Police harassing Kids?

Question

Oh, this just happened a few hours ago. My daughter 15 went with her boyfriend 16 and a friend to a party today. She said she would be back home at 1230 which was ok with both parents. At 12:00 I received a call from the police and after some confusion with names was asked, if I knew where she was, with who, how she would get back home etc. I had to ask several times what that was about and was told to hold on and asked the next question and finally was told they where stopped by the police. After not being able to reach my daughter (she forgot her cellphone) I called her boyfriend and understand while waiting with friends on the curb for their rides the police stopped and asked them questions. They decided to call parents and not even bother knocking at the door to ask parents in there. After the Mom came out they told her a noise complaint had come in, which they never told the kids or me. They didn't even told me where they stopped those kids. I understand that same police officer harrased my daughter and her friend before while waiting in front of the movie theater for me to pick them up.more....

Now my question is can I file a complaint about it. I understand the police has a hard job etc, but they're not going to make it easier on themselves by harassing teens like that. My daughter is a good kid always comes home when she says, or calls to ask permission to stay longer. She is not a troublemaker. And the privileges she gets she earns. I also didn't liked the way I was ignored. I didn't knew if I had to rush to the ER or what.

Well, Charles, I think. my "English" is pretty good for it not being my native language! The boy friend is cool, 16, works 2 jobs, pays for his own car. They were at a birthday party. I was not the only parent that thought they were rude.

LOL, Charles your last answer had quite a few errors in it. Peace Dude!

:o) Jackie, I come from Germany, where the police can stop you for no reason. There are times I wish I could have raised my kids over there. I would not have to worry about drugs in school or some perv grabbing them from my own front yard. I remember running the streets after dark with no worries. None of my kids have that freedom.

Answer 1

u can call and fuss about it, and they will say yes mam, but in the end nothing will be done. your daughter is learning that life isn't fair, i guess u r too, there are kids out causing trouble, due to that she was stopped. yes, they shouldve handled u diff rent, but getting mad isnt changing it. no blood no foul

Answer 2

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Answer 3

The police responding to a call from another citizen about your children is not harassment. Does your city or state have a curfew? Most do. When you stated that your daughter was harassed by the same Officer at a movie theater, you should understand that most Officers work the same shift in the same areas everyday. If your daughter is out alot, it is not unusual that she would run into the same Officers more than once. I really think that you are overreacting. Would you rather that they didn't care enough to call you at all? They are certainly under no obligation to do so. I understand your tendency to believe that your daughter can do no wrong, but you have no idea what kind of behavior was occurring during any of these situations. I deal with kids and parents all the time, and every parents says the same thing about their child being the well-behaved one that is being harassed. Keep a more open mind and realize that not all teens are as innocent as they portray themselves to be to Mom and Dad. I'm not saying that your daughter is a delinquent, but stop overreacting.

Answer 4

Sabina,
Follow this through.
You are owed answers,
and get an attorney to
help you here.

There seems to be harassment
and no reasonable explanations
coming from the police.

If you feel you were not treated
with due procedures (which I agree)
again, you should follow this through.

Not all cops are bad,
but unfortunately some are,
and you and your daughter
are the only important issue
in this equation.

As for Charles, boy are you
out of line -- may I suggest
you go to school to learn some
understanding or at a minimum
some manners. I usually ignore
answers like yours, but in this
case, you crossed the line.

Sabina, collect yourself, breathe
deeply, and go after your rights!

Answer 5

One thing people have to realize about cops "harassing" them is that its the citizens who drive it. What happens is.... person after person call 911 about kids/drug activity/loud music/speeding cars etc., they send letters to the Chief and the newspapers about how the cops arent "doing anything" about their complaints, politicians lean on the police, the Chiefs lean on the Sergeants, the Sergeants lean on the partolmen to start rousting loiterers, ticketing cars and so on. So when the cops start "harassing" kids, stopping cars and looking for drugs to make you all happy then everybody starts complaining about THAT! The bottom line here is...noise complaint or not, the police have the right to "common law inquiry" which means that they have as much right to walk up to someone and ask.."hey who are you and what are you doing here?" as any other person. They dont have the right to detain anybody without reasonable suspicion or arrest without probable cause but your child wasnt arrested. If they were responding to a complaint or there is a loitering, curfew statute in your area then you have no cause for a complaint. Being that they were juveniles out late at night I believe that the officers were doing a good job checking their welfare by trying to determine if they were supposed to be out on the street at that hour.

Answer 6

What are 15 year old girls doing on the street? But if you want to lay a formal complaint call the district commissioner or your M.P. they normally take this problem up. Police need to follow up on kids now days. You should rather keep her away from the streets and the police. Take the boyfriend out of the equation and you will have less hassle. Then go to school with your daughter and learn to write English or American-what ever you call it. Rather police that check up on kids then police that dont. Can you imagine if the police checked your grammer then you would be in jail. Be greatful you are not in South Africa were police only call you when your kid is dead or just finished being raped.

Answer 7

they were doing their job. 15 year old girl has no business being out til 1230. it is the law , in by 1100. if you want them out after that, you have to be with them, not just your permission.

Answer 8

Whats her grammer got to do with?
You some freaked-out English teacher on steroids or something?

Answer 9

This sounds like the "harassed"" daughter posting the question, to me.

Answer 10

If you don't want to go by our laws you should go back to your own country. The police are doing their job.