How can I tell my cousin how sorry I am for lying to her? I lied to her; saying that my dad would not let me go to her house and then my brother tells her the truth that I didn't want to go... now she is really upset with me and I don't know how to say sorry to her... I wrote her an email and I am too scared to call her...
2006-08-19 22:15:55 · 39 answers · asked by sakuraliblossom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
U have, 2 pick up that phone & apologise!
Hurting peoples feelings isn't V nice, is it?
She's UR family, U don't treat UR family like this.
Now switch off the computer & get on the phone, explain 2 her the truth.
Don't let this B blown out of proportion or let it fester.
2006-08-19 22:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An Email is a good start, but if you really mean it and want to tell her how sorry you are. You are going to have to call her. Or better than that go visit her. If you don't take care of this matter, you and your cousin might not have a good relationship in the future. We all have to face our fears and mistakes. And the sooner you do it, the better. A sincere apology will really help. And you need to get over being scared. And just contact her.
Good Luck
2006-08-19 22:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say right about now you should adopt, "honesty is the best policy." I may be mad at you, but if you tell me the truth, I can't feel decieved. So what if you didn't want to go to your cousins house, in the furture.. just say, "I really don't feel like coming... maybe later.' Now, just suck it up.. take a deep breath, and explain that instead of telling her the truth, which you thought might hurt her feelings, you lied, and that in the future you plan on being honest, even though it may not be something that she wants to hear. You are family, she will get over it... it just may be ackward for a bit. It is really ackward for you, because you are embarrassed and ashamed. Now... where are your brothers?? Go make them pay! :o)
2006-08-19 22:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by Brooklyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the respondee who said to explain why you didn't want to go over, if you want to have a friendship with her that is. Otherwise, just apologize, like this:
"I'm sorry I lied to you. I didn't intend to hurt your feelings."
Your brother shouldn't have told and must have had an ulterior motive, unless you always lie to her, in which case there is no problem with him telling. This is no excuse for her feelings to needlessly hurt though.
In the future, try to refrain from lying and definitely be careful how much "truth" you tell siblings or others who might accidentally or purposely share it.
Unless she is always mean to you or something, this should be sufficient enough to continue things where you last left off before. Family is family and I think you guys'll be fine.
Good luck.
2006-08-19 22:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her this.
Write an email back again.
Dear *Cousin*,
I am sorry for lying to you . I didn't mean it . The reason why i did not want to come to your house was because im already stressed up with stuff and im just feeling kinda weird. I apologise to you for whatever i did but i hope you can understand. Life has been pretty harsh on me and i hardly have the time for laughter and fun . I hope you understand and i hope you will accept my apology. We're a family after all . My family wouldn't be completed without you because you're like a sister whom i look up to . I hope you understand and i promise i will drop by your house when i have the time. I love you and once again , please accept my apology.
Hope this works.
And hope everything goes on well .
Love,
Retro.
2006-08-19 22:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Wide Ruled Paper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life goes on. You can say “ I am sorry, and I just didn't want to come” Listen, life is long for most of us, and being related gives us something that others do not have. I think ten years from now, this wont mean anything!
Jst express that you love you cousin and things will be OK
2006-08-19 22:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her in person because that is the only way you will get it across and the best way to show that you really mean it. If you have already said sorry and if she doesn't forgive you, then give her some time and space and hopefully she will eventually come around. If she never forgives you, then it isn't your problem. Good luck!
2006-08-23 17:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more sincere in your apology. Get ready what you wish to explain. Visit her with a present and apologise. Sending email is not as sincere though you are shy. Then start to ask her out and invite her again to your house. In the first place why didn't you want her to come ??
Next wack your brother.. Haha.... Just kidding...
2006-08-20 07:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One rule to apologies is to apologize, not make excuses or explanations. An apology is an admittance of being wrong, or committing a misdeed, not a venue to argue your innocence.
Just apologize. Maybe explain in a polite way why you didn't want to go to her house, but don't make excuses for lying about the whole situation. Admit it was wrong. If your apology is not accepted, well, at least you tried.
2006-08-19 22:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by d h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell the really reason that makes you lie to her as it seems that you have a good relationship with her . so you must call her or it will be better to go to her and tell her that you are so sorry as you was in a bad moody or there is something that makes you upset
2006-08-19 22:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by blue sky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋