i know one of the guy dated after meeting me he broke off with her saying a reason
that,"since your sister(refering to me) is fat.i would not want to have our kids being fat"
i was like huh ?? the thing is obesity is not heriditary in my family since all are slim i donoe why im the fat one here.the other time she dated this guy actually had a major crush on me for years before knowing my sister..
well we both noticed each other whenever we were in the train but never actually talked to each other. after they broke up, he confessed to me that he like me for so long (which partly the reason they broke up)but never had the courage to approache me..
and he asked for both of us to know each other well.. of course i decline.. my sister found out and happily accuse me of stealing her bf!!we argued and she says thet everytime her guy met me they always broke up for no reason how can i be a third party when im not even a third party to begin with..
2006-08-20 01:01:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the saddest part is that she will never introduce me to her bf now and never acknowledge me until her bf ask who i am .. its like she will just shut me out ..
what can i do shes my only n younger sister . our relationship is already bad.. n now its getting worst.. help
2006-08-20 01:02:44 · update #1
no use talkin to her.. i'm just tired trying to be nice to her..
2006-08-20 01:09:28 · update #2
And no i never dated any of her boyfriends. i really donoe why she keeps rushing into marriage and stuff. if i mention to her about marriage is not something to play with ..she will just go over the top .. arghh
2006-08-20 01:12:46 · update #3
Because she is irresponsible!..
2006-08-27 10:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♫♪♫♪♫♪♪♫♪♪♫♪♫♪♫♪♪♫♪♫♪♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it easier to blame someone else rather than ourselves when we have a failed relationship. Its like saying, I'm not a failure at relationships, they only fail because of so and so.
That said, one of the most important relationships you could ever have is a sibling relationship. Why don't you try to meet her and develop a relationship without introducing any male talk into it. You don't tell her about your bf or discuss him and she returns the favour. But at all costs, don't meet her new bf. Just don't. Refuse point blank! If you want to preserve what little love is left between your sister and you.
That way, when/if her latest relationship breaks up, she'll see its not your fault.
2006-08-28 06:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ms S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is screwed up for treating you like some man-thief. If you haven't done it before or tried..why is she acting crazy. Obviously, she's more concerned about her dating life than the relationship between the both of you. First, you need to talk to her..like two adults. No arguing or yelling..make sure you come to some understanding. If she still doesn't want you around her boyfriends..then so be it. And when they dump her azz for some crazed reason. Then she won't have anyone to blame.
2006-08-20 08:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow....I don't think you should be feeling guilty for your sister's situation...the way I see it is that your sister is using you to make herself feel better: i call it the 'punchbag' syndrome...your sister is venting her anger and frustration at you so that she can deal with the situation....all i can say is DONT WORRY the bad times will pass soon
And as far as boyfriends are concerned: they come and go...but sisters are meant to support each other.....and there are so many guys out there that will like your sister and not involve you as the third party
Your sister has been choosing the wrong guys...and you're paying the price - it's not fair to you. Just tell her the truth: that you never meant to hurt her and its not your fault!!
2006-08-20 08:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Angel_like 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That first guy showed his stripes and your sister, as you suspect likely had nothing to do with it. He could have been using your sister's weight as an excuse to break off, or he could be overly obsessed with weight himself. You've surely imagined how he would have reacted to a few lbs. of baby fat on you.
As for the other guys, be really neutral and boring around your sister's boyfriends. Even though you may flirt a bit normally with all guys, avoid it at all costs around her bfs. You might want to try telling her that you'll be doing this, so she knows you have good intentions and care for your relationship with her, which for better or worse, is for the rest of your lives.
2006-08-20 08:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your sister is doing you a favour by not introducing you to her bfs. She has serious problems which is why they break up with her. I suspect she is accusing them of prefering you when they are alone. If she is not introducing you, then she shows herself up.
Who told you about the 'fat' reason anyway? Was it your sister? What a thumping lie if it was! Don't let her get you down, take up interests and go places where you can steer clear of her.
2006-08-24 19:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to try not getting to personal with her boyfriends from now on. You sound like a very out going person and maybe your sister's boyfriends can sense that so they begin to like you more than your sister.try not to have a lot to say to them and give them more space than what your giving them now,try to talk to your sister,explain how your sorry for getting to close to her dates,promise to never do it again. Hopefully in time your sister will see the change in you and begin to trust you more,but you have to let her get over it in her own time. Hope it works out,good luck.
2006-08-20 08:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand I don't think. You have gone out with her previous Boyfriends or not?? Well, if you have that is so completely insensitive of yourself and you should be ashamed! If you haven't dated her previous Boyfriends and she is just exaggerating the whole situation, then there's some underlying jealousy here and you two really need to sit down and have a heart to heart!
2006-08-20 08:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by nkkidw040602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur sister bfs bome and go, but u're here forever and it is not ur fault ur sister finds interest in all the losers out there. Also, ur sister is supposed to love u not matter how obese u might be, u did not ask for it.
2006-08-20 08:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Nthape 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sisters bf problems are not your problems. Ignore it. Just wait until you have a boyfriend then she won't have any problems anymore. She doesn't have to worry that you will steal her bf and because you have one that proofs you look good enough for a bf.
When you do get a bf introduce him to your sister and say "this is my difficult and skinny sister".
2006-08-20 08:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by who8mycookies 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We don't get to choose our family members. Give yoursister some space. Let her make her own mistakes for a while. Eventually, she'll grow up and get some sense.
2006-08-24 04:08:20 · answer #11 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋