Approaching women in a bar or park?

Question

Hi everyone, just wandering, what on earth do you chat about when you meet a woman in a bar? My friends say, don't think about it, just talk about anything, but what I dont get is, why a woman would want to talk to a stranger about "anything". Why would a woman want to just start talking to someone she doesnt know and how do you go from talking to a stranger to them wanting to see you again. I always see men chatting to women in bars and makes me wander what on earth they are chatting about that is so interesting. When I ask my friend what he was chatting about, he always says he was chatting about random stuff. If someone came up to me and started chatting random things, that wont make me want to know them. Women, what do men talk to you about when they approach you and what do you think? What you like a man to talk to you about when he comes up to you? Maybe it's easier in USA because people expect it. In the UK everyone keeps to themselves.

Any ideas?

Answer 1

Your mates are right just talk about anything (within reason) offer to buy her a drink and ask her questions about herself. Always remember interested is interesting to girls. Just don't talk about yourself alnight, make her laugh as much as poss, compliment her now and then, act like she is the most important person in the whole room, be confident and relax, although it is easier said than done but thats what my brother and his mates do and he manages to charm girls every time he goes out. It doesn't harm if you look half decent either and smell nice! I think it is different in the u.k as in america they are so open and forward and that doesn't always work with us british girls, we like a little bit of mystery with our men. Good luck babe!

Answer 2

Why would you want to speak to a strange woman???
Well answer is.. WHY NOT!!?? To meet a nice girl to hang out with, RIGHT?? Same is with woman, they also want that, it's just that the way it works is that the man makes his first move... and woman go for it .... depending on the quality lol!
Well you can start by many ways.. like .. Do you live in the neighborhood? Do you come often to this bar, I found it to be great here... good service .... Good Company... (Smiling to her lol) You know.. take it easy! Let things flow, and be yourself! ok?
Well.. UK and USA, you can't really say that, because it depends from person to person...

Answer 3

I understand what you're saying, I think. I am a shy person myself so I have a hard time with starting up the talk. I remember something a friend told me one time. You are only strangers until you say hi how's it going. Tell them where you're from, what you like-sports, dogs,cats, ferrets; you know things like that. Then you have food & movies, art, tattoos. The list is endless. You could ask if they would like to share some talk over a cup of tea. Good luck & happy times.

Answer 4

Try cracking a joke about the situation you are in. Say for example, if you are standing in a line with a woman, make a joke about how long the line is or something. Then you can go into asking about who they are or where they live, etc Or a simple "hi" and "how are you?" You can even lie and ask them if you know them, tell her she looks really familiar, and if she says no then you can segway into talking about her. Just be sure to be confident. The more confident you are, the more women will pick up on it.

Answer 5

Just be yourself when talking to any woman...we don't want any suprises later and just want to get to know you. If it doesn't work out with one woman, it's not the end of the world. We are all different and have different wants and desires looking for someone who the right person for us....and you have that same option. Consider yourself a confident man with good qualities and the right woman will be attracted to you just as we confident women do. We really aren't that different, we all desire companionship.

Answer 6

obviously people in the UK hook up, other wise there wouldn't be a UK, hehehe, sorry, anyways, ur just shy, start by talking to a cashier, or waitress, just small talk, nothing big, but try to do it everyday. your not trying to impress these ladies, so when it comes time that you want to approach someone, you will have a bit more confidence. for me, i dont like guy to come on to strong. and no corny lines, be honest, laugh, smile, u'll do fine

Answer 7

i live here in Dubai, UAE (a strict Muslim country).. i have been approached by a guy while i was sitting at the bar stool.. he just say "hi. what is a maganda (beautiful/pretty) girl doing alone here drinking? where is your boyfriend?" i know it was cery cliche but he got me.. we stared our conversation just like that.. he got informations that he needed, like the fact that i don't have a bf and he get my mobile number.. we talked long, he offered me drinks and he sent me home!

we are still dating up to this very moment.. you will really never know, what will happen next!

Answer 8

Go to a bar, get a few drinks in you, pick out "the woman" go up to her and say something like that her shoes really dont match her outfit while smiling of course, and then you will realise what everyone is talking about! (Make sure she has had a few in her too!)

Answer 9

most of the times in the bar, everyone has had a couple of drinks and its easier for some to 'chat' then. but it usually is about little small things. lol. it really wouldnt bother too much unless i was by myself and then i might be alittle weirded out. it just depends....

Answer 10

Number crunching time...Ready? My mathenematics arent good, but here goes...

U talk to 10. 9 say no. That leaves U one up, right?

This is the best answer.