and stuff ok too?
Depends what you are looking for really. There's nothing inherently wrong with having misgivings and uncertainties, its part of being human :)
Good luck
2006-08-20 08:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by robster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal in a relationship 2 be like dis, both of u got 2 say how much u feel 4 each other in order not 2 think u dun luv him anymore
2006-08-20 08:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for you to be very selective when choosing a male.
Naturally your choice of a boyfriend might lead to getting married and having children.
Either one of two things is going on...
1. You have subconsciously decided he is not what you want ...example you said in your statement you "usually" have fun when you are with him....you might not be attracted to him as much as you would like to be..
2. You are sabotaging the relationship and are on a course to end it so you will not be the first one hurt...
And yes this has happened to me...I married a man I have never been physically attracted to because he was my best friend...now after 9 years I am having a white hot, searing need for passion that has placed me on the edge of an abyss.
Good luck dear, date for passion...marry for passion and to fulfill your souls need for complete intimacy...good luck
2006-08-20 08:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by Tabor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are afraid of being hurt because you like this guy so much? If you're destroying the relationship by acting this way, what do you have to loose by sharing your feelings with him, at least then you'll know how he feels! Good luck.
2006-08-20 08:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal , at least for me coz i passed through this before and i lost the love of my life ,
i was deeply in love with a guy and can't let him away and in the other hand i was acting really weird and tough with him ,,
u r afraid to fall in love ,, to be weak ,, then to drop u ,, or leave u ,,
this is the worst situation u can be in ,,
so plz live Ur life as if u r gonna die tomorrow
and never think what may happen
don't loose this guy ,coz i am sure 100 % u r in true love with him
enjoy it ,, and don't do anything u'll feel guilty about ..
2006-08-20 08:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by romeo4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being insecure because you like him and don't want to risk being hurt. The number one turn-off a woman can show a guy is that she does not have control over her emotions. Men also want to be in a relationship and loved, although the path they choose sometimes may differ from ours. My advice-be yourself and just enjoy being with him. If you have issues regarding esteem and intimacy, then you don't belong in ANY relationship-you will never find the right person if you don't become the right person. He sounds like he really likes you. Be cool and good luck.
2006-08-20 08:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Girlfriend - I call It's Muppet syndrome! We get scared of been hurt and dumped so we self destruct the relationship first. I did this too many times before.
If you really like this guy then take a leap of faith make yourself vulnerable drop your guards and give love a chance.
OK there is always a chance of getting hurt but it's a chance we all have to take eventually.
good look
2006-08-20 08:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he telling you that you are pushing away or do you just feel yourself pushing away? If you are pulling away then maybe something is wrong. The best thing to do is talk to him about it. Maybe just talking about it with him might release the tension. Goodluck!
2006-08-20 08:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋