How do you get your boyfriend to be more romantic?

Question

...and without directly asking him to! My boyfriend doesnt have a car at the moment, so when it comes to doing things, i'm the one driving around, picking him up etc...sometimes I feel a little taken for granted and wish he would do something special for me. Any tips to how I can get him to without actually asking straight out??

Answer 1

If he's into you, he'll start gradually doing what you tell him if you tell him in a warm loving kind manner. After a while, if this is not telling on him, you may try to tell him how very important it is to you (i.e. if it is).
If nothing happens, then tell him you may have to do some thinking...
When I met my boyfriend, he did not know how to be quite romantic but when I gradually started telling him what I want and how important it is to me, he made a big effort. So guys aren't dummies, only if they're into you and you don't make them feel rubbish when telling them, they'd listen. And please make your speech short.

Answer 2

I could be wrong, but I sense you are somewhat of a dominate female, or if you are not, that is how your boyfriend is seeing you, and your boyfriend could be feeling a twinge of intimidation because he is not in the Drivers Seat, so to speak.

This could be putting a damper on his being able to open up and be more romantic. It sounds to me like he is feeling like you are in charge and he is just along for the ride. You on the other hand, feel you are being taken for granted, which brings up the final observation, an acute lack of communication.

If the above supposition is accurate, there is a definite mismatch, and it is for all practical purposes, "All over but the shouting".

If not accurate, try allowing him to drive (unless for some reason, he cannot be allowed to). Also try making him feel more like he is in control or at least equally in control. Use your female wiles to make him feel more confident and good about himself and if you can pull the above off, he will become more romantic, as you will be allowing him to be the man he is.

If you cannot, your relationship is a definite mismatch and the countdown has already begun.

Good Luck,

Darryl S.

Answer 3

Sorry to tell you this, but you need to get another boyfriend. In his world, he probably is being romantic. Even if you hint, he won't get it. Some people are just like that. They are used to be taken care of, maybe the babies of the family, and used to people fussing over them. They will never change. I am not saying that they are bad, but if you cannot accept them the way they are, and need extra romance, then you will probably never get it from this one. Good luck. P.S. He could be romantic in your car, he just is not romantic.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

You will never change him no matter how hard you try. Men are either romantic or theyre not. I learnt that the hard way. The only way you can get him to try a little harder is to tell him how you feel. But even then there is no guarantee that he will become romantic over night. its never that easy unfortunately. You either have to work at it together by communicating or you accept him the way he is.

Answer 6

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How do you get your boyfriend to be more romantic?
...and without directly asking him to! My boyfriend doesnt have a car at the moment, so when it comes to doing things, i'm the one driving around, picking him up etc...sometimes I feel a little taken for granted and wish he would do something special for me. Any tips to how I can get him to...

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Sorry to say sweetie, but its something that you can't drop hints over. Either your boyfriend is romantic or he is not, and if thats something that you are looking for in your man i think you know what I woudl say next.

Good luck and stay strong.

Answer 9

My fella used to be a bit crap at romance, firstly i dropped big hints like "I really like flowers no one ever buys them for me" and gradually he took the hint. Then i pointed out all the romantic things i do for him, the little things, the favourite meal etc, now he has started doing things for me and made an effort. We did have a chat about it though and he said it helps to know how im feeling cos he just didnt think i wanted thise things, so in a way if the hints dont work you may have to be a bit more direct. hope this helps. x

Answer 10

Punch him in the groin -- that usually gets them whimpering all poetically...

OR, you could brag about how hot you are to Mark or Robert or Nicky or Carlo or Johnny etc... eventually the idea will surface that you are attractive to others and he'd better step it up a notch to keep a hottie like you etc...

But if you are a fat ugly slob with a nice car -- then know it as it is -- you are being used for a free ride, in more ways than one...

Reality works wonders! :)