even though we know what kind of person we want or don't want in our next relationships, invariably we always seem to choose the personality we were looking not to choose?
I understand everybody puts their best "face" on when you 1st meet, yet there seems to be some underlying "thing" that draws us to the wrong person time and again....
This is probably more of a rhetorical question than anything else, nut if you think you may know why, feel free to answer.
Thank you....
2006-08-19 22:45:24 · 7 answers · asked by unique1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry about the misspelled words... :)
2006-08-19 22:46:43 · update #1
The energy we create is the energy you bring back to ourselves. Dont focus on the negative, focus on the positive. Focus on what you want, not on what you dont want. That way the energy you are creating and surrounding you is what you WANT. Know what I mean? Instead of saying, "I dont really want to meet an abuser or alcoholic man again" say, "I want a man that I know I really deserve" Make a list don't focus on what you dont want him to be at all. just what you do want. Don't say, "I dont want another alcoholic" because even in saying that you are creating a "fear" and bringing that energy back to yourself. Do you see what I am saying?
A friend of mine told me about how she went to this seminar. During this seminar the guy had several mason jars with lids filled with water. On these lids he had wrote the words, love, hate, jealousy, peace, etc. He had different people in the room focus on each of these jars the feelings that were written on top of these jars. The one that had love written on it had beautiful crystals beginning to form inside, The one that had hate written on it began to turn an ugly brown murky color.
I am a firm believer in the energy that surrounds us and that we can create and bring forth positive energy just with our thoughts, words and actions. We have been stuck in this victim role believing this is oue fate in life when deep down we know we deserve so much more. If you are a seeker and are willing to grow, then I see you making some changes in your life for the better. :) hope this helps.
2006-08-20 01:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...Maybe we're attracted physically by the type of person we don't want. It's kind-of like all the best tasting foods are going to make us fat. We eat but pay the price. Pretend you're on a diet and don't stuff yourself with the wrong things. Date sensible and in the long run you'll feel better.
2006-08-19 22:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by strong and soft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no answer to that except i have went through the same things. i found a man that has everything i want in personality. but i kept leaving him for idiotic men that there was no future with. i guess theres some thing about the excitment of having the 'wrong' person that you know by dating them it wont last. but that is all i can think of for that reason. ....
2006-08-19 22:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are drawn to wat is familiar to us. Like kids of alcoholics picks alcolholics as boyfreinds even though they hated their dad being a drunk. Its familiar therefore 'safe'. Hard habit to break but recognising a pattern is a first step. Good luck, ive been trying for years.
2006-08-19 23:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... good luck with that...
and there is a spell check option...use it so next time u wouldn't have to say ur sorry
2006-08-19 22:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by blacktears2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because we never find Mr/Ms Right and we have a fear of being alone so we bide our time going through meaningless relationships until we find the right one and some of us never do!
2006-08-19 22:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people can't help their hormones...
2006-08-19 22:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋