I hate my dad and mom, what should I do?

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I'm in college and i still live with my parents. I don't have friends and want some, and I'm not talking about online. I was suicidal beginning this year so I spent time at the hospital to get better. I saw a counselor for a while but I stopped. I just hate my parents sometimes, I want to move out but I can't because I can't financially. How did you guys get to move out finally? Just today I went with them to a party, and got in an argument with them like everyday. The party was two hours away, and I need to go to the bathroom, and my dad didn't stop, so I must've suffered kidney damage. My dad has diabetes and kidney damage too and he works alot, and my mom has heart disease. my brother still lives with us.

thank you guys for the answers so far! It's helping! :P thanks again.

Answer 1

You probably don't hate your parents or at least you shouldn't. They must love you if they are letting you live with them, so try to appreciate what they do for you. I know by experience parents can be frustrating, especially when they treat you like a kid, but the health problems should remind you that your relationship is too precious to waste time "hating" them. I know, because my dad had a kidney transplant and actually died briefly before he was able to get that kidney. He's on 45 pills a day to stay alive and deal with the side effects of the meds that keep him alive.

You might want to see a counselor again. If you didn't like the one you saw, a different one might be better.

Try your church for friends since you sound like you are religious. Many of them have singles and college groups that get together weekly. Also, work can be a good place. Just be friendly and show interest in people and you'll likely make some friends. I've made friends at the library and through hanging out with my cousin. I'm now closer to his friends than he is, and they are great people.

Your situation sounds a bit like mine was. I was in some college classes, depressed, had bad self-esteem, didn't get along with my dad (he was constantly angry at me and didn't trust me to make wise decisions, so he set a lot of strict and unreasonable rules), couldn't afford to move out, none of my friends wanted to move out of their parents' houses.... I went to a conference center in another state to work for one summer, that gave me experience and confidence to live on my own (room and board was included). I also moved to my mom's later to get away from the overprotective atmosphere of my dad's house. I got a job and worked hard. I found a cheap place with a roommate eventually. I struggled a lot, but tried to pay for a much as I could on my own. I only borrowed if it was really necessary. My dad was willing to help me with money, but was proud of my determination to fend for myself as much as possible. When I moved away from him and showed him I was an adult, our relationship improved. I won't say it was easy, but having good roommates and getting raises at work helped things get easier. Taking care of myself made me more confident and happier.

Try to save as much money as you can. Stay with your parents or find a place to live that doesn't cost too much, take public transportation instead of driving, avoid using credit cards to pay for things unless you can pay it all off within the grace period, pay bills on time to avoid late fees, limit spending on entertainment and dining out, and cut out any other expenses you can. Try to work full-time when you are not in school or get two jobs. You may even need to work part-time while you're at school. Good luck.

Answer 2

If she wasn't like this earlier than, she is going by way of a intellectual breakdown over the divorce and your dad's using. This isn't your fault and you have got the correct to inform her point clean, "If you aren't getting help for something is occurring with you, i am leaving." can you stay quickly with grandparents, aunts and uncles, that type of factor? Is there any individual like that you may confide to? If she was now not like this to you all your lifestyles however most effective after the giant problems with your mothers and fathers began then you definately will have to give her the improvement of the doubt that she needs emotional help after the divorce and things will get better. But you do not need to keep there and take it. Speak to your tuition counselor if which you could or a different relied on adult and see if which you can make a plan to get out quickly so she will get remedy and support and get it together.

Answer 3

‘Hate’ is a very powerful and dangerous emotion!

You use the user name of ThankyouJesus… What are you thanking him for? He didn’t teach you how to ‘hate’… He taught you how to ‘love’!

I don’t know how old you are, but I’d suggest you would not have reached that age if it wasn’t for your parents! I’m not suggesting that you owe them anything, but I think they deserve a bit more than your hate… don’t you?

You have mentioned that you don’t have ‘friends’… Do you blame your parents for that? Do they go to college and tell everyone to stay away from you? I don’t suppose you have considered the possibility that ‘your personality’ may be the reason why you don’t have friends?

From what you have written, it doesn’t appear your parents are in good health. I suspect that with a bit more support from you, they perhaps wouldn’t be so sick!

You mentioned you were ‘suicidal’ at the beginning of the year… Was that your parents’ fault? Did you want to end your life, so that their life would be miserable? Had you killed yourself, your parents would have been totally devastated… how does that make you feel?

I’m sorry if you wrote your question in the hope of gaining sympathy, because from me, you are not going to get any!!! All I can do is suggest that a return visit to your counsellor may be in order, and that you should perhaps be concentrating more on your education… Learn as much as you can, so that you get good end of year results, which will enable you to get a well paid job when you finally leave college.

In the meantime, try to be a bit more appreciative of what your parents have tried to do for you throughout your life. You have made it to college… Would you have done that if you didn’t have your parents???

There is nothing wrong with thanking Jesus… How about you thank him for giving you your parents!!!

Answer 4

Go back to a therapist and find ways to cope with your situation. Get a job and save up enough money to move out. Could you move into a dorm?

Answer 5

i finally moved out by getting a job and two roommates. u should try to figure out why u hate your parents. and try making some friends at school. study groups are easy enough

Answer 6

When I start thinking of everything I hate about my parents I find that if I pray for them God helps me to have compassion for them and love them and not hate them. It's just that we don't like certain thaings about our parents not that we hate them in general. There is a thin line between love and hate. God will help you with them if you ask Him for help. Pray for them. Also, my brother told me, and this I think is good advise: Let mom and dad be right. Even if you know you're right, let them be right. You've got your whole future ahead of you and if you let them be right God will honor you. God loves peacemakers and he will reward you for making peace and for praying for your parents.
God bless you =)

Answer 7

Overfamiliarity breeds contempt so please get a part time job move out with a friend or get your own place for a while(since its their house they wont move)then just see how good youll feel and youll even change the way you feel about your parents trust me

Answer 8

I hate my parents aswell they wreck my head like my dad thumped me into my back and gets away with it also he told me to shut up I think he should see a doctor

Answer 9

What are you talking about. How old are you again. Baby proof read your sentence and answer your question about why you are still at home.

Answer 10

Keeping sober.